Thread: Divorce advice

Originally Posted by Chittychangchang

Originally Posted by boloa

The MiL looks after her Grand-daughter and is more than happy with the regular 7k a month for them to live on.

I'd pay the MIL 7K a month not too look after my daughter.

Different strokes for different folks I guess.

Yeah, I'd rather pay to take care of the kids myself! The wife is doing a very decent job, but the MIL!!!

Whatever happens try and keep kids out of the shit.

Good luck

Question: don't know if it belongs here but as y'all seem to be acquainted with divorcing a Thai woman, maybe you have some advice about marrying a Thai women in your home country, rather than her home country? Pros and cons?

Makes very little odds where you marry, if she is with you in your home country for any length of time then your country's legal system will kick in if it goes wrong.

Ahaa. OK, second question: pros and cons of having her in your home country for any length of time?

Originally Posted by wjblaney

advice about marrying a Thai women in your home country, rather than her home country? Pros and cons?

Pro is you have the papers you need to do all the legal things related to a marriage license in your home country.

Con is you will have to have your home country marriage cert translated and registered in Thailand to do all the legal things related to a marriage license in Thailand.

Originally Posted by wjblaney

pros and cons of having her in your home country for any length of time?

Depends on her. Some love it and others hate it and can't wait to get back to Thailand. Her ability to communicate with locals is a big factor.

Originally Posted by Norton

Pro is you have the papers you need to do all the legal things related to a marriage license in your home country.

Con is you will have to have your home country marriage cert translated and registered in Thailand to do all the legal things related to a marriage license in Thailand.

If you do it vice versa, are the pros and cons the same?

Originally Posted by wjblaney

If you do it vice versa, are the pros and cons the same?

Mix nox,

Originally Posted by wjblaney

(say, she was in the Thai tourist industry), could it help her career-wise?

She would be a top contender as a Thai tourist guide.

Originally Posted by wjblaney

Originally Posted by Norton

Depends on her. Some love it and others hate it and can't wait to get back to Thailand. Her ability to communicate with locals is a big factor.

Right. I imagine most (99.9%) of western men wouldn't move back home for their wive's sake but if you truly loved her and she already had a fair to midland understanding of the husband's home language (say, she was in the Thai tourist industry), could it help her career-wise? Or is she out-classed from the get-go by the natives? Just askin'.

Thai education waste of time in the west, wife graduated as a primary school teacher here, did 4 years full time English in Australia, could have done another year and been a pre school child minder.
Her best friend a Vet, went to Australia on Oz aid program, learn English to for a dairy, milk cow agreement.
She ended up married to an Australian, now works in a factory.

Originally Posted by jamescollister

Thai education waste of time in the west, wife graduated as a primary school teacher here, did 4 years full time English in Australia, could have done another year and been a pre school child minder.
Her best friend a Vet, went to Australia on Oz aid program, learn English to for a dairy, milk cow agreement.
She ended up married to an Australian, now works in a factory.

I'm sure it's the same in Amerika. You're basically gonna end up taking care of her.

Originally Posted by Norton

She would be a top contender as a Thai tourist guide.

Although TH has yet to become a U.S. state...

Originally Posted by Aye aye

Quick update:
We're getting stuck on the alimony, the bitch is greedy... Her dad is coming to town this week, and we'll talk things over with him. He's a fair and kind bloke, I hope we'll settle things fair and square.


Advice for anyone reading: do take plenty of time.
You know things are slow here, do slow them even more, because you know of all the 'surprise' requirements popping up at the last moment. I luckily set my mind on super slow progress, and don't take anything for granted, until it's signed and done. Things have changed a few times over already, and I took it easy because i expected this to happen.

Stay calm. Calmly stop discussing as soon as shit starts flying over the table. Say that you're interrupting until it's possible to talk calmly again, and leave the place. Doing so, you keep discussions 'sane' in the sense that there is a minimal respect when talking things over. It's a necessity, otherwise blames will just get things infected and make it impossible to reach an agreement.

You can stay clam but can she? in my experience discussing things, especially money with a Thai woman is next to impossible without it erupting into an emotional tsunami within two minutes, good luck with it. Record any conversations to spike later denials.

Originally Posted by Aye aye

Her dad is coming to town this week, and we'll talk things over with him. He's a fair and kind bloke, I hope we'll settle things fair and square.

And he will be on your side??

He will not be on my side. He's still fairer than the wife who's got problems controlling her, like Dragonfly said, like most women. At least, with him we can talk without anger...

Originally Posted by wjblaney

Question: don't know if it belongs here but as y'all seem to be acquainted with divorcing a Thai woman, maybe you have some advice about marrying a Thai women in your home country, rather than her home country? Pros and cons?

married or divorced, makes no difference for an Australian where it occurred (other countries might be different)
My ex came close to starting divorce proceedings in Australia, even though she had never lived there.
Fortunately for me, in Oz, there needs to be disclosure and counseling take place before court proceedings commence.
My lawyer advised me to file for divorce in Thailand immediately as the outcome for me would surely be better there.
The main and only important clause in the Thai divorce document is that she agreed to never make any claim against any of my Oz assets.

Originally Posted by TizMe

married or divorced, makes no difference for an Australian where it occurred (other countries might be different)
My ex came close to starting divorce proceedings in Australia, even though she had never lived there.
Fortunately for me, in Oz, there needs to be disclosure and counseling take place before court proceedings commence.
My lawyer advised me to file for divorce in Thailand immediately as the outcome for me would surely be better there.
The main and only important clause in the Thai divorce document is that she agreed to never make any claim against any of my Oz assets.

Seems to me, my lifelong decision never to marry will last that long..

Women

Can't live with 'em

Can't throw 'em down the stairs

^Better to not get married in the first place. Too much fucking hassle.
Leave the kids out of it.

^ Better not to have any kids. Think of the greater good.

Run Forrest Run.

Originally Posted by wjblaney

^ Better not to have any kids. Think of the greater good.

To be frank, I think kids are great to have and being married is sacred. I respect married people who are happy and have been together awhile. Some people choose not to get married or have kids and that is also great. More and more people choose this route due to career move or what have you. What I don't understand is how some guys will marry the first Thai or other type girl who drops their pants or says I love you... and then they have to deal with the consequences of it not working out.

And getting divorced affects children long term. I also think that if some people aren't happy that divorce is an option, but too many people get married too fast and divorced just as fast. So that is my two coin on the subject.

Originally Posted by wjblaney

Ahaa. OK, second question: pros and cons of having her in your home country for any length of time?

Absolutely none unless she's at least 15 years younger and a real looker. You can make your guy-friends jealous while pissing off your married friend's spouses to boot.

It's a no-win proposition unless your physicians have instructed you to start counting your days...and she becomes your assisted living specialist.

C'mom WJ, I know you are a better thinker than that.