Good troll OP and well followed through.
Good troll OP and well followed through.
No matter how much research you do, and how much good advice you get, it is still possible to fall for the thai ladies well rehearsed charms. The ladies expectations, and means of acheiving them are a world apart from what we know in the west.
Many are cunning and devious, but an equal number are genuinely lovely people, even some of the bar girl fraternity.
I have known bar girls who have chosen to help a bloke out wehn it would have been easier to fleece him.
I have known so called good girls take a bloke to the cleaners.
When you first arrive and it's all new and in your face, sometimes it can be hard to see the jai dee for the jai dam.
i suppose the best thing to advise anyone is take care and don't jump too quickly..
Most men who come here have left at least one relationship behind them in the west, so they are on guard so to speak. It's easy to come unstuck but it is possible to find a good un.
Good luck bedtime.
Heart of Gold and a Knob of butter.
Thanks Happyman, sounds like you have managed to strike a nice balance between having company and doing your own thing when you want to. I thought that I was sufficiently wary enough to spot a scamster but obviously not, probably waited after I'd been home a week or 2 and had decided to try it out on someone else. Oh well, mai pen lai, at least it didn't cost me too much, couple of hundred quid over the month in actual cash I suppose and then all the little add ons. Thanks for your input.
Could someone explain the giving of reds and Greens please, I have checked FAQ's and used the search facility but am still clueless as to what they are or mean, thanks
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See the post above yours.
Click on the little scales at the bottom left, select I disapprove and add a short message.
That will send the poster a red. Red is the colour of love, and says "I loved your post".
Rapidly approaching the 'threescore years and ten' and being a fat old bastard as well I am quite content to go fishing - do a bit of contract work- get gently pissed and stumble home to my herd of bloody cats !Originally Posted by bedtime
I must say though - it is very age related and if it works out OK then go for it.
I got involved in the late 80's ( when I was a bit more active and several stone lighter ) with a lovely Chinese lady and were together for 14 years ! (Parted amicably so no problem )
But now - Nah !
The ladies referred to in my post range from early 20's to mid 40's and are the bonus !!
Where in SE uk are you ?
Just go for the moment and thats it !
Thank you for this comment happyman. i am not far behind you and this is exactly the kind of inspiration i needed.Originally Posted by Happyman
Thai women are realy screwed up; my wife got me involved with several who had husband problem's, most seem to expect a home in Thailand with a new car parked on the drive and if they don't get that the trouble start's! Be warned-They see us as a never ending source of cash for their family and never switch allegence!!
Keep roving along!
Although painfully true it is for 99% factual. Definitely read and understand the book "inside Thai society" it equates with 10 years experience living here and only if your eyes are open, some never understand they just vegetate and walk in circles. It is rare and seldom to find otherwise and basically, speaking Thai is a must if you live here. Not the "you me go bungalow" sh*t but proper Thai. The better you speak the better you understand what's going around here. And that is besides the whole falling in love concept which makes one ta bot (blind) as the Thai expression goes. My father, and carrier Navy man told me at a very young age the truth "If your dick stands up, your brain goes to your balls" how true he was. If I would have all the money I spent on women in my pocket I could buy a 500 SEC or two.....
I subscribe to the below part of the book "The road less traveled".
Falling in love is not an extension of one’s limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them. The extension of one’s limits requires effort; falling in love is effortless. Lazy and undisciplined individuals are as likely to fall in love as energetic and dedicated ones. Once the precious moment of falling in love has passed and the boundaries have snapped back into place, the individual may be disillusioned, but is usually none the larger for the experience. When limits are extended or stretched, however, they tend to stay stretched. Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience. Falling in love is not.
Falling in love has little to do with purposively nurturing one’s spiritual development. If we have any purpose in mind when we fall in love it is to terminate our own loneliness and perhaps insure this result through marriage. Certainly, we are not thinking of spiritual development. Indeed, after we have fallen in love and before we have fallen out of love again we feel we have arrived, that the heights have been attained, that there is both no need and no possibility of going higher. We do not feel ourselves to be in any need of development; we are totally content to be where we are. Our spirit is at peace. Nor so we perceive our beloved as being in need of spiritual development. To the contrary, we perceive him or her as perfect, as having been perfected. If we see any faults in our beloved, we perceive them as insignificant – little quirks or darling eccentricities that only add color and charm.
If falling on love is not love, then what is it other than a temporary and collapse of ego boundaries? I do not know. But the sexual specificity of the phenomenon leads me to suspect that it is a genetically determined instinctual component of mating behavior. In other words, the temporary collapse of ego boundaries that constitutes falling in love is a stereotypic response of human beings to a configuration of internal sexual drives and external sexual stimuli, which serves to increase the probability of sexual pairing and bonding so as to enhance the survival of the species. Or to put in another, rather crass way, falling on love is a trick that our genes pull on our otherwise perceptive mind to hoodwink or trap us into marriage. Frequently the trick goes awry one way or another, as when the sexual drives and stimuli are homosexual or when other forces – parental interference, mental illness, conflicting responsibilities or mature self-discipline – supervene to prevent the bonding. On the other hand, without this trick, this illusory and inevitably temporary (it would not be practical were it not temporary) regression to infantile merging and omnipotence, many of us who are happily or unhappily married today would have retreated in wholehearted terror from the realism of the marriage vows.
Amen.... you have been warned so now it's "up to you" (also a very important Thai expression).
" Beat Me With The Truth, Don't Torture Me With Lies! "
Other than the fact that I can fall in love 3 times a night in Thailand, which does not bode well for thai women after a long term "quick buck" so to speak.
Thai women are very protective of their investment of their vaginas when it comes to farang boyfriends although they are fucking great at killing the golden goose by over demanding money.
It would seem to me that alot of Thai women will marry the next Thai guy that can pay for the next fucking round of drinks though.
Falling asleep and waking up is not the same as passing out and coming to.
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