Quote Originally Posted by Bobcock
But seriously.... explain what all this tosh was all about?
I'm not going to explain what all this tosh is about, just two sentences.

Quote Originally Posted by NZdick1983
I can't see why we feel sorry for our loved ones that have passed on, because sure as shit, they don't feel any pain anymore...
Sure as shit, we don't know what our loved or hated ones feel or don't feel after they have passed on. That doesn't mean they do or they don't feel pain anymore.

That's why it's a golden opportunity for you, if you can help make their last moments guiltless, content, pain free, happy, joyful and, most especially, glad to be moving on. That could be a 'WOW' moment for you.

Quote Originally Posted by NZdick1983
It's just us that are left behind who miss them and feel pain in our fragile cocoon bodies...
Right on. It's that simple.

Sad to say, there is nothing you can do about any grieving you have to go through. And, no shit, we don't all grieve for our passed on loved ones. And some grief is easier to get over than others: no harm, no foul. You may never even experience the kind of grief I'm going to talk about, no matter how many of your loved ones pass on in your life time.

In my case, it was my mother in her mid 80's when she passed away, myself age 45, that's been the only case of extreme grief I've ever had (I'm now 65). There were several weeks where, sitting on the couch, watching TV or reading, where I'd break down uncontrollably. But I'm a pretty sensitive guy. I mean, I swear, these Asian movies on Red, with English sub-titles? Sometimes, it's like reading TV, so I watch the film and neglect the plot. I've remember one movie, in particular one scene, that brought me to tears. And those were tears of grief but tears for a fictional character and my rational mind is all it takes to get over that kind of grief.

But the grief over the death of a real person is different. I think it's the realization that that real person would not be part of your life anymore that is the most common reason for our grief.

So your rational mind can not cope with this serious grief at all at first. But, thankfully, your mind has another power: the power of forgetfulness. I can now think of my mom and just remember her but especially remember how much love I felt for her because of the grieving I went through. I think that's the purpose of it. How easily we forget about people, eh? It's that simple.