Wow, looks like a whole load of stress right there, enough to put anyone off building in LOS.

Stating the obvious here, and repeating what others have said and what's already known, but to the benefit of others who are viewing this forum with plans to build their own place:

1: Using a large company with an HQ based elsewhere can be problematic for single bespoke builds, these companies often base their business models on moo baan developments, which have different logistics to single builds.

2: Large companies may seem to offer a range of benefits such as a proven track record of existing builds and qualified teams, however it seems that these companies hide behind layers of departments, where lack of accountability and poor communication become obvious when issues occur with the build. It's easier to pressure a single person than a company when you want things done.

3: If you can't visit the site every day, then employ a full time site manager, or don't construct anything for the duration of being absent. Or don't build, just buy an existing house.

4: If possible, employ very local small teams, as the potential 'loss of face' if things go wrong is a great motivator to get things right in LOS. Loss of face and accountability on a local level should never be underestimated here.

5: Turn up to the site or offices with other people you know on tow.. accompanying children also help, as then you cease to be just a single person, or walking ATM machine, but a person who has contacts and are waiting for the job to be finished and done well. In Japan, people who want a pay rise or a change in their job in some way take along one of their kids, it implies that there are consequences and it's not just about the individual. It's a passive/aggressive approach which is unfamiliar to us in the West. The concept of 'consequences' here in LOS isn't easily absorbed, it has to be pointed out constantly (look at the state of the driving!).

OK, enough with the negativity and hindsight, not much use to you right now showupman... on a positive note, you seem to be striking a nerve at HQ, at least they are now aware of the issue and who you are. The issues you are facing can all be fixed. To save your sanity though, I'd suggest not taking a snapshot of everything in one go. By dumping all the problems in one big pile, even the small fixable things will seem insurmountable. I'd suggest making a file for each of the issues, dated with description, photo, and if possible solution, as each problem is given attention, update the file with info and sign off when fixed, this way you'll see progress (even if it's slow and small!).

Stay strong, controlled and level-headed... it's understandable that emotions creep in, but this doesn't help solve issues over in this part of the world much I'm afraid.

Almost there, keep going!