Thread: Did Your Wife Take Your Name?

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My wife when we married in the UK in 1998 has my name on all things in the UK. But in Thailand still has her Thai name on everything here and we have lived here from 2002 . And it is a Thai name not Thai/Chin.
It was something about owning land was the excuse if she changed her name here , and we are not registered here either.

Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog

It depends how stupid their Thai name is.

Explain please.

Probably will be difficult. The wifes been here a few days, can't say we've even attempted to open a new account in her name.

Most likely will open a joint account first and then let her have her own. Won't be a problem.

Originally Posted by November Rain

I'm a native of the country & can't even get a bank account due to not being able to prove my address.

Don't you pay utilities bills, phone bills or council tax

Originally Posted by Mr Brown

Don't you pay utilities bills, phone bills or council tax

No. I'm still in my Mum's & her hubbies house & pay direct to them. Does your wife?

BTW, astasinim asked about her credit rating. It was me who demoted it to bank accounts

Originally Posted by tsicar

Originally Posted by nevets

My wife when we married in the UK in 1998 has my name on all things in the UK. But in Thailand still has her Thai name on everything here and we have lived here from 2002 . And it is a Thai name not Thai/Chin.
It was something about owning land was the excuse if she changed her name here , and we are not registered here either.

absolute bullshit!
she is either fukkn stoopid or is deliberately misleading you.
either way, you would be better off dumping the bitch!

years ago there WAS some rule about thai women marrying farang not being able to own land, but this rule is no more.
ok, now there have been a bunch of posts about thais being disadvantaged taking a farang surname etc. and they are all fukkn bullshit.
NOT having your wife take your name (and would you think it normal in your own country?) CAN leave you at a serious disadvantage in thailand.

here's what happened in MY case:

got to thailand to "retire", blah blah- all the usual bullshit.
wife dragged me off to the amphur to "register the marriage"
we got married in south africa but went through the thai embassy in s.a. and got the thai marriage cert.etc,
BUT:
the fukkn cow refused to get her thai id changed to reflect my surname.

ok, so some on this forum are saying: "so 'kkin what?!!- no plomplem!"

well:
first plomplem:
when the shit hit the fan, i couldn't divorce her in thailand coz her id stated she was still a "miss", not a "mrs.", THEREFORE NOT MARRIED AND NOT DIVORCEABLE!

second plomplem:
when i had to leave thailand due to having run out of visa options (couldn't get a marriage visa and too young for retirement visa, plus the minor impediment of not being able to afford either), had i not cheated and committed fraud to get the kids a new south african passport without her permission so that i could get them out of the ountry, i would be in south africa and they (thai citizens due to birth-mother having been thai) would have had to remain behind, living in an isaan hovel, eating fukkn intestines and afterbirths and tending rice paddies, being looked after by their retarded thai grandparents instead of where they are now, getting the education and intellectual stimulus that they need to develop into successful and worthwhile members of the human race.

plomplem #3:
when the bitch croaked, the kids were cheated out of the land and house that had belonged to their mother, by the grandfather who automatically became the executor of the unmarriied (miss, remember?), daughter's estate, and he claimed it all for himself.
i had to resort to more deviousness and fraud in order to get a copy of the death certificate, because, since a person married to a "miss" is not a husband and therefore will not be given a copy of the death certificate, according to the amphur.
without the death certificate, there was no way i could fight it in the court.

long, long legal process and plenty of money to set THAT one right, i can tell you.


bottom line:

if she is good enough to marry, she should be willing to take your surname.
if she refuses to change her id doc:

DUMP THE BITCH, SHE IS NOT WORTH IT!!

thais genuinely believe that farang are stoopid and the reason for that is that farang reinforce this belief by proving themselves to be gullible and yes:
FUKKN STOOOPID!





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so your experience was an issue, doesnt mean everyone else's will mirror yours.

^^

There must be ways around it to prove you reside where you are. If you have any closed bank accounts from years gone by when you might of previously lived at your current address might help. They still should be on record.

Originally Posted by November Rain

BTW, astasinim asked about her credit rating.

To my post I was quite tounge in cheek, right now I'm sure my rating is OK; credit history might be a worry though. I would imagine if the wife can get her own account set up and wages paid in her credit rating would be positive from the start - it takes a long time to build up a history though.

A joint account would affect her rating however on any seperate accounts or credit, finance, loan applications she may independently opt for

Originally Posted by kingwilly

Originally Posted by tsicar

Originally Posted by nevets

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so your experience was an issue, doesnt mean everyone else's will mirror yours.

quite correct.
but why take chances.
....i just cited an example of some of the problems you could encounter if you let your wife run around with an id that says she is still single.
and i question her motivation for wanting it that way.

Originally Posted by Dr Andy

You do not seem to understand that having a farang name can be quite disadvantageous. You get treated differently, some people will take advantage etc etc so some Thai women do not want those repercussions

Originally Posted by English Noodles

Care to list a few of these disadvantages? I'm pretty sure there must be a few, there must be a few advantages too, I would imagine.

Anything?

Originally Posted by November Rain

I'm a native of the country & can't even get a bank account due to not being able to prove my address. Damn tax office WILL NOT to send the one letter that'll work. I've been working & paying tax & NI again, for months, but, nada.

Driving Licence? Get the phone, electric, gas or sky bills changed to your name. Pretty simple, NR.

Get the phone, electric, gas or sky bills changed to your name.

They'd probably need to see a letter sent from the Bank.

Last time I went home in 06 I had to change some personal info and fuk me it made Thai officialdom look like childsplay.

Originally Posted by Chairman Mao

They'd probably need to see a letter sent from the Bank.

Nope.

Your wives already took all your assets and you want them to take also your name ? You guys are unbelievable

Originally Posted by wefearourdespot

Your wives already took all your assets and you want them to take also your name ? You guys are unbelievable

Who are you referring to? Who's wife has taken all of their assets?

It's an impersonal generic "you". It's the way marriage works nowadays , it makes men relinquish all their assets to their wives.

Maybe they have prenuptial agreements.

Originally Posted by DrB0b

My wife changed her surname to mine. The main drawback is that no Thai can pronounce it, although she says that's an advantage.

+1

NR, when it comes to bank accounts, go to NatWest, they have some sort of starter account (or did) for people with various 'issues', it is a current account with just an ATM card, NO debit card etc. That's what i had to do when i got here 16 months ago, had a fookin nightmare trying to get a bank account. They accepted my passport plus photo driving licence.

Originally Posted by English Noodles

Maybe they have prenuptial agreements.

My opinion towards prenuptial agreements is, if she can stand me long enough to have a substantial claim, she deserved it.

Originally Posted by November Rain

Originally Posted by astasinim

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Will the Mrs have a credit rating being new to the country?

Interesting.

I'm a native of the country & can't even get a bank account due to not being able to prove my address. Damn tax office WILL NOT to send the one letter that'll work. I've been working & paying tax & NI again, for months, but, nada.

So, I'd personally love to hear how easy it is for Mrs B.

Strange. Here in Germany you can get a bank account even on a student visa.

Haha, I hope if I get married my wife doesn't take my name. I might need it.

Originally Posted by English Noodles

Originally Posted by Dr Andy

You do not seem to understand that having a farang name can be quite disadvantageous. You get treated differently, some people will take advantage etc etc so some Thai women do not want those repercussions

Originally Posted by English Noodles

Care to list a few of these disadvantages? I'm pretty sure there must be a few, there must be a few advantages too, I would imagine.

Anything?

bloody hell Noodles, I already mentioned two in the post you quote!!