Thread: Divorce advice

Originally Posted by nevergiveup

To be frank, I think kids are great to have and being married is sacred. I respect married people who are happy and have been together awhile. Some people choose not to get married or have kids and that is also great. More and more people choose this route due to career move or what have you. What I don't understand is how some guys will marry the first Thai or other type girl who drops their pants or says I love you... and then they have to deal with the consequences of it not working out.

And getting divorced affects children long term. I also think that if some people aren't happy that divorce is an option, but too many people get married too fast and divorced just as fast. So that is my two coin on the subject.

Very sensible two bits, actually.

Originally Posted by boloa

Originally Posted by nevergiveup

And getting divorced affects children long term.

Only if the people getting a Divorce act like Children.When my Ex and I got a Divorce the priority was the Children. Both me and my Ex went on to have happy relationships with new partners and if anything our children benefited from growing up seeing their Parents enjoying their life instead of being unhappy and staying together for the sake of the Children like some seem to do!

+1 on Boloa.

So far it's working this way, and I hope we can sign the deal and start new lives along these lines.

Children who stay in unhappy couples are hurt more.

Originally Posted by boloa

Originally Posted by nevergiveup

And getting divorced affects children long term.

Only if the people getting a Divorce act like Children.When my Ex and I got a Divorce the priority was the Children. Both me and my Ex went on to have happy relationships with new partners and if anything our children benefited from growing up seeing their Parents enjoying their life instead of being unhappy and staying together for the sake of the Children like some seem to do!

Yes I agree with you. It affects you either way though, in my experience coming from a broken home and a child of divorce myself. Children are still sensitive and often have a missing father/mother/siblings. Anyhow, I don't think parents should stay together for the sake of the children which some do. Often that is not what is best. I was just staying earlier that sometimes people get married and divorced too fast.

Originally Posted by Aye aye

Originally Posted by boloa

Originally Posted by nevergiveup

And getting divorced affects children long term.

Only if the people getting a Divorce act like Children.When my Ex and I got a Divorce the priority was the Children. Both me and my Ex went on to have happy relationships with new partners and if anything our children benefited from growing up seeing their Parents enjoying their life instead of being unhappy and staying together for the sake of the Children like some seem to do!

+1 on Boloa.

So far it's working this way, and I hope we can sign the deal and start new lives along these lines.

Children who stay in unhappy couples are hurt more.

Best of luck !

Originally Posted by nevergiveup

Yes I agree with you. It affects you either way though, in my experience coming from a broken home and a child of divorce myself. Children are still sensitive and often have a missing father/mother/siblings. Anyhow, I don't think parents should stay together for the sake of the children which some do. Often that is not what is best. I was just staying earlier that sometimes people get married and divorced too fast.

I hear you. The kids are very young, and I wish it wouldn't have to be this way. They will miss me, at least as much as I will miss them. Just the idea of it is like being hit in the stomach.

I personally come from a family where my dad stayed for the sake of us, his kids. It's been worse than hell at home for so long.


Either way, I don't think there is a right answer. I just know that the decision was made to my best possible thinking. Now the page is turning, it's time to look forward, not backwards.