Thread: Ultimatum

I can keep it as culturally relative as the next guy but I've been putting up with too much bullshit to take it one more time.

What am I talking about? No, it's not the liars, nor the deceivers, or the mind numbingly short-term views of the Thai people, but the jealousy.

I have a Thai girlfriend and for our entire relationship she has accused me of cheating. I have NOT. She spies on me using facebook, which is a real piece of shit thing to do, and questions me over every female friend I mention.

She even called me gay once for spending time with friends.

Two nights ago she called me up to ask me about a girl who wrote me a message on facebook. I was in bed and not pleased to be woken up to this. I told her I would call her tomorrow and I did.

I told her straight up, if she ever EVER accuses of me of cheating on her again I will end our relationship permanently.

Of course the Thai tears came out and she complained how she wasn't feeling good and had a fever, but fuck that!

One more time, and I'm a swinging single again...

I'll keep you all updated.

i give her 72 hours.

its like expcting a dog not to bark because you explained that its rude.

One more time is one too many.

Sorry WW, but I don't understand.

You say her behaviour has been like this since the beginning.

Assuming your relationship grew over that time (i.e. she and you didn't become an old couple on the first meeting), what exactly has kept you two together?

And is it worth it?

And is it easily replaced?


Wild sex? Intellectual conversations? Cooking like Mom used to make? Her wealth?

If it is the first, Jeebus man! You are in Thailand!!!

If it is the second, are you stuck in Thailand for the rest of your life???

If it is the third, learn to cook; ask Mom, Aunties, Sisters for recipes!

If it is the fourth, send me her phone number and a picture (picture optional)...please!



Sorry, I don't understand your predicament. But good luck!


You aren't a procrastinating layabout idle drunk too lazy to find another gf in Thailand, are you?

...and the reality is that she is more than likely the one chatting up other guys online.

Originally Posted by Whose Wandering

I have a Thai girlfriend and for our entire relationship she has accused me of cheating. I have NOT

Thats the spirit mate, keep denying until you get caught with your dick in something...

Have a relationship with a more mature person.

Originally Posted by Dalton

Thats the spirit mate, keep denying until you get caught with your dick in something...

And then STILL deny it.

If dumping her is more than you can handle (which it seems to be), do the following:

1. Practise crying; you might not get to her level, but make sure it is a good, tearful cry [Think of a dear departed pet or grandparent]. Fecking hell, prepare a hankie with some onion juice rubbed in, and keep in your pocket for the next planned meeting.

2. The next time she accuses you of cheating, turn on your own waterworks; lament loudly how could she think such a thing; doesn't she know how much she means to you; blah blah blah


Either she will change her attitude after (hopefully not many such episodes as) this, OR she will think you too unmanly to be with, and dump you with much scorn BUT without any risk of physical violance directed at you (very very important!!!)



If the above doesnt work, Plan B:

Remember, she has already accused you of being gay! Why not capitalize on this to ensure she dumps you?!? There are probably some TD members who will gladly share their gay porn with you by email; make sure she is around when you view the pics; if you can manage an erection, better yet; being caught mid-wank to gay porn would seal the deal.




Please note, since you seem to be unable to pull the trigger so to speak on the relationship, the above suggestions are intended to get her to dump you in a non-violent way.



And I am suspecting more and more that this is a troll thread, irrespective of Thai womens' penchant for hyperjealous drama.

Originally Posted by Whose Wandering

I have a Thai girlfriend and for our entire relationship she has accused me of cheating. I have NOT. She spies on me using facebook, which is a real piece of shit thing to do, and questions me over every female friend I mention.

She even called me gay once for spending time with friends.

Two nights ago she called me up to ask me about a girl who wrote me a message on facebook. I was in bed and not pleased to be woken up to this. I told her I would call her tomorrow and I did.

I told her straight up, if she ever EVER accuses of me of cheating on her again I will end our relationship permanently.

Extreme jealousy does ruin relationships.

Constant nagging, lack of trust, even a form of paranoia.


One of my mates eventually got a divorce, and one of the primary reasons were the constant false accusations, and lack of trust.

You can't live like that.

^^
Plan A - Might as well cut off you're own balls while you're at it.

Plan B - Might as well cut off you're own balls while you're at it.

Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog

...and the reality is that she is more than likely the one chatting up other guys online.

Absolutley, my money is on the fact that she is the one who is being more devious.

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Sounds like most of you guys have danced this dance before...?

Could this really be an obsessive trait that she and most (if not all) other Thai girls have?

A terrifying thought... that the next girl could be exactly the same!

I don't think she's being unfaithful. Don't ask me why, I just think that I know.

We'll see how we do...most of the time it's lollipops, sunshine, and pad thai.

Will tell you how it goes on Valentines day. (They celebrate that crap here?!?)

^Sure....She's doing it, so she thinks by projecting her own feelings of guilt that you must be doing it too..

Stupid question, but one that has always baffled me, why the fcuk do people continue with relationships where they are obviously not happy??? Especially when you ain't married or got any kids.

Originally Posted by zipcode

Remember, she has already accused you of being gay! Why not capitalize on this to ensure she dumps you?!? There are probably some TD members who will gladly share their gay porn with you by email; make sure she is around when you view the pics; if you can manage an erection, better yet; being caught mid-wank to gay porn would seal the deal.

Classic.

Originally Posted by buriramboy

Stupid question, but one that has always baffled me, why the fcuk do people continue with relationships where they are obviously not happy??? Especially when you ain't married or got any kids.

Coz they ain't got any balls.

WW, sorry if I sound harsh or incredulous earlier.

Your last post leads me to believe that you are youngish, not unattractive, tolerant, generous, and not someone who drinks/smokes/gambles excessively; all of these are qualities that your gf feels will make you attractive to other Thai women (and she is correct!).

Given that your relationship seems to be a sexual one, your gf must be (validly) concerned that someone else could easily replace her (which someone else could!). So, she is keeping you off-balance with the lollipops as the carrot, and the tantrums as the stick.

If/when it gets to the point that you start feeling guilty/secretive when you contact friends, then it is time to pull the plug in one form or another.

It won't get better! Repeat that to yourself seven times.

Originally Posted by Whose Wandering

A terrifying thought... that the next girl could be exactly the same!

Then get a lady-boy, they should at-least understand how a man is thinking...

Fuck her off mate as shes an absolute foking munter coming out with shit like that and if thats whats in her mind let some other stupid bastard deal with it.

Be a foking man and kick her stupid arse from here to kingdom come.

Originally Posted by Whose Wandering

Will tell you how it goes on Valentines day. (They celebrate that crap here?!?)

No, they don't believe in anything as shallow as a cynical marketing ploy to double the cost of flowers, cards, short breaks, etc. Simply tell her that you are not wasting your money on any of that crap and all your problems will be solved.