BLD, I would echo Ootai's words.
We've had PMs about this and you know how I feel, but from my experience the last people I would trust for help if this happened to us, would be the wife's family. I make no judgements but this would be my opinion if this happened to my wife.
I worry for you but really have no advice... other than don't rush into anything. And keep her close, don't let her go to Laos alone. You are her hope.
Good luck mate.