It's apparent that there are big differences in the perception of Thai people, depending on where you come from, where you live now, and the experiences you have had elsewhere in the country.
Even Bangkok can be divided, based on expat perceptions and the contributions they make to the local community.
Don't think there is a common denominator from either point of view, other than to say that Thai society has developed differently to the places most of us come from.
people will find that refreshing, or annoying, or a combination of both.