Maid with benefits

[Stinky]

About a month ago, we employed a Burmese maid, whom we'd know for more than a year. Young lady, not unattractive, but more importantly, a good and honest worker. The very thought of taking some kind of advantage of this girl, through coercion or threat of employment, is completely abhorrent to me. What on earth are some of you guys thinking of of???

It would be totally wrong to pressure an existing maid to widen her duties to include sleeping with the boss.

I don't however have a problem with employing a maid from scratch for those extra services, as long as she is fully aware I don't see any moral problem

[PAG]

About a month ago, we employed a Burmese maid, whom we'd know for more than a year. Young lady, not unattractive, but more importantly, a good and honest worker. The very thought of taking some kind of advantage of this girl, through coercion or threat of employment, is completely abhorrent to me. What on earth are some of you guys thinking of of???

It would be totally wrong to pressure an existing maid to widen her duties to include sleeping with the boss.

I don't however have a problem with employing a maid from scratch for those extra services, as long as she is fully aware I don't see any moral problem

Agree.

[crippen]

I hope she is getting paid the minimum wage.

[PAG]

I hope she is getting paid the minimum wage.

Yup, as well as having her own room with en suite, cable TV, and of course all meals (she especially likes when I cook Western food). She cleans a couple of friends of mine houses on the same estate, maybe 3 or 4 times a month. The (good) money they give her for that is of course her's also. Her parents are also in Phuket, living and working in a construction site. Although she has a day off a week, and in spite of us being more than willing to take her to Mom/Dad, she stays in our place instead. In 2 months, she's only gone to her home once, and that for a few hours only when her Dad was sick.

[wefearourdespot]

Yup, as well as having her own room with en suite, cable TV, and of course all meals (she especially likes when I cook Western food).

You have a live in maid and you do the cooking ?

[PAG]

Yup, as well as having her own room with en suite, cable TV, and of course all meals (she especially likes when I cook Western food).

You have a live in maid and you do the cooking ?

The wife does the Thai food, I do the western food. My old Mum's staying with us at the moment also, and she's not a great fan of Thai food, so hence I'm cooking more than usual.

[kingwilly]

and sooner or later the maid will demand that you (both) need a maid.

[Stinky]

That's usually the way it goes Willy but that's when you re-assert the rules, if you jump on it soon enough it should be OK.

My problem was always not jumping on it quick enough, blurring the lines, letting her come to my room instead of going to hers, that kind of thing.

It soon becomes a habit and that's when she thinks she has a relationship and it all goes pear shaped, it takes a fair amount of discipline to keep the boundaries defined.

[wefearourdespot]

Yup, as well as having her own room with en suite, cable TV, and of course all meals (she especially likes when I cook Western food).

You have a live in maid and you do the cooking ?

The wife does the Thai food, I do the western food.

Well, the fact your maid has both you and your wife at her service for cooking her meals should reassure her about the nutritional variety of her menu

P.S. Just out of curiosity, the time you wish to eat something expensive, like smoked salmon , you have to buy an extra portion for the maid too ?

[PAG]

Yup, as well as having her own room with en suite, cable TV, and of course all meals (she especially likes when I cook Western food).

You have a live in maid and you do the cooking ?

The wife does the Thai food, I do the western food.

Well, the fact your maid has both you and your wife at her service for cooking her meals should reassure her about the nutritional variety of her menu

P.S. Just out of curiosity, the time you wish to eat something expensive, like smoked salmon , you have to buy an extra portion for the maid too ?

OK, Maid cleans, does laundry etc, doesn't (can't) cook. My wife is a great cook, and I'm reasonably proficient at Western food. Don't like smoked salmon, but take your point. Yes, whatever we eat, be it expensive or not, the maid is at least offered the same. Actually, I probably make far too much food for one meal anyway, with the inevitable wastage, and hence our food bill hasn't noticeably risen since the maid arrived.

[Butterfly]

why would you want to fuck your maid ? better to get an old and ugly one and then have a regular fuckdoll you can change every week,

good maid are hard to find,

[kingwilly]

why would you want to fuck your maid ? better to get an old and ugly one and then have a regular fuckdoll you can change every week,

good maid are hard to find,

indeed. we've been trying tell this bozo that for the last 14 pages.

[wefearourdespot]

why would you want to fuck your maid ? better to get an old and ugly one and then have a regular fuckdoll you can change every week,

good maid are hard to find,

I agree , but the thread is titled "maid with benefits".
Whether you want her because she happens to be attractive or just because you cannot afford anything else is unrelevant , the scenario is given.

[Panda]

why would you want to fuck your maid ? better to get an old and ugly one and then have a regular fuckdoll you can change every week,

good maid are hard to find,

I believe the underlying reason would have to be economy, -- $$$.
Hiring one multi-skilled worker is cheaper than hiring two specialists.
Though one could end up with an employee who does neither job too well.

[PAG]

Really, this is a very interesting thread, with many alternatives of views and philosophy's. If you're so inclined, and negotiate the 'terms and conditions', of course there is nothing wrong with having a maid who doesn't object to 'additional services'. Equally, if that arrangement exists, then there is a higher than average possibility that there's going to be some grief in the future.

However, taking a solely genuine maid (i.e. in my circumstance), and then thinking about putting some kind of pressure on her to put out, really doesn't sit well with my conscience, (and certainly not my wife's) and in truth is never going to happen. For those who do negotiate, and make some kind of satisfactory agreement, good luck, but the bottom line is that what you're paying for is a service which in truth, isn't maybe really wanted, and is only being done because you're an employer. Better to get the occasional BG or whomever to do the necessary, and don't confuse the issue with laundry and cleaning etc.

[Looper]

And even worse you are a whoremonger in the true sense of the word since you have turned an ostensibly respectable woman into a whore.

Having broken the taboo I would guess she is much more likely to consider it an option in the future which is not likely to be a good thing for her long term happiness.

[wefearourdespot]

And even worse you are a whoremonger in the true sense of the word since you have turned an ostensibly respectable woman into a whore.

Having broken the taboo I would guess she is much more likely to consider it an option in the future which is not likely to be a good thing for her long term happiness.

Well this thread is actually about the employer's happyness , not the employee's.
Anyway what makes you presume her "long term happyness" would be affected by some whoring and the related extra income ? If you are struggling with 6,000 baht a month, such extra income can change your life for a lot better.

[PAG]

And even worse you are a whoremonger in the true sense of the word since you have turned an ostensibly respectable woman into a whore.

Having broken the taboo I would guess she is much more likely to consider it an option in the future which is not likely to be a good thing for her long term happiness.

Well this thread is actually about the employer's happyness , not the employee's.
Anyway what makes you presume her "long term happyness" would be affected by some whoring and the related extra income ? If you are struggling with 6,000 baht a month, such extra income can change your life for a lot better.

You're not wrong of course, but ultimately rests with the person in question. Think we're all agreed that if someone genuinely wants to enter into that kind of service/relationship, that's fine. My comments (and I think of others) are directed towards those who get a maid for an agreed domestic service, and then put her in a position where her future employment depends on 'servicing' her employer.

[Looper]

^^
Taking a few thousand baht fun money today could make her marriage options severely restricted a few years down the line. She might be too young to see the full cost of what she is being coerced into.

Also if it opens her eyes to the possibility of a career in whoring then the cost can be high too if she isn't tough enough. If she was just looking for work as a maid and your coercion results in her trying her luck in Pattaya then she could suffer iretrievable loss of face without realising what she was getting into.

If you see your maid in 10 years with a tramp stamp across her arse and a drug addiction then you have probably contributed sigificantly to her misfortune. However, if the thought of that does not put a dent in your happyness then you then you have nothing to worry about.

[Muadib]

Another way of looking at it is that you could have a live-in slapper on retainer, who also does a bit of cooking & cleaning... Just sayin'...

[Fabian]

If you see your maid in 10 years with a tramp stamp across her arse and a drug addiction then you have probably contributed sigificantly to her misfortune. However, if the thought of that does not put a dent in your happyness then you then you have nothing to worry about.

Are you sure bonking your maid will have such horible effects on her?

[Stinky]

^^
Taking a few thousand baht fun money today could make her marriage options severely restricted a few years down the line.

It's been my experience that young Thais fuck like rabbits (I've seen it myself from the time I lived in the villages) and unless you employ a hi-so maid with benefits (which ain't bloody likely) I really don't think that finding marriage suitors is going to be a problem

She might be too young to see the full cost of what she is being coerced into.

I don't think any one of us is talking about hiring a child or a misfit that is unaware of what they are getting involved in. As has been said her before "the girl must be fully aware"

Also if it opens her eyes to the possibility of a career in whoring then the cost can be high too if she isn't tough enough. If she was just looking for work as a maid and your coercion results in her trying her luck in Pattaya then she could suffer iretrievable loss of face without realising what she was getting into.

Well if she willing to be a maid with benefits theres a fair chance that she'd be willing to try her hand at Patters anyway.

Once again none of us are talking about coercing an unwilling girl or a girl unable to make an adult decision.

And as for the face thing....well a good living and a big wad of cash is a great face saver in Thailand

If you see your maid in 10 years with a tramp stamp across her arse and a drug addiction then you have probably contributed sigificantly to her misfortune.

Total nonsense, do you think that we're going to be giving her drugs and taking her off to wild sex, booze and drug parties, warping her fragile little mind

My you have an active imagination Looper

[kingwilly]

Though one could end up with an employee who does neither job too well.

indeed, girlfriends dont make good cleaners, and i'm sure maids dont make good fuckbuddies

Another way of looking at it is that you could have a live-in slapper on retainer, who also does a bit of cooking & cleaning... Just sayin'...

Innit that what most blokes in thailand have.... a slapper who does a bit of cleaning...

It's been my experience that young Thais fuck like rabbits (I've seen it myself from the time I lived in the villages) and unless you employ a hi-so maid with benefits (which ain't bloody likely) I really don't think that finding marriage suitors is going to be a problem

My previous maid had at least two friends complaining about the husbands wanting a quickie while the wife was out. One said she reluctantly agreed, the other quit her job.

[Muadib]

Another way of looking at it is that you could have a live-in slapper on retainer, who also does a bit of cooking & cleaning... Just sayin'...

Innit that what most blokes in thailand have.... a slapper who does a bit of cleaning...

I forgot the

[kingwilly]

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