Originally Posted by
ota
Hi, I've been married to a Thai lady for 8 years. We have two sons ages 2 and 5. For now we are settled on beautiful rural Adirondack property near Saratoga Springs. I wonder about a few things. How much does it cost to live a very comfortable life in Thailand? I've built 7 homes for myself over the years and the house we are in now was a year long nightmare. Building in Thailand seems to push the envelope on patience from what I have read but I am getting ahead of myself.
My next question is how do I live there and keep my mother in law away. I'm serious. There seems to be no limit to the guilt and emotional drain she can put into my wife. No matter what $ she receives is gone in a few days if it's $50 or $5000.It is our # 1 concern. Another concern is to find the coolest weather if that is not an oxymoron. It's for my sons health.
My wife tells me she worries that I will naively get involved with people who will get me into trouble because it seems I will never speak the language without making a fool out of myself.
Do many guys live in the USA half of the time and Thailand the other half with their families? My wife tell me the education of my kids will be bad and suffer.
By the way I can't believe how many Thai people live around here and Albany. There seems to be an endless amount of Thais here should one be inclined to befriend them.
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1. What sort of time scale are you looking at. Like some of the guys you should take an extended holiday to check out Thailand.
2. You never really said why you want to move to Thailand. Sorting out why you aren't happy where you are might be the first step and why you want to go to thailand.
3. I thought at first your wife wanted to move back - but I think not. She's quite right the kids education will suffer, unless you get into a very expensive international school (and that probably won't compare favourably with your local schools)
4. If you were living in Bangkok alone I would think 35K baht, but with a family I think double it. I think a previous poster was right with around 75k baht - could be quite a bit more too.
5. Sorry I'm not clear how moving back to thailand is going to make you less accessible to your MIL.
6. I'm not sure building a house in Thailand is wise at the moment. There is some flux in the legal situation on this at the moment as far as I can tell. As a foreigner you can't own land in Thailand so land would have to be in your wife's name. This issue is well covered in other parts of this forum though.
7. The weather is covered elsewhere on this site. Basically the higher you go the cooler it gets hence places like Chiang Mai, Chiag Rai etc will be suggested.
8. I do spend part of the year in UK (not US) and part in Thailand/Malaysia. I try to get to thailand during the cool season Nov - Feb. However, I'm not married.
9. With regards your MIL's requests for money. Here's a tip you might try. I tried it with a Filipina friend of mine who was getting into debt here due to constant requests for money. It worked for her - no guarantees tho. Set up a completely seperate bank account and deposit a reasonable amount per month. It doesn't actually need to be a huge amount. Any requests for that money come out of that pot. The MIL can be sent the statements monthly so she can see how much is there. She has to take reposnibility for managing her budget. Most important - any requests for money - you point her at the account you don't reach into your pocket. As I said it worked a treat for my friend and her begging family back in the Phils and some of her friends have also tried it with success. Good luck!
10. There are a lot of Thais here in UK too. I never have any problems meeting them, although my tastes these days swing more to Filipinas :)
11. Your wife is right (she sounds like a very good person) people might try to take advantage of you. If you go it pays to speak the language. Yes it is a struggle though :(
Hope that helps,