4.5 months of marriage. Three visits to Thailand and two vacation trips. He's on the road most of the time working abroad. And her mates advise her to throw him under the bus, but get his money first. Hardly sounds like Cupid visited.
4.5 months of marriage. Three visits to Thailand and two vacation trips. He's on the road most of the time working abroad. And her mates advise her to throw him under the bus, but get his money first. Hardly sounds like Cupid visited.
I guess if you give them no identifiers such as name or passport number or fill out any paperwork, you may be be right. I always thought you had to at least identify yourself as Americn somehow before using their services. I could be wrong, in which case, go for it. One of the things I have learned over time is to give as little information as possible since it always seems to come back and bite me in the ass somehow. Especially when it come to divorce law or a woman.
Why can you not get on with your life just because you have a Thai gold digger wife looking for money?....which you state that you don't have. If you have not accumulated any assets during the marriage, (which you also state) then there is nothing (or very little) to split 50/50. (as per Thai divorce law) She appears to be the one with the problem here.....it must be terribly frustrating trying to milk a farang that has no milk...![]()
She is sure to find another one soon because they arrive by the plane load on a daily basis bragging about how rich they are. Then she will be very anxious to give you a divorce, so she can tap into the next revenue stream. It just takes a bit of patience....and a basic understanding of how greed works.
Play it smart; wait her out, and good luck to you...![]()
^^Agree totally with giving out as little information as possible to authority figures of any ilk. I have, however, called Amcit services on a number of occasions, in different countries, and never been asked for documentation. Perhaps an American accent does it. I have just said that I was Mr. _____, American citizen residing in ________, and needed the following information. That was it.
Is she cute? If so, I am willing to take one for the team and pretend to be a rich farang to entice her into bed (as long as you pay the expenses of course, hidden video camera, etc.). You get the evidence you need to sue her for divorce, and I get my leg over.
I don't know why people complicate these things so much.
^Good point. And a very kind offer.
You're right to be cautious, the last thing you want is to be married to a decent woman later and have this woman from hell show up. I've seen this before; once their Thai girls friends tell them what they can "get" no one can tell them otherwise. Their friends (of course) have no absolutely clue what they are talking about, or are flat out lying, but the idiot type of girls believe each others lies.
I am an American lawyer; suggest you get an official and dependable answer, possibly from someone at the US embassy whether this marriage is recognized in the USA or not. If it's not, (and I doubt if it is) walk away and give her nothing. If it is, you will need a good Thai lawyer, and that usually means one in Bangkok.
When I was practicing law, I always asked clients if they wanted to explore the possibility of saving the marriage, but there are some things that could never be "put behind" a couple. Extortion is one of them. The last Thai one I heard about, the girl wanted 300,000 baht to leave and said if he tried to put her out she would hurt her own arm and tell the police he did it. He hired 2 off-duty cops at a total cost of 20,000 baht for an hours work, they went to the house when he was at work and physically removed the woman and put enough fear into her that he has not heard from her since, but that was just a live in bar girl, not a marriage.
Dead simple. Just introduce her to some one you dislike immensely. Of course, you have to prime the pump by telling her that he is a wealthy schmuck, preferably from the south of the United Kingdom.
Suggestions, anyone?
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This is from the Citizens Services page of the US Embassy website:
"A legal marriage in Thailand consists of both parties registering their marriage in person with the local Thai Amphur (Civil Registry Office). The United States does recognize the validity of such a marriage. "
Before you register your marriage you have to pick up a form at the US Embassy which you have translated into Thai. You bring this to the Amphur when you register the marriage. This is part of the process of legally marrying a Thai national.
There is no mention of registering the marriage at the embassy.
^I stand corrected. I would still call the Embassy, and see what impact this will have on a divorce, if any. It may mean that the US will recognize it as a legal marriage for visa purposes, but it may also have little impact on a divorce proceeding.
The only easy way to divorce in Thailand is if you both agree.
Then its just a matter of both going to the Amphur and paying a very small amount and then you are done.
Any other way is going to be messy and/or expensive.
So I think you need her to at least believe that she will be getting a decent payout after she signs. Tell her that you'll send her 20,00 baht per month for 2 years to give her a chance to get back on her feet.
If you then fail to keep your promise then there's not much she can do about it..
Ok, I have emailed PAPPA Law, they will reply.
^Stay tuned. If they're like most lawyers, they will take a week to respond and say nothing. Glad the bill (I presume in free advertising) is going to our lord and master.
How about we all queue up for a go... scribble her number on a toilet door of an amenable hotel, and post the name and directions, and we can all give her a bell, at the very least you could get a print out of all her phone traffic between her and countless farangs, and say look judge, she's a right slapper(4.5 months is hardly giving it a chance, though, is it? ...even if she is a nutter who believes in "pee").
thanks DD, looking forward to see their response
500K to get rid of her- that's getting off pretty light- if you've got the money and she's willing to sign the necessary paperwork, just be done with it and move forward with your life- by the time you finish with lawyers and the hassle of dealing with the process you're currently considering, 500K might look like a bargain.
As the old saying goes' "Do you know why divorces are so expensive? Because they're worth it."
There he goes. One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die.
HST
Yup. My ex was trying to divorce her old codger so that she could be with me, some young man-rod. He made her life hell, but only a few months into the relationship with her i realized why. She was a little kniving little biatch full of lies.
She wanted a divorce which i tried to help her with while but there was no success. He knew what he was doing and played his cards right. I'm glad i wasn't the next in line at the time.
You bullied, you laughed, you lied, you lost!
Well failsafe, the money isn't a problem, I could easily pay that if I'd like however why give her that final satisfaction?
It's not giving her 'that final satisfaction'- it's saving yourself the hassle of having to deal with her further and getting her out of your life asap- if the money isn't a problem and you could 'easily' pay it (and you're going to end up paying somebody- her, your lawyer, etc., not to mention the time you'll be wasting- you can make more money, but you can't make more time), just do it and get rid of her.Originally Posted by drawp
You've already put yourself in the position of going through your first divorce at the age of 25- it doesn't seem like smart decision-making as far as this woman is concerned is your forté.
Tell your buddies back home that you got out of a marriage for $17,000, and they'll be amazed.
Sadly, been there. Farking lethal things dreams for Thais.
No other comments, but just to say, however "worth it" would not rush into paying. Once you let her know you are even thinking about paying, demands will surely escalate.
Maybe a few months of, OK, fuck it, we will stay married as I have no money will change her mind a tad.
Oh, and lastly, any "deal" with a Thai seems to be permanantly open for negotiation -even when you consider the matter "agreed" and "settled" - they wont.
drawp i think your cutting your own throat,you say you have no money,then post no44 says pay her 500k baht is not to be sniffed at,then you say the money is no problem take the advice given by most td.posters.
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