How much do you depend on your wife / gf

[nigelandjan]

In a previous life with a previous wife , I was the hunter gatherer, paid all the bills made all the major decisions , said what went where and when it went there etc,
but now I admit I am arriving at an age where short term memory seems to be getting to be a problem , its good I accept this and recognise the problem and its even better that i have a younger wife to bit by bit take charge of the situation ,, i.e. to make the decisions .

Now my wife although there is not much of her 4 foot 10 " 43 kilos she has a very positive /determined / knows what she wants mind , which is all good by me , because I feel now is the time to delegate the day to day probs of life over to her , to be honest I am so grateful she can ,, today alone she has sorted out one mother + father of a mess I have made of our banking , bless her .

I love her to bits and thank her for coming into my life , I am depending more and more on her

[astasinim]

Sorry mate, but, I am completely the opposite. Not a chance in this world i would devolve responsibility to my wife ( as much as I love her). I would rather devolve responsibility to my 5 year old son. I am in full control of family finances, and rightly so, seeing as I pay for them. Mrs Ast controls her own, and although she manages her own finances reasonably well, she is utter shite when it comes to the big picture.

[Rural Surin]

Real manly men would never have to resort to any such dependency on the little woman....

[astasinim]

I know plenty women who control the finances far better than their husbands, it just so happens this isnt the case in my situation. So you can fuck right off with snide little comments. Its called being independent twat.

[Rural Surin]

I know plenty women who control the finances far better than their husbands, it just so happens this isnt the case in my situation. So you can fuck right off with snide little comments. Its called being independent twat.

Yes.
Independent.

[AUSSIE EXPAT]

My second wife ( Filipino )was absolutely brilliant with organising things. I generally provided the direction and she tied up the loose ends.

Sadly, my Thai wife couldn't organise a kick in a stampede and there is no way she is given any financial responsibility.

Be great to think you could be looked after in later life by your other half but I fear a dream by many of us.

There will be exceptions obviously depends on how well you did your homework before tying the knot so to speak.

[terry57]

Never relied on any female at any stage in my life to organize any finances and never will.

I figure this is why I'm successful today as I've kept a keen eye on my hard earned dollars.

To take your eye of the financial ball is a recipe for disaster.

[FarangRed]

Thats why people get fuked over in business, coz they take their eye off the ball.

How many times have you heard the wife has gambled the truck and the house away................?

[Rural Surin]

Thats why people get fuked over in business, coz they take their eye off the ball.

How many times have you heard the wife has gambled the truck and the house away................?

Not much, actually.

Bit of a myth brought on perpetually.

[Rural Surin]

It's their world and they run it.

Whether you accept or understand it.

The underlying Godess factor has been ruling since the earliest memory.

[koman]

The OP did mention something about failing faculties......which could/would make you more dependent on others regardless if you like it or not. As long as you are in good health, and mentally sharp you can be as independent as you like but age has a way of reducing your capacity for indepenence and there is not a damn thing you can do to avoid it....it just happens to some earlier than others. If you can remain sprightly and lucid till you die peacefully in your sleep at 101 you are one of a very small minority.

Thai women are notorious for being bad money managers, but they can be trained and coached to become good ones. It takes time an patience but my wife has gone from being a pretty hopeless spendthrift to a canny and prudent handler of finance. I trained (if that is the right word) her not just for my own sake, but for her own, because I won't always be here to control the cash flow. It's a bit like training a dog to sit, heel, shake paw.......you just have to keep repeating it till eventually the words are understood and turned into actions.....

She was actually quite keen to learn about budgeting and expense contol, and I think she feels quite superior to her peers now that she understands the concept of money out should not exceed money in... and the reasons for such dicipline.
Non of this stuff was taught in school....at least to her generation, and as far as I know even today.


She now takes pride in getting the best value for her money, and she even opened a savings account for herself....into which she actually manages to put some money every month.... At some point I will have to teach her how to get a better return than the paltry rate offered on bank deposit accounts......but baby steps have to come first.... the marathon is still a way off.

[Davis Knowlton]

I have gradually, over the past couple of years, been forcing my wife of 22 years to take over more and more aspects of our life together. It is very probable that with a 20-year age gap, the day will come when I will be worm food and she will have to do it on her own. She now has her own laptop, knows how to do most things on line (banking, etc), and has had exposure to bank paperwork, USG paperwork, and all of the other day-to-day stuff. I haven't handed over the reins, but am in an ongoing process to make sure she can handle things when required. I also have prepared written instructions to back up this training program, as well as having explained the filing system for will, land titles, etc. No control loss - I just want her to have an uninterrupted pension flow, and as little hassle as possible for her and the kids.

[Marmite the Dog]

We both have responsibility towards running the household and looking after finances. Unfortunately, we're both shit with money, so we have a system in place that gives us what we need and saves the rest to pay for the new house that is currently being built. That being said, the Midget pretty much does everything to ensure the household runs smoothly and that we have food & clothes and the kids go to school, etc.

[peterpan]

Breeding, ironing and washing, occasionally Cooking when I feel the need to eat some shit.
My daughters are as capable as she isn't, so increasingly I rely on them . Finances, not a chance !

[laymond]

the wife and i have a very good buisness in oz,we dont employ people,we do all the work ourselves,and the most important thing that my wife learnt was that all our money comes from our hard work.she knows how hard we work and understands the value of money.theres no money wasting in this little familly.
you get out what you put in.

[Loy Toy]

This is one thread I cannot tell a porky on as many here know my wife.

HEAPS.

She is just bricking up our new downstairs kitchen.

[aging one]

Same as Loy Toy, she now has the workers outside getting organized what they do, and what we do.

Without her my kids would also still be in a shit Thai school. I must admit after 20 years of marriage she is the best thing that ever happened to me.

I would think the same way as LT, if you have met my wife you know just what I am talking about.

[koman]

This is one thread I cannot tell a porky on as many here know my wife.

HEAPS.

She is just bricking up our new downstairs kitchen.

WTF...you force your poor wife to do hard manual labour like brick laying..... when you can hire a man to do it for 300 batskies a day........
LT...Slavemaster....

[Loy Toy]

WTF...you force your poor wife to do hard manual labour like brick laying..... when you can hire a man to do it for 300 batskies a day........
LT...Slavemaster....

And she drilled all the masonry holes and bent up all the foundation steel, tied it all together and done a bloody great job.

To be honest I can leave her with things, she really enjoys doing it and I cannot get a contractor to do a better job.

On top of that she made me some great steak and onion pies last night.......the best in Thailand.

[Davis Knowlton]

^My wife pretty much built our house. On site 12 hours a day for 9 months. As I type, she is on site at my oldest son's house, which is about 90% completed. And today in almost 100 degree heat. I did the designs with her, she runs the crew (35 guys on the build of our house), does purchasing, etc, etc. The one finishing up now is her third build.

[Boon Mee]

I depend on my wife for the vocabulary words I've forgotten. Like today, a big 'ol hairy spider goes cruising across the patio and I said: "Check out that maak muan". She turns to me with a withering look - it's 'Mang moom'. And, of course, the family has a laugh at the Farang who doesn't speak perfect Thai - again...

[SEA Traveler]

I had a long and detailed report I was going to submit but a wrong button was pushed and the text lost. I'm not going to reconstruct right now, I gotta go do some of my chores outside in the yard. The wife is doing hers now in the kitchen and laundry. I'll be paying some bills tomorrow and getting some money out of the ATM.

[Loy Toy]

I had a long and detailed report I was going to submit but a wrong button was pushed and the text lost.

You should have got your wife to push the right button mate.

[Bangyai]

This is one thread I cannot tell a porky on as many here know my wife.

HEAPS.

She is just bricking up our new downstairs kitchen.

Let me know if she needs a hand with the rendering. Ms Bangyai should finish changing the transmission on our Nissan today and will be free by tomorrow

[Loy Toy]

^ Thanks mate and you, Davis and I are very lucky men.