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    How do you define cheating?

    I mean cheating on your partner, not keeping a card up your sleeve or anything like that...

    If I use a condom I'm not actually coming into contact with anything down there so that isn't cheating is it?...

    If I do something with a girl in another country is that cheating?... So far away can't be classed as cheating can it?

    If I dabble with a ladyboy is that cheating?... That's just a couple of blokes having a laugh together surely?

    How do you define cheating?... Just curious like....

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    Setting up other relationships on MSN is one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog View Post
    Setting up other relationships on MSN is one.
    Virtual cheating is the least of my worries... I'm open about all that... That's just harmless chatting isn't it.

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    For a girl
    Cheating is her partner thinking about another girl

    For a man
    What does cheating mean?


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    Getting caught.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bluecat View Post
    For a girl
    Cheating is her partner thinking about another girl
    But my girl thinks about other girls.... I don't see that as cheating... In fact, I actively encourage it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins
    How do you define cheating?
    Doing something that is "cheating" as defined by your partner.

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    Indeed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Norton View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins
    How do you define cheating?
    Doing something that is "cheating" as defined by your partner.
    So I should be asking my partner all of the above questions?.... Maybe you are onto something....

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    When you ask her, it is usually too late...
    Last edited by Bluecat; 09-03-2008 at 02:01 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Bluecat View Post
    For a girl
    Cheating is her partner thinking about another girl
    But my girl thinks about other girls.... I don't see that as cheating... In fact, I actively encourage it...
    Yes, but has she agreed to let you join it yet or even watch for that matter?

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    Quote Originally Posted by buriramboy View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Bluecat View Post
    For a girl
    Cheating is her partner thinking about another girl
    But my girl thinks about other girls.... I don't see that as cheating... In fact, I actively encourage it...
    Yes, but has she agreed to let you join it yet or even watch for that matter?
    She actually claims never to have done anything and I think I believe her... I'm all for joining in if and when anything does happen but they might not want me there and I would be a dead man if the Italian husband of the other woman found out....

    They look like a good couple when they are together though..(SBF and her mate)... Obviously SBF is the 'bloke' in this relationship...

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    How do you define cheating?
    Fuckin at your partner's back is the simplest definition I can come up with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by machangezi View Post
    How do you define cheating?
    Fuckin at your partner's back is the simplest definition I can come up with.
    I wouldn't do it as close up as that... that would be asking for trouble...

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    Cheating is always defined by the other partner (as said before). I know women that would think that kissing another woman (tongues) was cheating. Thinking about it, I think I do, too. I don't know a single woman who wouldn't regard every single thing you mentioned in your OP as cheating, though, Rawlins. Sorry. Sex with someone else without your partner's prior knowledge & consent (with or without condom, wherever it is performed) is cheating.

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    It's only cheating if the missus finds out about it. My missus said as long as I don't tell her, then she's none the wiser.

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    Quote Originally Posted by November Rain View Post
    I don't know a single woman who wouldn't regard every single thing you mentioned in your OP as cheating, though, Rawlins.
    That confirms my fears then...

    I'm not saying I have done all of the above of course.... Just a few hypothetical situations that I needed some clarification on...

    OK... Do you think that Thai women accept that their partner might stray at some point in the relationship?... After all, most Thai men don't stay faithful do they?...

    Sometimes, to me, the Thai population seem to exist in one big open relationship and it is all accepted to a degree.... Mia nois, giks, many girlfriends.... It seems that the 'Mia Looang' is the loved one and is the chosen one to provide a family and be a good Mum...

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins
    OK... Do you think that Thai women accept that their partner might stray at some point in the relationship?... After all, most Thai men don't stay faithful do they?... Sometimes, to me, the Thai population seem to exist in one big open relationship and it is all accepted to a degree.... Mia nois, giks, many girlfriends.... It seems that the 'Mia Looang' is the loved one and is the chosen one to provide a family and be a good Mum...
    You could be right, there. I don't know how Thai women feel, but this (what you've written) is something I've heard. I do think that no woman, regardless of culture, would like it to be flaunted in their faces that their partner was going with others. But whether it would be acceptable, as long as they were taken care of & the partner was discreet? I can see how that might be OK with some women.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins
    Do you think that Thai women accept that their partner might stray at some point in the relationship?... After all, most Thai men don't stay faithful do they?
    From my observation, Thai women are no more inclined to think their partners might stray than are women of other nationalities. As NR states, many women look the other way if their husbands keep things discrete.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ivor Biggun View Post
    It's only cheating if the missus finds out about it. My missus said as long as I don't tell her, then she's none the wiser.
    That's the kind of thing I'm getting at... Obviously keep it discreet and keep going home to the missus... And I'm not talking about another 'relationship'... Just the odd casual shag here and there...

    But... If your missus knew about it would she think to do the same to even it out?... I wouldn't be too happy about that (unless it was with another woman...)...

    It's a funny old game...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Norton View Post
    From my observation, Thai women are no more inclined to think their partners might stray than are women of other nationalities.
    But I think that 'cheating' on your partner is more common in Thailand than it is in the West from what I have seen.... Maybe that's because I live in Pattaya though...

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    Thai woman are just the same as any women in the rest of the world as far as cheating is concerned.
    Just more practical...

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    Men in Thailand want the best of both worlds I think.... The men are allowed to stray discreetly and sthe woman doesn't have to know about it.... The woman however, is not allowed to stray...

    (But in my case I could make an exception if she strayed with another woman...)

    Maybe not the best formula for a long healthy relationship but it's practical and realistic for Thailand...

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    My favorite saying from John Wayne.

    "Are you going to believe what you see or what I am going to tell you?"

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    My favorite quote is from Bill Clinton:

    I did not have sex with that girl.

    Blowjobs are not sex as defined by a President of the United States of America. I figure thats good enough for me.

    Sadly, my wife doesn't hold the same opinion, but she's a Filipino...she doesn't understand how much I value the words of an American President.
    "I was a good student. I comprehend very well, OK, better than I think almost anybody," - President Trump comparing his legal knowledge to a Federal judge.

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