Major Problems with my girlfriend and in need of some advice (not a bar girl)

**cmman** · 03-10-2008, 12:25 AM

Hi there,

Ok, I met a seemingly nice half chinese half thai girl about a year and a half ago. We were friends for a month or so and then we started dating. All was good for the first 6-8 months but then she got lazy and stopped studing and started sleeping alot and seemed to have no ambition. I tried to get her to get a job but she gets 50000baht a month pocket money from daddy dearest so she turned her nose up at a 5-10k/m job.

Anyways, I got increasingly bored of her and the lack of interesting conversation. So, I sergested that we take a break. I moved to a new house and she moved into an apartment. This was approx. 3 months ago.

She has harassed me to the point of exhaustion! She has broken into my house several times and recently she found out I had seen another girl so she broke into my house whilst I was sleeping, came into my bedroom (I was alone) and attacked me with a knife. I wasnt hurt as I managed to get the knife off her. But the intent was there and I want nothing more to do with her.

I went to the police and they did absolutly nothing about it! They said that until she stabs me there is nothing they can do, she also stole my laptop but there was no witness so they again said there was nothing that they can do? This to me seems obserd! I mean I even had a picture of her chasing me with a knife down the street! I ran out infront of my neighbours house were my car was parked and ran round my car as she chased me with this HUGE kitchen knife, my neighbours workers saw this but yet when the poilce came and talked to the neighbours they simply laughed? And even after all this it took 3 visits to the police station before they entertained the idea of filing a report.

As far as she is concerned I finished with her but she hasnt finished with me so I cannot go out with anyone of do anything. She is threatening to step up a gear as she says up til now she has been a good girl but seeing as I have changed my phone number and moved she will be a bad girl now and cause me major problems.

Well, a week ago I was hammered drunk and she found me in a pub, I cannot remember what happened but I slapped her several times (so I am told) and she says she has a black eye ( I havent seen it), many people where around so she has witnesses. Anyways, she is threatening to go to the police and have me arrested for assault! Now her family are very rich and potentially infuential chinese thais so what are my options here? What could the police do? is this a custodial issue? could I be kicked out of Thailand? I really have no knowledge of the law here and I do not know where I stand.

As it is I am already planning to move to bangkok for a few months to let the dust settle as it were, but it has already been 3 months+ since I finished with her and nothing has calmed down yet so I really dont know what will change in another 3 months? I have make a life for myself in chiang mai and really was planning to spent the rest of my life there.

My questions are:

Can I be arrested for slapping her and giving her a black eye?
Can I file an injuntion and have a restraining order put on her?
Can I / should I have her arrested for breaking and entering?
What could the police do?
Is this a custodial issue?
Could I be kicked out of Thailand?

And what would others do in my situation?

Any advice would be appreciated!!

Many thanks,

CMMAN

**jandajoy** · 03-10-2008, 12:31 AM

I think you're fcked mate.

Run away, fast.

**Texpat** · 03-10-2008, 12:40 AM

Kill her.

When the police come for you, Admit nothing, Deny everything, Demand proof.

And smile.

**jandajoy** · 03-10-2008, 12:44 AM

Originally Posted by cmman

Major Problems with my girlfriend and in need of some advice (not a bar girl)

Oh OK.........

**cmman** · 03-10-2008, 12:49 AM

ok guys, sensible answers please! If you have pointless comments you may aswell keep them to yourself. I am genuinely after some solid advice.

Are there any lawyers on here that know?

Or has anyone had a similar experiance. This is not a bar girl that i can laugh at with the police, this is a Hi So bitch! Though I still cling to the hope that the law is the law, written in ink on paper. So it should therefore be the same for everyone.

Now I have been here for a long time and know the way things work, so please dont give me the old 'your stuffed mate, run away' Unless you have something to back it up with. cause those comments are generally pointless and truthless too.

Thanks again.

CMman

**dirtydog** · 03-10-2008, 12:51 AM

So far all you have had is domestic disputes, have to let her stab you a little bit first before the police will be interested.

**jizzybloke** · 03-10-2008, 12:52 AM

What's important is how much money you have?

**Lorenzo** · 03-10-2008, 12:55 AM

This sounds like one of those classic one sided thailand situations. She can do whatever she wants with impunity but you will be arrested if you do so much as muss her hair. Your best bet is to avoid her until the storm passes. Maybe get a new GF or katoy who can kick her ass for protection.

**smeden** · 03-10-2008, 12:59 AM

next time she come whith a knife be shure to get a smal cut when u take it of her(the knife) and call the police say she tryed to kill u

**Bung** · 03-10-2008, 01:01 AM

You could be in very deep shit my friend. I would be gathering up my things and get prepered to leave. fast.

Just my opinion of course but slapping her in front of witnesses......Rich parents.....A crazy woman...I actually think she could have had you locked up an hour after you hit her lucky for you she still wants to get back together with you. You wouldn't be much use to her inside.

**Texpat** · 03-10-2008, 01:08 AM

Hook up with her again. Turn the tables.

Tell her you're only into threesomes now with her and her female friends.
And she needs to shave her clam while you video it.
And you now require a maintenance fee of 10,000 baht a week.
And an I-phone and a new Camry.

**jandajoy** · 03-10-2008, 01:12 AM

It's interesting but you seem to continually contradict yourself.

Originally Posted by cmman

his is not a bar girl that i can laugh at with the police, this is a Hi So bitch! Though I still cling to the hope that the law is the law, written in ink on paper. So it should therefore be the same for everyone.

Originally Posted by cmman

Now I have been here for a long time and know the way things work, so please dont give me the old 'your stuffed mate, run away'

**Spin** · 03-10-2008, 01:41 AM

Originally Posted by cmman

ok guys, sensible answers please!

Originally Posted by cmman

she gets 50000baht a month pocket money from daddy

Give me her phone number and I'll take her off your hands.

Sounds like she just needs a man and not someone she can push around during her strops and hissy fits.

**jandajoy** · 03-10-2008, 01:44 AM

Originally Posted by cmman

Well, a week ago I was hammered drunk and she found me in a pub, I cannot remember what happened but I slapped her several times (so I am told) and she says she has a black eye ( I havent seen it), many people where around so she has witnesses.

I hate to say this but I reckon you've bought it on yourself.
Tough shit.

**MeMock** · 03-10-2008, 01:47 AM

How does she manage to break into your apartment THREE times? You leaving the door open for her?

Who took the photo of her chasing you with a knife?

My suggestion, just leave town. Simple.

**jandajoy** · 03-10-2008, 01:51 AM

^ Good points. Is this a troll?

**Bung** · 03-10-2008, 02:02 AM

Course it is.

**Thormaturge** · 03-10-2008, 02:54 AM

Move to Pattaya

Get yourself a local girl.

You will be able to "move on" and this girl will soon become a distant memory.

I look forward to your "My girlfriend keeps trying to shove me over the balcony" thread.

**jandajoy** · 03-10-2008, 02:57 AM

Hang on...... CMMAN ! this isn't Nooney is it?

**nedwalk** · 03-10-2008, 04:30 AM

na mate nooney is off the piss, if this is,nt a troll why the ferk is he still hanging around town?

**keda** · 03-10-2008, 08:27 AM

CM: If as you say you've been here long enough to know the score, you should also know that in this sort of situ you're the crazy or evil farang. No matter what the provocation, you struck her, and even if it was in defense of your life (which it wasn't) you would end up on the back foot. Her word against yours, and she speaks Thai and you don't, she has an influential family unlike you, and they're Thai so know 'how things work'...you only think you do - as an outsider with no rights but those you think you brought with you from the West.

Up until the time you struck her, let's face it as you said the bib weren't interested, but from the moment you did you became fair game and gave her justification for whatever happens next.

Oh yes and forget lawyers, they're only going to tell you about the law!

**pai nai ma** · 03-10-2008, 08:29 AM

suicide is painless.

**MeMock** · 03-10-2008, 08:34 AM

^

unless it is off floors 1 - 4

**hillbilly** · 03-10-2008, 08:46 AM

Sounds like a sticky situation.

To help you we need a few more facts. Are you in Thailand or in Laos right now?

**Travelmate** · 03-10-2008, 10:01 AM

just keep moving around and become a pain in the ass for her. Put some distance between both of you. So she has to make long journeys just to try and harass you. She will get bored of it quickly.
Alternatively post her number and whereabouts. And I am sure some of the TD's boys will try and tap her.

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