Thread: How Do I Give Up Sexual Nirvana For The Sake Of My Family?

I am going through what is a classic midlife crisis with a bit of a twist. I'm in my early 40s and have a great wife and two great young kids, all of whom I love dearly. I've been with my wife for over 20 years. Everyone tells me how lucky I am to have the perfect marriage. But, of course, I don't feel so lucky. Instead I feel burdened, trapped by the overwhelming obligations of family and of keeping up appearances. The way I've tried to deal with these feelings is by seeing prostitutes.

About eight months ago, I met and paid for the woman of my dreams. She's beautiful, a sexual dynamo, smart, funny and sweet. She's not a typical prostitute; she's more like the girl next door who wants to get paid for her great looks and abundant sexual talents.

I soon went from being her client to being her friend and confidant. Her presence in my life does two things for me. First I get to feel those incredibly strong emotions that I haven't felt in years about my wife (lust and longing), and more important, I feel so free during the few hours a week I get to see her. Not only do we explore sexual fantasies that would be completely out of bounds with my wife, but more important, I can completely relax around her and joke around and talk frankly, and not have to worry about things like who's picking up whom from school.

Of course, I know that this whole thing is incredibly stupid and immature, but I can't figure out how to unring the bell and go back to a life without this woman. Do you think it will be possible to not see her and forget about the pleasure, love and passion that we had? I've tried for a few weeks at a time, but I've always felt the need to see her again -- the urge for release, both literally and metaphorically, was too strong. I have a hard time imagining life without her, but at the same time, she could never be a part of my "real" life -- I have too much invested in my marriage and family to break it up.

So the question boils down to this: How do I give up sexual (and emotional) nirvana for the sake of my family?

Cut your balls off or start thinking with your brain not you dick! You want the best of both worlds.

its okay to be unfaithful as long the women you're doing it with aren't human. as soon as you start to see them as sentient beings you have a problem. it sounds like you have fallen into this trap...... aka 'the bolt of lightning' - you stoopid romantic ****

Originally Posted by Art Thief

Of course, I know that this whole thing is incredibly stupid and immature, but I can't figure out how to unring the bell and go back to a life without this woman. Do you think it will be possible to not see her and forget about the pleasure, love and passion that we had? I've tried for a few weeks at a time, but I've always felt the need to see her again -- the urge for release, both literally and metaphorically, was too strong. I have a hard time imagining life without her, but at the same time, she could never be a part of my "real" life -- I have too much invested in my marriage and family to break it up.

if this is not a troll.

then listen to someone who didn't. the whole thing is a dream, and it aint aint aint worth chasing.

please.

Originally Posted by kingwilly

if this is not a troll.

then listen to someone who didn't. the whole thing is a dream, and it aint aint aint worth chasing.

please.

Even if this was a troll, for all you kids out there, listen to Willy and Wally - coz weez been down that road befores...... - Don't drink toilet duck!!

sounds similar to topics started by Erco and has been done to death.Not going to bother and dignify this with any more responses.

Karma will serve it up to you for cheating one day I guess Art Thief.

Originally Posted by Art Thief

I have a hard time imagining life without her, but at the same time, she could never be a part of my "real" life -- I have too much invested in my marriage and family to break it up.

Think you just answered your own question! If your need is sexual keep it that way and forget the romance.

Errr, Guys, Of course it's a troll. It's a cut-and-paste from salon.com.

I'm married with kids -- and in love with a prostitute - Salon.com

Originally Posted by DrB0b

Errr, Guys, Of course it's a troll. It's a cut-and-paste from salon.com.

I'm married with kids -- and in love with a prostitute - Salon.com

you found that quickly DrB!!

spoilt my day

Originally Posted by DrB0b

Errr, Guys, Of course it's a troll. It's a cut-and-paste from salon.com.

I'm married with kids -- and in love with a prostitute - Salon.com

Just when I was getting warmed-up.

Why the f**k do they bother?

Originally Posted by Norton

The post I just finished has disappeared.

WTF, it just came back. Marmers!!!

Do what you want to do but accept the consequences.

Is there one 'I'm In Love With a Gigolo' over there for Yoyo to C&P?

Originally Posted by DrB0b

Errr, Guys, Of course it's a troll. It's a cut-and-paste from salon.com.

Figured it was but responded anyway. Dumb ole me. Throw the shithead in jail.

Sounds like a job for erco this one

Why are you asking a bunch of strangers on a public forum ?

Haven't you got a family member or close friend to confide in ?

I was going to say don't worry your wife is probably screwing someone right now too. But since its a troll well...

Originally Posted by Norton

Marmers!!!

Wot?

Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog

Originally Posted by Norton

Marmers!!!

Wot?

I think he was talking to you Marmers....

Even if the OP is bullsh*t, it's a very real danger for some of us married guys. How to avoid this? Go back and live in the West where a man's extramarital choices are usually limited to fatass, neurotic white women or man-hating strippers who will charge you $50 just to dance on your lap. You'll feel like you won the lottery by having a Thai wife of any quality. If you must live in Thailand, live in a small community where you can't get away with anything. But stay the f*ck away from Bangkok if you value your family and feel vulnerable to falling in love with another woman.

Originally Posted by Art Thief

we explore sexual fantasies that would be completely out of bounds with my wife

anal ?

bloody hell Butterbutt, he only has had anal sex with the wife, they never realised it was the wrong route

he wants proper stuff now, that is his problem

^In that case I'd hate to think what their kids look like!

Originally Posted by floorpotato

Go back and live in the West where a man's extramarital choices are usually limited to fatass, neurotic white women

Did someone mention my name???

Originally Posted by November Rain

Originally Posted by floorpotato

Go back and live in the West where a man's extramarital choices are usually limited to fatass, neurotic white women

Did someone mention my name???

Why would you want to admit to anything like that?