Thread: Is there ever an ideal time for fatherhood?

As has been said before here, Kids are great growing up until they get to be close to teen age, then that is the time to wander off and find an overseas job as they will drive you nuts, break your heart or both.
We [my wife] has a daughter who is basically a good girl, I came here when she was a knobby kneed, crooked toothed little girl 11 years old and she was a good kid that did her chores and her own laundry and ironing and never caused anyone any trouble, then she got to be a teen ager, we got a grill in her mouth and she started to fuk up once in a while, not bad but stuff she was not supposed to do, now she is a very pretty slim 17, chasing 18 years old with straight teeth, and if you do not watch her close she will do things that she knows damn well upsets her mom.
I just do not know what will happen when she probably goes to univ. in BKK next year, I think that it will be a very trying time around here tho.

Originally Posted by Lily

Originally Posted by The Gentleman Scamp

It may be because she started taking the pill and then stopped because it didn't agree with her.

That is probably why. How long was she taking the pill?

Yes, and talking from experience in the Philippines, she might not realise that there are different brands of pills, some will "not agree" with her, but others probably would, so it could be she rejected the concept prematurely.

I don't like kids, so I'm trying my bestest to not have any.

You might not hate your own Marms.

Originally Posted by Lily

Originally Posted by The Gentleman Scamp

It may be because she started taking the pill and then stopped because it didn't agree with her.

That is probably why. How long was she taking the pill?

stress can play a part in this also.

Originally Posted by The Gentleman Scamp

You might not hate your own Marms.

Well, if they're anything like me...

And poking her full of peter 4 times a day might have something to do with it as well as taking the pills for awhile,,

OK, here's a woman's perspective (but it sounds a lot like Frisco Frankie's)...

I didn't even consider children until the biological urge hit me (I was 28) -- don't ever underestimate a woman's physical "pull" towards having children. It was a complete surprise to me.

Fortunately, I had an education, a stable career, a house, and a somewhat mature husband. There are no guarantees with marriage, however, and we divorced when our son was 4 (20 years ago). We've remained good friends and parents together since, and God knows he took a lot of parenting!

It's the most difficult and challengng thing I've ever done. Also, the most rewarding. I think 30-ish is a good age range for having children. Any later for a woman can become more difficult physically.

When I married again last year, the family increased. It's ever so much easier dealing with adult children. We have a half-Thai son and daughter, an adopted Thai daughter, and a Thai niece who was sponsored to the U.S. but never adopted. They are all terrific, and my son finally feels he has siblings.

Definitely worth the effort put into them.

its what we are here for isnt it? to make new people to make new people etc etc etc

In my experience, the "ideal" time for fatherhood coincides with pregnancy I'm not being facetious, both of my sons came unexpectedly, as babies often do...

Originally Posted by LesBonsTemps

OK, here's a woman's perspective (but it sounds a lot like Frisco Frankie's)

HEY! what're you tryin' to say???

^That you are a bit of a Shelia...

^prick

Well Scampy you can barely support yourself mate - do you think having another mouth to feed is faire to the lil one?

'She' has earning potential for a few years yet - in HK, not in the Phils.

Originally Posted by Hootad Binky

I'm not being facetious, both of my sons came unexpectedly, as babies often do...

So you just thought the wife was getting fatter or had trapped gas then?

Originally Posted by friscofrankie

Originally Posted by LesBonsTemps

OK, here's a woman's perspective (but it sounds a lot like Frisco Frankie's)

HEY! what're you tryin' to say???

Just that we "of an age" and have many of the same perspectives, darlin'.

I'm sure you're a big, strapping he-man.