she has seriously become 'a right old crock' as she would say. God love her and the pain she is in. And the constant degeneration of her arthritis, & all the other bits & pieces & side effects from the tablets etc. She's had no relaxation / retirement time really, as got that PMR as soon as she got this house. I know the steroids kept it at bay for her for the few years, but she paid a terrible price with bone loss, osteoarthritis & the back fractures. The latest is that the osteoarthritis has compressed the bones on one side of her neck, trapping or flaring up a nerve, so she has constant pain in her inner ear & down her neck now as well. Nothing can be done for it, except heat packs & painkillers. Its not going to improve. And on the other side, she has a badly torn rotator cuff, that has really limited her arm movement. She's great & dedicated to the daily physio, and her Dr is great, a really nice man, but its all too far gone to do much besides painkillers.
She was flying it for a few weeks after the hip replacement, until the neck thing really hit. The new hip is the best part of her, she says.
I was with her Wednesday & we had a nice lunch out. And afterwards had a chat, which she started, along the lines of 'I don't know how many more years I've left". She was just talking openly about whether she'd be able to stay in her apartment if she ended up in a wheelchair, though she would be able to with some adjustments. She said she's been keeping an eye out on care homes, but to be honest, I don't think she could stomach them. I had already offered for us to change the ground floor to make her a bedroom & ensuite, or to build on a granny pod out the back, cos that gets the sun. She thought about it, but said her apartment feels like her home. So who knows how all that is going to land. Speaking plainly, things aren't getting any better for her, only worse, and I worry about her quality of life. If she is still with us in 6 years, she will be in bad shape I'd say. Though I accompanied her through a series of ICPOP (geriatric) clinic appointments & tests, and her MRIs & heart were fine, except for the blocked cervical? artery in her neck.
I'm not in touch with dad, so I don't know how he is or his home set-up.