Addicted to Internet porn?

[dirtydog]

I was looking for internet porn blockers yesterday to stop my child viewing porn on his pc, it seems from the adverts in google though that these porn blockers are aimed at adult men.

Did you know that most men on the net are accessing porn? I knew that I needed get away from this tremendously harmful material. That's why I started WiseChoice. For my personal struggle with internet pornography-click here
Many of our clients are wives who are horrified to learn of their husband's porn use. They are disgusted that their husbands are cheating on them through their viewing of porn - Block It !

Let me tell you how I got involved with this subject. I have been married for thirty one years, have my own business, and my kids are grown. I have been a Christian for eighteen years, been a missionary, home school parent-the whole nine yards.I would have thought that I was porn proof!

I got onto the Internet about five years ago the same as most of us. I needed the net for my business and plus it was simply fascinating. Along the way I was being bombarded with emails and advertisements for Internet sex. We have all seen them-hot teens! Girls girls girls!. I finally got curious and clicked on one of the links and I was blown away by the raw sexual material provided absolutely free. Well I can tell you that I got off that site as quickly as I could! What if anybody saw that stuff on my computer not to mention what my wife would think!

The next day I was back on the net and I was drawn to have another look, so I did . Again I was shocked and angry. The next day I was back again and again and again. You get the picture....I suddenly was confronted with my own self. What would happen to my reputation-my Christian influence? What would happen to my marriage, what would this say to my kids-my prayer life? The answer was obvious. So what could I do- get off the Internet? Amazingly the same day that the Lord was speaking to me on the subject, my web master for my business site walked in and asked if I had ever heard of internet filtering?(he didn't even know what I was struggling with). He explained that filtering could keep one out of porn sites. Unfortunately at the time there were no filtered providers accessible from my city. Since I couldn't get it, I decided to provide it. The result was Wisechoice.net which is proof that "what the enemy meant for evil, God will turn to the good for those that love Him."
Does this mean that I am now "cured" of the desire to access porn? Absolutely not-however having a filter on my computer has removed the constant onslaught of porn sites and removed the easy temptation just to click and......

Please don't ignore or minimize the danger of internet porn.

The more I got into the subject of Internet porn the more I discovered the impact to be. I found out that nine out of ten kids between 8 and 16 years old have been into Internet pornography-that’s 90%!

One of our customers told me that she discovered that her husband was into Internet porn when he wouldn’t visit her while she was in labor in the hospital with her fourth child- it turned out that he was back at the home gorging on Internet pornography-their marriage was shattered.

Another customer told me that he spent 1000 hours on Internet porn last year. That works out to forty 24 hour days- over a month of Internet porn out of a year. It cost him his marriage, his job and his position in the community.
A local pastor and friend of mine, a good man and powerful leader in the Christian community-had his ministry destroyed after it was discovered that he had been accessing internet pornography.

People don't plan to get involved with internet pornography, suddenly it is front of you and you are involved-that fast. The only way to stay out of harm's way is to either stay off the internet or to install filtering. I think Wisechoice is the best available and I urge you to try our no risk trial.

What will Internet Porn cost you?

Ned Dominick, Founder and President
Wisechoice Internet Services, Inc.

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This book is essential for anyone who is or knows someone who is addicted to pornography. Chapter and Section Titles:

1. One Man's Journey From the Darkness to the Light
   
   Section One: The Science
   
2. The Science of How Pornography Radically Alters the Brain
   
3. Internet Pornography -- A Drug Dealer's Dream Come True
   
4. The Male and Female Brains -- How Men and Women Are Wired Differently
   
   Author's Thoughts About the "Victims" of Pornography
   
   Section Two: The Solutions
   
5. Six Simple Steps to Protect Your Family From the Pornography Plague
   
   Step #1: Teach the Truth About Sex
   
   Step #2: Shut Down the Gateway to Porn Addiction
   
   Step #3: Don't Underestimate Pornographers and Overestimate People -- PROTECT!
   
   Step #4: Fight For Decency
   
   Step #5: Create and Nurture True Intimacy in Your Family Relationships
   The LifeBalance Relationships Toolbox
   
   Step #6: Daily Self-Care
   The LifeBalance Daily Self-Care Routine
   
6. Healing Hearts and Mending Minds: Rescue and Recovery From Pornography Addiction
   
   Four Critical Preparatory Steps Before You Begin Your Recovery Program:
   
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   Commitment #4: "I Consistently Track & Assess My Progress"
   
7. What If Your Spouse Suffers From a Pornography Problem?
   
8. Help For Religious Leaders and Counselors
   
   Author's Final Words: There is Great Hope!
   

How to use the book, Healing Hearts & Mending Minds
Healing Hearts & Mending Minds is a comprehensive guidebook that contains everything you will need to protect individuals and families from the devastation of pornography, and/or rescue those already trapped. While we certainly recommend that you read the entire book, you may have a specific challenge that needs to be addressed immediately.
Identify yourself under the following categories and follow the instructions regarding which sections of the book to read first. After completing these sections, you can go back and read the remainder of the book.
If You Are Struggling With Pornography
If you are struggling with pornography at any level, please refer to the following book sections in this order:

1. Chapter One
2. Chapter Two
3. Chapter Three
4. Chapter Six
   Important Note — Stop! and complete every exercise in each of the four chapters.

If You Are the Spouse of Someone Struggling With Pornography
If you are the spouse of someone struggling with pornography, please refer to the following book sections in this order:

1. Chapter Seven (Stop! and complete every exercise in this chapter.)
2. Chapter One
3. Chapter Two
4. Chapter Three

If You Are the Parent of a Teenager Struggling with Pornography
If you are the parent of a teenager struggling with pornography, please refer to the following book sections in this order:

1. Read What To Do If Your Child or Teenager Has Been Exposed to Pornography on page 183 through page 186.
2. Chapter One
3. Chapter Two
4. Chapter Three
5. If your child or teen has a pornography addiction problem, read Chapter Six, then go to Chapter Five.
6. If the problem is minor, read Chapter Five. (Stop! and complete every exercise in this chapter.)

If You Are a Spouse or Parent Trying to Protect Your Family From Pornography
If You Are a Spouse or Parent Trying to Protect Your Family From Pornography, please refer to the following book sections in this order:

1. Chapter One
2. Chapter Two
3. Chapter Three
4. Chapter Five (Stop! and complete every exercise in this chapter.)

If You Are a Religious Leader or Counselor Helping Someone with a Pornography Problem
If You Are a Religious Leader or Counselor Helping Someone with a Pornography Problem, please refer to the following book sections in this order:

1. Chapter Eight
2. Chapter One
3. Chapter Two
4. Chapter Three
5. Chapter Six

If You Are a Religious Leader Trying to Protect Your Congregation From Pornography
If You Are a Religious Leader Trying to Protect Your Congregation From Pornography, please refer to the following book sections in this order:

1. Chapter One
2. Chapter Two
3. Chapter Three
4. Chapter Five

[Butterfly]

porn addiction is good. What's worse ? looking for love affair with horny 30 something or stay home and watch porn ? I think most wives know the answer to that one. Unless they are frigid control freak.

[dirtydog]

The next day I was back on the net and I was drawn to have another look at gangbangorgy.com, so I did . Again I was shocked and angry. The next day I was back again and again and again spanking the monkey as hard and as often as I could

I assume he is pretending to be offended by porn to make some dosh out of his filtering software....

[NickA]

^Well for me it's an easy choice....I don't want to do anything degrading or disgusting or see anything that was dirty, filthy or just downright sadistic....



....so I toss off to porn......





....rather than fok the missus

[dirtydog]

So which stage are you at?

<H4>Porn Addiction: The Pull of Porn

Not everyone who sees porn will become addicted. Some will just come away with toxic ideas about women, sex, marriage, and children. However, some will have some kind of emotional opening that allows the addiction to really grab hold. The porn companies don't mind at all if you become completely addicted to their product. It's great for business. Dr. Victor Cline has divided the progress of addiction into several stages; addiction, escalation, desensitization, and acting out. For porn addicts, I've found that there is another stage that comes first -- early exposure. Let's look at these stages:

EARLY EXPOSURE
Most guys who get addicted to porn start early. They see porn when they are very young and it gets its foot in the door.
PORN ADDICTION
You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You're hooked and can't quit.
ESCALATION
You start to look for more graphic pornography. You start using porn that disgusted you earlier. Now, it excites you.
DESENSITIZATION
You start to become numb to the images you see. Even the most graphic porn doesn't excite you any more. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again, but you can't find it. ACTING OUT SEXUALLY
This is the point where men make a crucial jump and start acting out the images they have seen. Some move from the paper and plastic images of porn into the real world, with real people, in destructive ways.

Porn Addiction: Am I Addicted?

If you see any of these patterns in your life, you need to put the brakes on right now. Is porn becoming more and more in control of your life? Do you have trouble putting it down? Do you keep going back for more?

Porn Addiction: What Can I Do?

The first thing you've got to do is admit that you struggle with pornography. Believe me, you are not strange or unusual if you do. Millions of men are at various stages in the struggle with porn. It's really not surprising. The porn industry has spent billions of dollars trying to snare you. Is it really shocking that they have succeeded? For some of you there may also be issues in your past, such as abuse or sexual exposure, that makes porn addiction even harder to shake. There is only so much you can do in fighting addiction without help.
You need someone to help you break this addiction. Overcoming the secrecy is absolutely vital. You probably can't escape addiction without it. That doesn't mean everyone has to know you're struggling. Pick someone you can trust who counsels men who are having problems with addiction -- a pastor, youth group leader or counselor. Someone you can completely trust, feel safe with and has experience in the area of addiction isn't going to be surprised.

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[Marmite the Dog]

So which stage are you at?

ACTING OUT SEXUALLY This is the point where men make a crucial jump and start acting out the images they have seen. Some move from the paper and plastic images of porn into the real world, with real people, in destructive ways.

I must confess that this is me. I have seen people having sex on the internet and now I occassionaly do it myself. Can anyone help me? MeMock?

[kingwilly]

I must confess that this is me. I have seen people having sex on the internet and now I occassionaly do it myself. Can anyone help me? MeMock?

Crickey - its worse than we thought.....

quick - someone turn the hose on him!

[Goddess of Whatever]

I must confess that this is me. I have seen people having sex on the internet and now I occassionaly do it myself. Can anyone help me? MeMock?

Crickey - its worse than we thought.....

quick - someone turn the hose on him!

It's even worse than I thought also.

[ceburat]

For children - Cut it off (tv - comp) or at least filter it.

However I go in the opposite direction for adults - forget that porn

nonesense and go for the real thing.

[Whiteshiva]

forget that porn nonesense and go for the real thing.

What - masturbation?

[Skulldigger]

It just takes one smart and horny enough 10 year old kid with clueless parents in an entire school, to make sure that all the kids at that school know all about the things adults get up to...

You can block it as a parent, but dont for a moment believe that your kids wont be exposed to porn. If you want them to be reasonably sane, better try to learn to talk about sex and porn with them as if it wasnt something strange. If you take the sweep under carpet route of that Christian weirdo, dont be surprised if your kids turn into emotional wrecks with near-schizo double standards as adults.

[DrAndy]

hoooray

[hillbilly]

Does anyone know of a good screen cleaner?

[obsidian]

the other sock

[dirtydog]

turn into emotional wrecks with near-schizo double standards as adults.

Is that what happened to smeg?

[watterinja]

Smeg's problem was when he hired his first lady escort in bangers. Saw his willy and laughed him outa the house. Story goes that he is smaller than her regular Thai customers.

He has hated all regular folks ever since.

[DrAndy]

that is a good theory, but Smeg said he would never pay for a woman

he is so "hansum" that he does not need to anyway, so he infers

so, weighing up the various options, I would go with your theory