Thread: Thai women and voodoo.....

So true. You can get (slightly) away from the irrational whereas the poor woman is chained to it 24/7 at the moment.
It’s hard for rational caring blokes to just chill and accept the silliness and rudeness because it’s not the woman’s fault even though they’re hurting people.
They’re hurting more. And that’s painful to watch.

Have a few beers and try not to dwell on it.
Watch a movie for a couple of hours, give your nerves a break.

^ very good suggestion

Originally Posted by Joe 90

Have a few beers and try not to dwell on it.
Watch a movie for a couple of hours, give your nerves a break.

Its a hell of a lot deeper than that Joe, especially with the kids involved at the age they are at now. I personally have trouble imagining what he is and has been going through for a long while now.

Originally Posted by aging one

Its a hell of a lot deeper than that Joe, especially with the kids involved at the age they are at now. I personally have trouble imagining what he is and has been going through for a long while now.

I agree, just suggesting a break from it all for a couple of hours.

Cycling helped me switch off from the madness of my ex who steadily got worst over several years .

Everyone has different coping mechanisms in times of turmoil.

Originally Posted by docmartin

Considering the demand on, and the resources of the local mental health care ‘service’ if you’ve luckily got a doctor and that doctor is the best one then you’re winning bigtime BLD.
And you’re doing a great job that’s attracted that good fortune.
Plus going to work and keeping all that together is the sign of a hard man.

Nevertheless you are likely and rightly going to tear at the curtains of shock and horror while screaming ‘why me ? - I’ve always tried to do good’. And curling up on the floor occasionally can be grounding and comforting.
(never got to the blubbering thumb-sucking stage meself but hey if it does the job then bring it on)
Drunk / othered is a completely rational response and treatment for what ails ya, and is perfectly acceptable as long as you don’t overdo it and certainly keep it away from the kids as much as possible of course.

The old hands who’ve gone through their own sagas and come out the other side to live on are all wishing good power to you.

Thanks. That makes sense. Yes im still. Drinking a beer its kinda soothing at the momet.

But i know my limits. Stop now.

Hang in there mate. Has your ‘buddy’ asked about the flights tickets again or has he fucked off for good now?

Not a peep out of that asshole and his wife. But his wifes friend sent a text asking about her. There also going to new zealand so it was really just fishing for info to see if there travel plans were affected. Hard to believe she thought these cold heartless kunts were her friends. She discretely asked if a trip to Lao in december would help. Im hoping it will , we are still booked for the 20th december but if she is still erratic then i doubt we will go.

I keep thinking i should apply for a tourist visa for her mum to come down for a while incase this takes months , but the tourist visa will likely take months to issue due to a backlog from covid , still waiting for a passport for my youngest son that was applied for in june, same thing, covid backlog. For 2.5 years not allowed to leave the country now we can cant get a fucking document to leave.

^ That’s a great idea.

You’re doing a great job of this, BLD. Just keep on doing what you are doing and this will all be in the rear view mirror.

You know what. Im going to take joes advice ( not his cooking advice) im staying in bed today and watching a movie or 2.its pissing down rain outside anyway.

Originally Posted by BLD

You know what. Im going to take joes advice ( not his cooking advice)

Originally Posted by BLD

I keep thinking i should apply for a tourist visa for her mum to come down for a while incase this takes months , but the tourist visa will likely take months to issue due to a backlog from covid , still waiting for a passport for my youngest son that was applied for in june, same thing, covid backlog. For 2.5 years not allowed to leave the country now we can cant get a fucking document to leave.

Apply anyway, even if it does take that long. If it’s still going you’ll be glad you did.

Just messaged her to see if she can? And if so send a pic of her passport so i can get the ball rolling

Give the immigration dept a call, they may be able to push it through due to the circumstances, or have some special visa for such a situation.

Shy loons get nowt, and all that.

Done that they were of no use. Go online they said massive backlog since covid

^ You could try to plea your case with your government representative. I don’t know which office that would be, but someone who works in Canberra where they have sway over immigration. It works sometimes in the US.

This a strategy -
Call up the phone number and put up with the wait.
Get an operator and get nowhere.
Next line - ‘May I speak to your supervisor please ?’
Get nowhere.
Next line - ‘I could always contact my local (federal) member (‘with whom I am in good terms’ is useful here) and ask him/her/other to ask your minister to ask your department head about this matter. Eventually someone may ask you some questions, so to avoid all this drama can we expedite this matter now please ? Could you connect me with someone who can make this problem go away perhaps ? Or can you move this forward in some other way please ?’.

Originally Posted by docmartin

This a strategy -
Call up the phone number and put up with the wait.
Get an operator and get nowhere.
Next line - ‘May I speak to your supervisor please ?’
Get nowhere.
Next line - ‘I could always contact my local (federal) member (‘with whom I am in good terms’ is useful here) and ask him/her/other to ask your minister to ask your department head about this matter. Eventually someone may ask you some questions, so to avoid all this drama can we expedite this matter now please ? Could you connect me with someone who can make this problem go away perhaps ? Or can you move this forward in some other way please ?’.

Were booked to go to lao on 20th december but if things are still weird we wont be going . Ive set the wheels in motion phanns a bit older so auntie keo is helping her with the document side of things i really think her mums visa will take months from what i can gather but fuk it we will give it a whirl. Today i googled visa document requirements and gleaned that she should provide bank statements from last 3 months. Turns our she doesnt have a bank account but will set one up on wednesday. Banks closed tomorrow. Buddha holiday. Then i need to forward her $5000 so she can show she has funds. Book her a ticket if and after visa granted.

Im at my wits end but today i feel we have turned a corner. If she can come home for saturday night that will be the tester shes still quite quirky .before everthing had to be pink color pyjamas comb etc now everything has to be blue. So. Shes still not right . But at least becoming reasonable.

Good to hear