Return to the wine country ......

[Joe 90]

Sorry for your lost JP!

[CalEden]

Condolences Stumpy

After the funeral, let the lawyers take care of the estate and get your dad over as quick as possible. It's a big change in life to going from having someone in the house to being alone and nothing ain't much more depressing than that. Just my 2 cents....sorry if I'm intruding.

Ditto!

Stumpy, Sorry about your mothers passing. Your comforting efforts in your mothers last days, was much appreciated and gave her peace of mind.

[Stumpy]

Thanks to all for your condolences. For now it's a process for my Dad and quite a bit to coordinate before he can settle in and move on. Thankfully my brother finally engaged but he is complaining about it and will now attempt to control everything so it's convenient for him.

I will not be in attendance for the service as I just left and have some hard locked commitments here. I spoke with my cousin and she will set up a zoom type video so I can be in attendance from afar. My Dad fully understands and supports it.

Then first part of June my wife and I will return for a month and I will work remotely at my parents place and assess what are his intentions. My brother stated no way he is moving here. I just laughed inside as I do not want to debate that at this time, but in the end, it's my dad's decision. He knows without question that has a place here and we can make it work. But again that ultimately has to be his decision.



So for now, we get through the services.

[ootai]

Stumpy
All I can say is that it was great that you spent time back there with your Mum. I hadn't read this thread for a while so I was reading to catch up and you were talking about your Mum maybe not lasting much longer and what you were planning to do AND then wham you said she had passed on. I honestly felt for you as I am sure you would have been torn apart about not being able to turn around and go back to help your Dad.

But I am sure you will sort it out as you/we always do, so best wishes for you and your dad for the future and good luck.

[DrWilly]

My brother stated no way he is moving here. I just laughed inside as I do not want to debate that at this time, but in the end, it's my dad's decision.

The brother that never visits anyway... right.

Smart move in not engaging him now, or later. Just talk to you dad when the time is right, and if he wants to move then move. Nowt to do with your brother.

[BLD]

Well as life would be, my Mom passed today. I spent 15 outstanding days with my Dad and Mom and as important, I walked my youngest daughter down the aisle at her wedding. A true mixed bag of emotions. I have to say I suspected that my Mom waited until I came home. She enjoyed pics and video's of her grand daughter getting married as I shared them with her on the TV. I cooked all her favorite foods while there. Every morning when I took my walk through the vineyards then to the coffee shop I picked up her favorite maple bar donut. She would find a way to the table every morning to enjoy it. I arrived at their place a day before my Bday so we shared that and hers was May 5th and we shared that and I cooked her one of her favorite meals and baked her a cake. "Yeah I can bake" .

On the day the driver picked me up to head to the airport to return home, I gave her a big hug, said some words and she said "Thanks for making the trip, Its time we go". I knew then. By the time I landed in Taiwan and got connected to Wifi my phone was loaded with messages from my Dad and Brother. Mom had slipped into a coma. By the time I got to Thailand she was on a respirator. About 18 hrs later she had passed away. I knew she had waited. God Bless her.

I am so thankful I got to share those last days with her. She sat with my Dad and I as we watched the Warriors drinking beers and said how Stephen Curry is such a good player.

So sorry for your loss stumpy great that you got to spend time with her before she passed. When i moved back to oz a few years ago my mum passed while i was in transit back to oz got the message from my bro while boarding in bangkok. So didnt get to see mum one last time.

[BLD]

Condolences Stumpy

After the funeral, let the lawyers take care of the estate and get your dad over as quick as possible. It's a big change in life to going from having someone in the house to being alone and nothing ain't much more depressing than that. Just my 2 cents....sorry if I'm intruding.

I reckon topper is spot on, get yer dad over as soon as hes ready , he looks like a tough old pisan ( pisano in australia) hope it all works out

[Stumpy]

So sorry for your loss

Thanks BLD.

I reckon topper is spot on,

Yeah. I will see what he wants to do. I plan a trip back Mid June. Ultimately the decision is his.

[bsnub]

The brother that never visits anyway... right.

It really is amazing how close you start out with brothers and sisters as children, and in some cases can wind up having nothing in common with them in adulthood. It is kind of sad, really.

[BLD]

It really is amazing how close you start out with brothers and sisters as children, and in some cases can wind up having nothing in common with them in adulthood. It is kind of sad, really.

Yes, gotta agree, my brother was looking after my old mum very well even though he lived a long way from her but he would visit at least twice a week, my sister on the other hand only lived 20 minutes away but rarely visited , except when she wanted something

[Stumpy]

It really is amazing how close you start out with brothers and sisters as children, and in some cases can wind up having nothing in common with them in adulthood. It is kind of sad, really.

Amen to that Snubs. My brother seldom ever visits my parents and lives just over an hour away and if he does its for a few hours and leaves. I fly 8k miles and stay with them for 3 weeks to a month at a time about 2 times a year. I even made the trek during the peak time during covid.

Sadly I have absolutely nothing in common with my brother and we seldom ever speak.

[BLD]

Im sure stumpys family will sort it out but it can get kinda fucked up in my case for example when mum passed she left me and my brother $10000 each , not a lot of money but thats all she had,my sister received nothing because 10 years previous her and her boyfriend had talked mum into parting with a substantial amount of $ because they bought a house with a granny flat attached. The sister and boyfriend relationship didnt last long so they had to sell the house, leaving mum in a precarious situation. To this day my sister is pissed of she didnt get anything from mums estate
Plus she financed her to go to canada to see her sons offspring, my posts a bit long winded but just saying how it can get bent out of shape when a loved one pass,s

[MarilynMonroe]

Nice pics and sounds like a great time, Stumpy!
Congrats on your daughter's wedding, looks lovely. Must be very proud!

Cheers

[cyrille]

Sad news stump. The timing showed how much your visit meant to your mum.

Looks like some good living out there.