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    Mommy, Mommy. Do you need your Thai Mom?

    Is you Thai wife a Mommy figure to you, the Farang husband?

    Spurned on and prompted by recent postings by a Thailand long-termer,

    "...topic of this rant is this almost at times ‘questionable loyalty’ which
    has you scratching your head and wondering if your Thai partner – and I hate myself for saying this – is truly on your side...there are times when I feel she hasn’t really looked after her ‘man in a strange land’."

    I’ve been pondering the following,

    Thailand’s mixed race marriages often mimic maternal dynamics, according to my ongoing research.

    This leaves Thai wives often cast in the role of mom.

    In my recent studies I've discovered that more Foreign husbands were apt to judge a females performance on whether she was sensitive to others’ emotions and emotionally supportive, while Farang husbands didn’t rate gay male or Kateoy spouses on their ability to read facial expressions or sense tones of voice.

    I’ve heard wives say that many of their husbands, especially those just out of the culture shock scene, or..shhhh, the bar scene, look for a mother figure in their marriage — a role these wives don’t always feel comfortable playing.

    A wife needs to do his or her job they say, and not be constantly
    patting husbands on the back or dispensing ego building personal advice.

    Some wives may argue that the unwitting “parent role” has grown, as the supposedly coddled members of Farang Gen Y enter the umpers (district offices) of Thailand.

    Posters, does this scenario sound familiar? If you are a husband, do you like taking the cast in a baby-like role?

    If so, are there ways to avoid it?


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    You mean wearing a nappy and stuff like that?

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    ^ That would be generation W, where those guys now are unable to control their bladdder and bowel movements.

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    Most Thai girlfriends or wives act more like a kid than a mum...

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    Quote Originally Posted by vespergal
    In my recent studies I've discovered that
    which studies ??

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    ^ I take a part time Eroticisim in Art course @ Uni Of Khon Kaen.

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    And the post important part of studies being, of course, is a lurker and casual poster of the otter channel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
    Most Thai girlfriends or wives act more like a kid than a mum...

    Sit in my chair rawly, kick off the cat, popcorn, empty wine bottle and my zamboni...take a seat lad.

    Can you give us some examples of this childish behavior?

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    Turd, Crap, Shit, Poo,

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
    Most Thai girlfriends or wives act more like a kid than a mum...
    How many have you had again??

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
    Most Thai girlfriends or wives act more like a kid than a mum...
    That may have been in jest but so true. Imhe, most tgs are looking for the father figure they never had because he offed the moment she popped out and he sensed the need for responsibility.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tristram View Post
    You mean wearing a nappy and stuff like that?
    That'd be commonly referred to as incontinence.

    I'll address that in another vespergal thread at a later date.




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    Quote Originally Posted by vespergal View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
    Most Thai girlfriends or wives act more like a kid than a mum...

    Sit in my chair rawly, kick off the cat, popcorn, empty wine bottle and my zamboni...take a seat lad.

    Can you give us some examples of this childish behavior?
    Thanks for the seat vespergal... can you wipe the spilled popcorn off it first?...

    OK... I'm sat driving a car.. In the back are 2 Thai ladies... Every time I go round a bend they squeal with delight and squash each other into the door depending on which way the bend is ... One is 28 years old and the other is 25...

    Another... Got 2 girls back from the disco... I get them settled in the living room with a drink and let them have the remote for the telly.... I go for a slash... Come back from the bog to find them both sat laughing loudly at the Roadrunner cartoon on TV.... One is 24 years old and the other is 23...

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    Quote Originally Posted by buriramboy View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
    Most Thai girlfriends or wives act more like a kid than a mum...
    How many have you had again??
    One.....

    Have had a bit of exposure to the Thai person of the female variety though...

    And I have seen other friends girlfriends / wives....

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins View Post
    Most Thai girlfriends or wives act more like a kid than a mum...

    Sit in my chair rawly, kick off the cat, popcorn, empty wine bottle and my zamboni...take a seat lad.

    Can you give us some examples of this childish behavior?
    Thanks for the seat vespergal... can you wipe the spilled popcorn off it first?...

    OK... I'm sat driving a car.. In the back are 2 Thai ladies... Every time I go round a bend they squeal with delight and squash each other into the door depending on which way the bend is ... One is 28 years old and the other is 25...

    Another... Got 2 girls back from the disco... I get them settled in the living room with a drink and let them have the remote for the telly.... I go for a slash... Come back from the bog to find them both sat laughing loudly at the Roadrunner cartoon on TV.... One is 24 years old and the other is 23...

    It sounds like you're describing lesbian behavior, rather than childish.

    I don't mind a bit of door squashing or roadrunner myself...

    While they're in these throes of excitement, are they asking any favors of you rawlings?

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins
    they squeal with delight and squash each other into the door depending on which way the bend is
    Thai girls really do have a sense of fun that was lacking in a lot of girls I had relationships with back home. The above is a good example and my gf whoops with joy and shouts "faster" when we go over a series of small speed bumps that are near my condo whilst on the motorbike.
    She gets up a lot earlier than me as I work nights but will creep onto the bed and attempt to wake me up by playing a game of hide and seek on the bed pretending to hide behind pillows and stuff like that. Shes 25 and studying master degree at the moment

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    Damn, seems like i've ended up with the only mature woman in Thailand!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by rawlins
    Most Thai girlfriends or wives act more like a kid than a mum...
    True.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vespergal View Post
    It sounds like you're describing lesbian behavior, rather than childish.

    I don't mind a bit of door squashing or roadrunner myself...

    While they're in these throes of excitement, are they asking any favors of you rawlings?
    What kind of favours?... explain yourself vespagirl...

    As for the lesbian behaviour, I find that quite hard to seek down... Wish I could describe more examples than I currently can of that kind of Thai girl behaviour...

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    ^ The point I'm trying to make R, is that while they were enjoying themselves, they weren't asking you for any fatherly favors, were they?

    Whereas I've seen a Thai woman driving a car with two Farang gentleman in the back seat, sucking on cans of Heineken, farting and burping every time the car hit a speed hump, demanding that one farang's wife (the driver) stop and buy them food, and also translate a telephone call from a hotel regarding his parent's Thai holiday hotel room booking.


    So who needs the substitute parent?

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    Only if you confuse 'mothering' with being a Mother figure imo. Thai women tend to fuss over you more than I was accustomed to in the west- for example doing the washing up or preparing your own food would be perceived as an insult, or some subliminal message of dissatisfaction.

    On the other hand, decisions such as where to go for dinner, financial stuff (even where it relates to 'her' assets) and where to live are expected to be made by me, consultation optional but appreciated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vespergal View Post
    Is you Thai wife a Mommy figure to you, the Farang husband?
    More like a daughter...

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    fuck off back to ajarn

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    You mean these people in Ajarn stay with girls that could be their daughters?
    How strange...

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    ^^I suggest more of the mods attention be given to ppl. who continually use fowl language in their posts.

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