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    Quote Originally Posted by FailSafe
    You DON'T screw the help- it always ends badly
    yeah, easy to say, but what if she is really cute and has a nice butt?

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    Quote Originally Posted by dirtydog View Post
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    basically she had everything a wife would have, nice house, meals, etc. but without having to do the nasty
    So your maid didn't do the cleaning?

    You don't mean she never washed her hands after pissing did she ??

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    I remembered this thread and thought I could get some answers.

    My friend (genuine) Was complaining at work today that he hasn't been in the saddle for nearly two years with the wife. (Since the baby was born) And that also the house is dirty.

    I have suggested he gets a maid with benefits. He lives in a 9 million bhat house so it's big enough to house her.

    I also so suggested that he gets one from Laos or Burma for financial reasons, but what really are the practacalities of this situation. How would you go about instigarting the other stuff without the wife knowing? And more importantly, where would you get one from?

    Genuinely interested from posters with this experience....


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    Sounds dangerous. Don't shit in your own nest seems to be good advice.

    Just tell him to go to Soi Cowboy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StrontiumDog
    Don't shit in your own nest seems to be good advice.
    No chance of that for me. My wife hires our maids, thus we have had a procession of the ugliest, most agricultural specimens in the whole country.

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    Have been reading this thread with interest !

    My situation was set out in post # 101 .
    Was talking to her yesterday on the phone and she reminded me of one of the best laughs we had during our relationship.

    I took her to UK for the first time in 1990 and at that time she spoke very little English ( she now speaks it better than I !) and always carried her Mandarin English dictionary with her .

    Went into a bar/bistro that I was a partner in and she caused a sensation . First Chinese attractive lady ever seen in that part of the world!
    Was surrounded by the lads at the bar all trying to chat her up !

    When she was asked "was she my wife?' she looked a little perplexed and dug out the dictionary.

    After rummaging through it she announced to the assembled company who had fallen silent waiting her reply -

    I AM HIS CONCUBINE !!!


    Now that's a word that sums up many of the relationships I have read about on this thread !


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    Quote Originally Posted by deathstardan View Post
    My friend (genuine) Was complaining at work today that he hasn't been in the saddle for nearly two years with the wife. (Since the baby was born)

    would you go about instigarting the other stuff without the wife knowing?
    Would he do the same thing in his country?…..Why would he do it in Thailand?
    Just because he thinks he can get away with it?..... What does he think a marriage or the word respect is?
    Be careful he may be losing the best thing he ever had in his life.

    A dog is always a dog, doesn't matter what country it is in. A guy like that, earns no respect from me as a person.

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    As numerous suggestions - "Don't shit in your nest".

    deathstardan -- I find it better to suggest for your friend to head to soi cowboy, or Nana for a couple of short time adventures, than risk his livelyhood, house, and saving -- not to mention peace of mind -- for some carnal action. I mean, seriously, how stupid a suggestion is bringing the drama home? Keep it outsourced.

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    Quote Originally Posted by deathstardan View Post

    My friend (genuine) Was complaining at work today that he hasn't been in the saddle for nearly two years with the wife. (Since the baby was born)
    It sounds like she has pretty much given up on him, maybe she only ever wanted the cash and the kid ???? if that's the case then GTF out of there.

    And that also the house is dirty.
    It is really hard to keep a house clean and tidy with a new born, but after two years.....she's taking the piss for sure



    I have suggested he gets a maid with benefits.
    Bad move that one...no way a Thai wife is ever gonna put up with the competition
    (I don't want ya but no one else can have you either mentality)

    Wifey will be thinking about her potential financial losses too, BIG can of worms this is



    He lives in a 9 million bhat house so it's big enough to house her.
    If he's got a few quid and he wants regular pussy with the same chick he's much better off setting up a fuckfing nearby.


    I'd just divorce the bitch if I were him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Happyman
    Went into a bar/bistro that I was a partner in and she caused a sensation . First Chinese attractive lady ever seen in that part of the world! Was surrounded by the lads at the bar all trying to chat her up ! When she was asked "was she my wife?' she looked a little perplexed and dug out the dictionary. After rummaging through it she announced to the assembled company who had fallen silent waiting her reply - I AM HIS CONCUBINE !!!
    Excellent stuff HM: thanks for sharing...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sdigit
    I'd just divorce the bitch if I were him.
    yup, sound advice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by deathstardan View Post
    My friend (genuine) Was complaining at work today that he hasn't been in the saddle for nearly two years with the wife. (Since the baby was born)

    would you go about instigarting the other stuff without the wife knowing?
    Would he do the same thing in his country?…..Why would he do it in Thailand?
    Just because he thinks he can get away with it?..... What does he think a marriage or the word respect is?
    Be careful he may be losing the best thing he ever had in his life.

    A dog is always a dog, doesn't matter what country it is in. A guy like that, earns no respect from me as a person.
    A woman who refuses her husband sex for two years is not a true wife. She may be the mother of thier child and have legal claim on joint assets, but she does not deserve the same level of loyalty a real wife should. Sure, if there is a medical reason for it OK, but if its just plain selfishness now that she has secured her financial position with a kid, she doesn't deserve to be treated like a real wife.

    I dont think the full service maid is a good idea at all.
    Best to bight the bullet and move on if the woman does not want to be a wife.

    My first wife started using sex as a weapon to get her own way. It caused a slow and painful breakdown in the marriage. I never fooled around with another woman in the year it took for the marriage to finally end. However, I did have plenty of female company after she moved out to stay with her new boyfriend. I didn't find out till a couple of years later and the loss of many of our mutual friends that she had been putting it around that the reason for our breakup was my infidelity.
    So in retrospect, I should have called it quits when she first decided to stop acting like a real wife.

    For older couples sex is not so important, especially if they have been together for a long time and have a good relationship otherwise. But for a younger couple its a fundamental part of a marriage. Essentially, when the woman starts holding out on sex for selfish reasons, the marriage is finished;-- even if they choose to stay living together for reasons of their own convenience.

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    Quote Originally Posted by deathstardan View Post

    I have suggested he gets a maid with benefits. He lives in a 9 million bhat house so it's big enough to house her.

    I also so suggested that he gets one from Laos or Burma for financial reasons,
    In all honesty, that really has to count as one of the worst pieces of advice I have ever seen on this board.

    Point him in the direction of the nearest soapy massage parlour if you must get involved.

    As an aside, have some consideration of the poor lao or burma lass coming down to work as a maid. These people are very limited in their free choices and as such are severely restricted in their ability to say "no" given that they rely on their employer for the food in their mouths and the roof over thier head. I would make a good guess that many of the girls comming down to work come to work as maids - not virtual slave prostitutes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Panda View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by deathstardan View Post
    My friend (genuine) Was complaining at work today that he hasn't been in the saddle for nearly two years with the wife. (Since the baby was born)

    would you go about instigarting the other stuff without the wife knowing?
    Would he do the same thing in his country?…..Why would he do it in Thailand?
    Just because he thinks he can get away with it?..... What does he think a marriage or the word respect is?
    Be careful he may be losing the best thing he ever had in his life.

    A dog is always a dog, doesn't matter what country it is in. A guy like that, earns no respect from me as a person.
    A woman who refuses her husband sex for two years is not a true wife. She may be the mother of thier child and have legal claim on joint assets, but she does not deserve the same level of loyalty a real wife should. Sure, if there is a medical reason for it OK, but if its just plain selfishness now that she has secured her financial position with a kid, she doesn't deserve to be treated like a real wife.
    Selfish or not, they should talk it out. We really don't know the real reason why she is withholding the sex part, therefore we shouldn't speculate too much that the fault is hers.
    Anyone in a good marriage/relationship should hold certain honesty and respect to your partner, not running around trying to cheat behind each other back.

    Be a man, and be up front about it of your needs and wants. Cheating is easy but it is not the answer to the problem in a long run, in fact it might create a bigger problem.

    And anyone who is in a good relationship knows that sex is not the number one reason why you are with your partner. But what can I say, when many farangs guys are here in thailand mainly because of cheap sex/women and alcohol.

    Still ...Best is to do one woman at a time

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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake
    And anyone who is in a good relationship knows that sex is not the number one reason why you are with your partner.
    Are you sure? I'm not convinced.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake View Post

    Still ...Best is to do one woman at a time
    To be fair, two women at the same time is pretty awesome....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Panda View Post

    A woman who refuses her husband sex for two years is not a true wife. She may be the mother of thier child and have legal claim on joint assets, but she does not deserve the same level of loyalty a real wife should. Sure, if there is a medical reason for it OK, but if its just plain selfishness now that she has secured her financial position with a kid, she doesn't deserve to be treated like a real wife.

    I dont think the full service maid is a good idea at all.
    Best to bight the bullet and move on if the woman does not want to be a wife.

    My first wife started using sex as a weapon to get her own way. It caused a slow and painful breakdown in the marriage. I never fooled around with another woman in the year it took for the marriage to finally end. However, I did have plenty of female company after she moved out to stay with her new boyfriend. I didn't find out till a couple of years later and the loss of many of our mutual friends that she had been putting it around that the reason for our breakup was my infidelity.
    So in retrospect, I should have called it quits when she first decided to stop acting like a real wife.

    For older couples sex is not so important, especially if they have been together for a long time and have a good relationship otherwise. But for a younger couple its a fundamental part of a marriage. Essentially, when the woman starts holding out on sex for selfish reasons, the marriage is finished;-- even if they choose to stay living together for reasons of their own convenience.

    Great post, it echos many of my own experiences and my sentiments to a T

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    Travel mate:
    Well to me, if I can't see both of us enjoying each other company well into when we're both in the 80s, then there is no point of marrying someone isn't it?

    I guess it's because of also my upbringing, when I see my parents and grandparents are truely enjoying each other company esp conversationally.

    However most farangs are here after multiple divorces in their pocket, so the outlook and what the marriage life is all about may be different than how I see it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake View Post
    Travel mate:
    Well to me, if I can't see both of us enjoying each other company well into when we're both in the 80s, then there is no point of marrying someone isn't it?

    I guess it's because of also my upbringing, when I see my parents and grandparents are truely enjoying each other company esp conversationally.

    However most farangs are here after multiple divorces in their pocket, so the outlook and what the marriage life is all about may be different than how I see it.
    Are you Thai-Chinese?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake View Post
    there is no point of marrying someone isn't it?
    Agree

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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake
    However most farangs are here after multiple divorces in their pocket, so the outlook and what the marriage life is all about may be different than how I see it.
    Dang! Your previous post in this thread was very nice imho, but this one and this generalization is off the mark.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Panda View Post
    Essentially, when the woman starts holding out on sex for selfish reasons, the marriage is finished;-- even if they choose to stay living together for reasons of their own convenience.
    Totally agree. I had this nonsense with my first wife. The only reason I stayed in the relationship for so long was that as a Christian we try everything, before deciding to divorce.

    It was a living hell, for a hell-of-a-long time...

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    MC: Bullshit... Men need sex, women can go without for years, until the point it grows together... You don't give a man what he wants / needs, he IS going to find it elsewhere...

    My last wife actually told me to go out and get laid because she didn't want to have sex anymore... I divorced her within 1 year... No, she wasn't some old hag with children either...
    Give a man a match, and he'll be warm for a minute, but set him on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake View Post


    Be a man, and be up front about it of your needs and wants.

    I would hazard a guess that the guy has been up front about his needs and wants on at least several occasions, to be fair. It's been two years.....


    Grounds for divorce, in my opinion. As others have said, she clearly has no interest in acting the part of his wife.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by mooncake View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by deathstardan View Post
    My friend (genuine) Was complaining at work today that he hasn't been in the saddle for nearly two years with the wife. (Since the baby was born)

    would you go about instigarting the other stuff without the wife knowing?
    Would he do the same thing in his country?…..Why would he do it in Thailand?
    Just because he thinks he can get away with it?..... What does he think a marriage or the word respect is?
    Be careful he may be losing the best thing he ever had in his life.

    A dog is always a dog, doesn't matter what country it is in. A guy like that, earns no respect from me as a person.
    A woman who refuses her husband sex for two years is not a true wife. She may be the mother of thier child and have legal claim on joint assets, but she does not deserve the same level of loyalty a real wife should. Sure, if there is a medical reason for it OK, but if its just plain selfishness now that she has secured her financial position with a kid, she doesn't deserve to be treated like a real wife.
    Selfish or not, they should talk it out. We really don't know the real reason why she is withholding the sex part, therefore we shouldn't speculate too much that the fault is hers.
    Anyone in a good marriage/relationship should hold certain honesty and respect to your partner, not running around trying to cheat behind each other back.

    Be a man, and be up front about it of your needs and wants. Cheating is easy but it is not the answer to the problem in a long run, in fact it might create a bigger problem.

    And anyone who is in a good relationship knows that sex is not the number one reason why you are with your partner. But what can I say, when many farangs guys are here in thailand mainly because of cheap sex/women and alcohol.

    Still ...Best is to do one woman at a time
    Total BS there Mooncakes.
    Sex is the fundamental reason men are attracted to women in the first place.
    Sure it often develops into true love just the way nature intended so that we reproduce under the best possible circumstances. But writing sex off as not important or of little importance in a relationship, --- especially in younger couples, is way off the mark. Young men generally have raging sex drives, women it appears to some lesser extent. Thats the way nature intended it to be so that they would bond, bonk and make babies. Take the sex out of a marriage, and I am talking mainly younger people under 50 here, and you remove that primal bond that holds them together. Sometimes love and companionship just aint enough when hormones are raging. Sex is a very normal, and indeed intrinsic part of virtually all male/female marital relationships during child bearing years.

    Certainly in the twilight, post menopausal years when reproduction is no longer a factor, companionship, familiarity and the bond of decades together is usually enough to keep couples together in the absence of an active sex life. But for younger couples when you take the sex out of a marriage there is most often very little else to hold the relationship together. And this is particularly true in younger couples because younger people will want to continue having sex, if not with their marital partners then with someone else outside their marriage.

    Women who cut off the supply of sex to their partner after producing children and securing thier financial future under modern societies rules are no longer fulfilling thier part of the obligation in the relationship. Depriving a husband and provider of his fundamental human needs for purely selfish reasons because she knows she has him over a financial barrel is not being a wife.

    I find it amazing that women who cause the breakdown of a marriage (or in some cases, engineer it), through withholding sex from their husbands, so often again turn into little fcuk-bunnies when released back onto the open market again in search of a replacement male protector and provider. Prostitution by another name.

    Isn't it ironic that in our so called modern civilized society we have provided the financial incentive for women to cash their husbands in when the going gets tough. Various studies over the years show that in a substantial majority of cases it is the woman who initiates the breakdown of a marriage ending in divorce and of course property and financial settlement. Denial of sex is only the first step in that process.

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