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    Quote Originally Posted by bsnub View Post
    Quickly as well because a second opinion is needed. She needs chemo.
    Dr Snub, go back and read the posts. Its a very sad story indeed. No way....

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    Got an update PH? How are Dad and baby girl holding up?

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    Cancer inflicts so much pain

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    Quote Originally Posted by Storekeeper View Post
    Got an update PH? How are Dad and baby girl holding up?
    Sadly not so well, but thank you very much for asking. I thought I'd keep the bad news to a minimum as it's quite depressing, but no point hiding it.

    It was clear that Sunan wasn't coming back home again . . . the cancer has spread into her bone marrow . . . Simon has signed the D.N.R. and he's in contact with the local abbot, but the hospital has 'released her' and she is now at home, sleeping downstairs and Padme is quite depressed, the poor thing. Not sure how much this has all sunk in but Sunan is so very skinny and incommunicado.

    Added to al this, Simon's employers have cancelled his contract, so he's up shit creek on that front as well. No income and no legal way to stay.

    All the lovely thoughts and donations, of course, did help a lot. A lot.

    It turned out that nothing was there to be cured but your kindness helped ease some of the pressure on Simon and made it more comfortable for Sunan, and still does.

    You have really been wonderful and to donate your money and thoughts to someone you don't know is fantastic.

    Thank you, again.

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    Just read the entire thread and very saddened to hear of Simon's family's plight. Has he got the right to take his daughter, Padme?, back to the U.K.? I assume that he has been registered as her papa at the time of birth and that he can obtain a British passport in her name. I also assume that he will need ongoing support during Sunan's last days. The gofund me account is still open I take it?

    Cancer is any form is a real bastard thing. I saw my exwife go through this partly as a misdiagnosis by a lady doctor in Australia. We all make mistakes and I guess that was one she'd rather not have made.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grasshopper View Post
    Cancer is any form is a real bastard thing. I saw my exwife go through this partly as a misdiagnosis by a lady doctor in Australia. We all make mistakes and I guess that was one she'd rather not have made.
    Yes, it is . . . we have a bit of a scare in our family now regarding cancer and it is frightening . . . I'm sorry to hear about your ex-wife



    Quote Originally Posted by grasshopper View Post
    Has he got the right to take his daughter, Padme?, back to the U.K.? I assume that he has been registered as her papa at the time of birth and that he can obtain a British passport in her name.
    I believe so . . . but even then there is the issue of cost with going back to the UK.



    Quote Originally Posted by grasshopper View Post
    I also assume that he will need ongoing support during Sunan's last days. The gofund me account is still open I take it?
    Yes, to both assumptions . . . thank you very much for asking:

    https://www.gofundme.com/f/save-sunan-mills

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    Quote Originally Posted by panama hat View Post
    Yes, it is . . . we have a bit of a scare in our family now regarding cancer and it is frightening . . . I'm sorry to hear about your ex-wife
    I hope it isn't anything too serious.
    Cancer is a bitch. My sister in laws mother has been fighting it for three years. She was put in a hospice three weeks ago, and just went into a coma yesterday. She has a week or less to live. It is really sad to see a friend and sister in law lose her mother who is only in her 60's.

    I am also very sorry to hear about Sunan and feel really bad for her family (thinking more of the little girl).

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    Thanks, PB . . . and thank you for your donations, they are greatly appreciated

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    You are welcome, ph. How is the family doing, any updates?

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    Hello PB,
    She's back and forth in hospital, currently back in with a pulmonary infection . . . can't get up, weighs nothing . . . it's all rather sad, and Simon's visa is up for renewal . . .

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    Quote Originally Posted by panama hat View Post
    Hello PB,
    She's back and forth in hospital, currently back in with a pulmonary infection . . . can't get up, weighs nothing . . . it's all rather sad, and Simon's visa is up for renewal . . .
    Awww that's too bad, well thanks for the update.

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    having watched two relatives in thailand suffer for many weeks as their terminal cancers slowly but surely sucked what remained of their lives out of them as the doctors, devoid of both empathy and sympathy, continued to insist on more and more invasive treatment, yet neglected to offer adequate pain relief.

    the concept of the hospice, where acceptance of death is a given and the terminally ill are cared for with kindness and respect and their pain properly controlled has yet to reach thailand.

    for the thai, life must run its course naturally, and the thought of hastening the end of the already condemned as an act of mercy is anathema to them.

    this mindset should be born in mind by all those seeking to end their days in thailand.

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    The inevitable . . .

    "My beloved and beautiful wife died this afternoon at 17:45!I have loved her since the first day I saw her face....Literally love at first sight I think!!
    Just had to watch them put her in the morgue, and that was super hard too....
    Her family are going to take her back home to Pak Chong and have the service there....I totally understand why as the whole family can get to say goodbye to her properly.
    We're going to miss her so much and I want to thank everyone for their kind words and all that everyone's done for us over the past 6+ months. I know she appreciated it as much as I do / did...
    Our goal now is to get Padme and I back to the UK as quickly as possible so if you could share this plea for help to as many people as you possibly can I would be very grateful.
    Simon"


    It's incredibly sad . . . and from me: A thank you to all of you who not only donated money to make Sunan's last weeks a bit more comfortable, but also to those who sent their well-wishes.

    Now he's 'busy' trying to get Padme her Brit passport and to find away to get home.


    Situations like this always remind me of a saying, not that I'm particularly religious but in context it still carries weight:

    "There, but for the grace of God, go I"



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    RIP

    See news .

    Hope he can start afresh with his child as quickly as possible without too many hicups.

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    Quote Originally Posted by panama hat View Post
    Now he's 'busy' trying to get Padme her Brit passport and to find away to get home.
    Sad but as you said inevitable. PH reading this I am surprised he never got her a UK passport. I am really hoping he registered her as a British citizen born abroad at sometime in her life. For me those documents were done immediately after birth.. Best of luck in the future to father and daughter..

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    Quote Originally Posted by aging one View Post
    PH reading this I am surprised he never got her a UK passport.
    Yea, I guess he just didn't think of a time he'd go back to the UK and just pushed it further away . . . unnecessary expenditure, possibly.

    Quote Originally Posted by aging one View Post
    I am really hoping he registered her as a British citizen born abroad at sometime in her life.
    I believe he did, so that's one worry less among the many



    Quote Originally Posted by aging one View Post
    Best of luck in the future to father and daughter..
    Thanks, ao. I hope he gets back quickly, but that depends on the funds. Rock and a hard place, what a situation -they're both still relatively young

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    A struggle ahead, but I'm sure he'll succeed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aging one View Post
    For me those documents were done immediately after birth.
    Yes, had all the documents prepared pre-birth, then sent off immediately after.

    Nothing to do with if I return there to live, but for their future - them traveling the World, studying/working/living there, inheriting property there. 5k baht or whatever every few years for a new passport and sorting out their government ID number that's needed howadays should you be a national and wish to wipe yer ass there.


    Seriously wishing them goodluck, as there's gonna be a ballache of a time if she can't get them immediately, and he can't afford the Thai extension of temp stay based on legal guardianship.

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    Sad. R. I. P.

    Whether he registered his daughter doesn't matter, she will still get a passport.

    Hopefully Simon has someone in the UK to help whilst his daughter goes to school and he finds work. . And one positive is his daughter will get a better education now.

    Best wishes to them both.

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    sad news, and hope all for the best. Airfare to the uk ( just checked) one way Bangkok-London on thai is ONLY $384 ( $289 on Egypt air) for a flight next week, but what than?
    Does he have a back up system /relatives back there?

    I to cant understand why he or ANY Farang that has a kid, (mine had her US passport at 1 month old), ( married or not) doesn't obtain all the correct paperwork and get their own country passport for their new born, within 6 months at the most
    Having 2 passports is gold nowadays.

    PS; being a single dad is a bitch, ( raised my daughter on my own since she was 6) but rewarding at the same time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dillinger View Post
    Whether he registered his daughter doesn't matter, she will still get a passport.
    Well I hope it comes bladdy quickly because:

    3 days ago: "Simon's visa is up for renewal . . ."



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    Just got my new passport. Took three weeks. Thought it might be a blue one.
    They've took European Union off the cover now...


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    Just wondering if Simon will have problems at immigration trying to take his daughter out of Thailand without a consent letter from spouse, which I think is normally required.

    And how he would go about that now

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    A death certificate and child's birth certificate with his and his wife's name on seems the most logical.

    But this is Thailand and may need a letter from the Embassy or Chang Wattana?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dillinger View Post
    Just wondering if Simon will have problems at immigration trying to take his daughter out of Thailand without a consent letter from spouse, which I think is normally required.

    And how he would go about that now
    As with getting a Non-O based on guardianship (as opposed to marriage), he needs to be the legal guardian of the child in Thailand.

    If the mother is still alive, ie never married or divorced, it has to go through the legal route of the Thai mother relinquishing her legal guardianship of their child, and giving the alien father sole guardianship in Thailand.

    He can then get visa extensions based on guardianship and take the child in and out of Thailand without the need for the mother's documented consent.


    Not sure if the Thai mother passing away automatically gives the alien father sole Thai guardianship of the child, but I suspect not.

    Hopefully before she passed away, they organized this legally so that he is now the documented legal guardian in Thailand, and can get visa extensions (finances needed) and take her out of Thailand without any issues.

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