
Originally Posted by
crackerjack101
Crikey, it seems there're unlimited possibilities here.
For us it was pretty easy. Simple almost.
We met up and started to live together for a year or 2 then decided to move up north because Ban Chang was becoming an extension of the walking streets of Pattaya.
Rented a place for a couple of years then eventually found a place to buy.
40 minutes from her Mums village and reasonably pleasant.
Bought it.
We'd got married, as per the system, paper work, bureaucracy, Bangkok a year or 2 before.
From the word go it was clear that it was she and me. I had no intention of supporting her family and I didn't expect her to support mine. She was cool with this.
Over the last 10 years it's been about doing stuff together. She's totally with that.
In, fuc i can't remember, 2014 or 5 we had the the house blessing/village wedding and it was great. we did it together cos I reckoned the less spent on monks the better.
Anyway, folk came from all over, it was a great party spread over a couple of days and, believe it or not we made a profit.
The thing is, in our village, everybody gives an envelope of cash to everybody getting married. Same same for funerals.
So, you arrange to get married, order up the food grog dancers music etc and off you go.
Post celebration she sits down and counts up the the envelopes.
FMD it covered just about everything. And I reckon there was a bit left over.
FYI she's 10 years younger than me and there has never been any suggestion of Sin Sod from any one.
Her family, who are great keep away, but we/she visit regularly.
It's 40 minutes by car which we can do but they seem to think is is a bit arduous.
All good.
She has 2 grown kids whom I am most attached to and they have never asked for anything. We help them when it's appropriate or when we feel like spoiling the 2 grand kids.
So, everyone has a different story but my point is it has to come down to the individuals concerned.
when I first came to LOS, many years ago I met many women who were keen to get involved but the IMO there are no rules other than those that you create between the 2 of you.
Then off you go.
For what it's worth, and because it makes me smile this was the wedding and house blessing.
No, there was no SIS SOD.
Carry on..........