Did you look at the Youtube video above - Hitleresque speeches like that lunatic from Belgium, aswells immediate front foot aggression by the Frenchman and the Alcoholic do not seem to parallel your cool, calm and collected vision... Also, as I noted above, and you can go onto Youtube and other social media sites to check for yourself, the pro-EU propaganda machine is going into overdrive these last few days. If May holds her nerve, and nothing crazy happens in parliament then the EU are fuked.
To support this assertion, do you notice Moggmeister and Davies shouting and screaming? Nope, because they are very happy the way it's playing out - the EU over-played its hand that's very clear.
By the way, many deals have been made already, from free movement of people, to investment in Calais to EU nations passing laws (Spain have been in London this week making mutual deals), so this cliff-edge idea is just stupid. A 'hard' Brexit has Britain suffering and the EU suffering, but Britain is in a far better position to take the pain (then prosper). Once Germany's economy fails, which will happen in 2019, the European Central bank is fuked, France will start bickering and blaming Germany, Italy will do crazy Italian stuff, and the smaller EU nations will drop out as their financial benefits drop dramatically. The EU, if it doesn't make a deal now, shaming itself in the process, is fuked - that was always gonna be the case. Just saying...