Emergency - Please Help

[The Gentleman Scamp]

So are there ANY happy western-filipina marraiges?

And it is part of their culture for the guy to offer financial support which is why some of the family think she should ditch me for somebody with better prospects.

Anyway, I'm in the mall now - please see my thread in the visa section regarding what to do on my rtn flight to Manila when Phills immigration ask where my onward ticket is, need to know a cheap way around this cheers.

[Whitey]

So are there ANY happy western-filipina marraiges?

And it is part of their culture for the guy to offer financial support which is why some of the family think she should ditch me for somebody with better prospects.

I''ve married two filipinas. The first one was a disaster and the second one is awesome. I've seen the good, bad and ugly and everything in between.

I guess you missed the first sentence. I am very happily married with a Filipina now. I put her in check from the get go and let it be known that control was not going to rest with any woman. Things are pretty good, been with my current wife for more than 4 years.

I met her while teaching here in Thailand. Her family never entered the equation until after we had a baby and they knew that I ran the show. We send money to her family, but we only send to her widow mother and just to pay her power and water bills. The other 8 kids can take care of the other expenses of her mother. And it's all done by choice, for the first two years, we sent nothing at all.


It's not part of the culture for the guy to offer financial support, they just want you to believe that its the case. In a typical Filipino family, the man will support his parents, brothers and sisters, not the family of his wife. Heck, sometimes he doesn't even support his own wife and kids, that's the wife's job.

Her financial prospects are better with you than with a typical local boy so she is holding on. No guarantees finding someone better off. My ex went with me knowing that I didn't have a lot, but she said she was ok with that. After a year, she realized that I really didn't have a lot and didn't have that much ambition to give her a lot more. So keep that in mind.

Stick to your guns, don't marry. See how long she'll stick around with you when you ain't got much and you tell her to kick her family to the curb.