Emergency - Please Help

[stroller]

Just some practical notes:

No idea how to get to Manila airport safely -

There are frequent buses from San Fernando bus terminal to Manila - Cubao, Monumento, Avenida and other places, take a taxi on arrival. Calculate 5 hrs from S. F. to the airport, or better still, go a couple of days early and relax in Manila. San Fernando isn't that dangerous, certainly not in daylight, Manila isn't either.

I am totally dependant on her family, even to eat. It's that void of westerners here.

There are lots of westernised Filippino restaurants and fast-food chains doing pizzas, burgers, pasta in town center, the level of English should be good enough to get by without a translator.

Don't be scared because the place looks like a slum and folks talk local lingo to each other.
In the evenings it's a different ball game, quite possibly unsafe if you live in a 'shanty town', you should have some feel for it after 2 weeks.

Moving with her to nearby Angeles to get away from the family is another option, that's got an expat community, and it's only about an hour away, so she (and you) could still visit her folks easily enough.

Re: marriage, yes it is their culture, and both of you will be pestered by the catholic mother until you marry, ultimatum or not, but it's not an absolute, as you can see in case of the brother.

Up to you, just get out of the dependency in some way, i.e. create distance to the family or pack your bags and move on. Jeep a close eye on the family 'mood', if you have the nerve to stay, any indications that they turn against you, - RUN!

[DrAndy]

It is all very well everyone saying "get the hell out", but if you really love her, it is difficult to lose her.

The only way for you to keep her and deal with her family is to leave and take her with you. If she won't go, that is the end. If she does, then you can sort out the family thing without so much pressure.

oh well, I am sure she is worth it!

[Agent_Smith]

I was married to a Filipina for 2 years. Beautiful and smart but extremely jealous and possesive. Other married guys I know say the same thing about their Filipina wives, cultural trait I think. You need more time with her outside of that pressure cooker atmosphere. Take Dr A's advice.

[keda]

No idea how to get to Manila airport safely - I am due to come to Thailand for June but that may have to be sooner, and I guess i'll have to get a return from here and not use the return.

Give me your number, I'll call with a family emergency, leave your clothes behind because of course you'll only be gone a few days...

[Thetyim]

^ Good idea, Keda.
Say you're his wife and you have gone into labour.

[mrsquirrel]

My final word on this.

Scamp you are a complete pratt.

You take the piss out of this girl on here. You post photos of her. You talk about her low quality blow jobs. You post photos of her looking longingly at a pregnancy test kit. You have complained about her occupation.

Now you will break her heart. I hope to fuck that you end up a sad lonely old man wondering what would have happened if you had thought things out a bit more clearly before moving into her fucking family home with her.

May your dick shrivel up and get excruciating pains any time you get an erection until the end of your days.

[mrsquirrel]

If you are living in a fucking shanty town how are you posting this you troll you?

[dirtydog]

Mrs Q I remember the picture of your missus in a t shirt with no bra on that you posted

[ChiangMai noon]

This is probably a troll with some truth to it.
I don't think scamp is in the poition he is saying he is in but he might be close.

scamp, trolling or nearly trolling or being totally honest, you are a fukking pretty entertaining though.

[ChiangMai noon]

Mrs Q I remember the picture of your missus in a t shirt with no bra on that you posted

Got a link boss?

[dirtydog]

Did I mention pert nipples? Oh, and dirty finger nails

[mrsquirrel]

Mrs Q I remember the picture of your missus in a t shirt with no bra on that you posted

It was a picture of the turtle. THe fact that she had a nip-on was another matter.

We are still together (not physically just now but the love is still there) and I have shown her the utmost respect other than the comments about her minging feet.

Scamp on the other hand is just using this girl for entertainment purposes.

Where is his IP coming from DD. Is it really the Phillipines?

[dirtydog]

Yes he is in the Phillipines

[bpou4rent]

basically they want their daughter married and off their hands. stay in another apartment with sandra and date her like you would at home. dont rush into it and if you still want to to marry her in a year or two you will know for sure youre doing the right thing.

[ChiangMai noon]

Yes he is in the Phillipines

I'm gladdened but quite surprised.

[ChiangMai noon]

basically they want their daughter married and off their hands. stay in another apartment with sandra and date her like you would at home. dont rush into it and if you still want to to marry her in a year or two you will know for sure youre doing the right thing.

Who the fukk are you.
You aint no bpou that's for sure.

[dirtydog]

^^^ Damn your English has improved dramatically, I would even go to say it is on par with an Aussie or Yank, keep improving like this and in no time it could be as good as an English persons

[barbaro]

Correct me if I'm wrong here:

You meet this prostitue. (No problem.)

You become girlfriend/boyfriend/develop a relationship.

(No problem.)

But then you meet the family. (No problem. I've don this.}

But then....you stay with the family. You live with them. As a guest.

No problem.

But for how long?

They might thing correctly or incorrectly, that you are a mooch.

I am not saying you are a mooch or freeloader.

I know you said you were getting your own apartment with her on you own.

You're just visiting for a while right?

Maybe they think she will not have security with you.

Who knows what they are really thinking. Maybe you are being told everything. Maybe not.

If you go to South East Asia with your girlfriend, meet the family, then stay with them, they will think of you marrying her.

You should know this.

[Little Chuchok]

Make up some bullshit story that you want to get married,but in engerland and it takes a few months to get visa etc.Then wait it out for a while and see how it goes.....

[Thetyim]

Milky's got a point there.

She can go to HK and work, she can live with you but when you start sleeping with her in the parents house that's overstepping the line.
You are doing this is in front of the whole community.

Did you say that the parents were catholics ?
Well you are making the family look cheap it front of everyone

[William]

can someone please explain to me why this is even considered an emergency?

[Thetyim]

^ For dramatic effect

[William]

^well I guess it needed something...

[barbaro]

Milky's got a point there.

She can go to HK and work, she can live with you but when you start sleeping with her in the parents house that's overstepping the line.
You are doing this is in front of the whole community.

Did you say that the parents were catholics ?
Well you are making the family look cheap it front of everyone

I agree.

You should have never lived/stayed with the family as a "boyfriend."

You are the talk of the town!

You said there are no other Farangs anywhere near.

So, people and familiies that live 5 KM away know that this lady has met a Farang who is living/staying with the family.

Duh...you know what this means.

Come on!!

You should have never gotten into this situation!!

You should have stayed in a hotel, far away.

Or better yet, never have met the family if you're not gong to marry her.

Put you Western attitude where it belongs - not in Asia.

You are using the Western mind-set in the Eastern world.


Come on!!!!

[dirtydog]

I reckon he should marry her, hell if it turns out bad he can just do a runner anyway.