Thread: How many times have you been married?

I'd like to add a related question:

How many posters here have [i]returned to the native western countries and brought the Asian wives back there to live?

This is what I'm curious about?

How did that work out?

Once. 10 years now and everything is great.

(for barbaro - 3 years in Australia at the start then 1 year New Zealand then 4 years Thailand and now back in Australia)

Originally Posted by cheekyman

Originally Posted by nigelandjan

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Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog
Unlucky. A pre-nup in Thailand isn't worth shit.
same same in the UK now to

Agreed for UK but wrong for Thailand - Mine was drawn up to protect my aussie assets.

They are registered in Australia under the family law act. Prenups are enforceable in Thailand if registered at the time of marriage under Thai civil and commercial code and both parties follow the required procedure.

Australian Family law has precedence over any civil pre-nup.

If either party wants to dispute the pre-nup then the family court can make a ruling and any clause of the prenup that can be shown to be un fair under the family law act can be nullified.

That is true even if the pre-nup has signatures saying that the parties received legal advice at the time of signing.

Originally Posted by cheekyman

Originally Posted by patsycat

He was a bastard wife beater, so I left.

What did your dad say??

Told me to get the hell out and I did.

Originally Posted by barbaro

I'd like to add a related question:

How many posters here have [i]returned to the native western countries and brought the Asian wives back there to live?

This is what I'm curious about?

How did that work out?

We have been here about a year now(California). She has adjusted well but does not care for it much in general for a host of reasons and clearly would like to return to Thailand as soon I sell my house. She speaks English fluently so she was not totally lost but does depend on me for a ton. Interesting how you might speak a countries native language but that does not assist much in how things just work around the place. It has been a excellent experience for both of us being I depended on her for a lot in Thailand and now that she does on me here. The best part is we both have a better understanding of that support and how important it is.

Originally Posted by JPPR2

We have been here about a year now(California). She has adjusted well but does not care for it much in general for a host of reasons and clearly would like to return to Thailand as soon I sell my house. She speaks English fluently so she was not totally lost but does depend on me for a ton. Interesting how you might speak a countries native language but that does not assist much in how things just work around the place. It has been a excellent experience for both of us being I depended on her for a lot in Thailand and now that she does on me here. The best part is we both have a better understanding of that support and how important it is.

My Thai wife and myself are living in Oz at present - she prefers Oz - which is surprising. She does feel a bit of racism from aussies, particularly the women!

Originally Posted by JPPR2

We have been here about a year now(California). She has adjusted well but does not care for it much in general for a host of reasons and clearly would like to return to Thailand as soon I sell my house. She speaks English fluently so she was not totally lost but does depend on me for a ton. Interesting how you might speak a countries native language but that does not assist much in how things just work around the place. It has been a excellent experience for both of us being I depended on her for a lot in Thailand and now that she does on me here. The best part is we both have a better understanding of that support and how important it is.

An interesting perspective, but a year isn't really that long when adjusting to a new culture and society IMHO. It took me a lot longer than that to figure out how "things tick" in Thailand and the other countries I have worked in.

Congrats and all the the very best wishes.

I loved my village wedding

Originally Posted by beazalbob69

We just got married in the village Today! Was just a small thing but nice. Now the village accepts Me as Her Husband for real lol.

Congratulations!

I never did the village thing, we just nipped out down to the Amphur at Sukhumvit soi 50 something in BKK to get the cert and then went for lunch and I went back to work. All done in a couple of hours or so.

I still owe her a honeymoon..

Originally Posted by beazalbob69

We just got married in the village Today! Was just a small thing but nice. Now the village accepts Me as Her Husband for real lol.
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Many congrats to you both Bob hope you are both very happy together.

Cant raise a glass for you both tonight as I am taxi driver for the wife , nevermind will have a swift half next Saturday for you

Originally Posted by Strongarm

Mrs is with me in Australia (Perth) ,Hates abbo's.

Don't take long once people see them in action.

Smart girl that one of yours for sure.

Originally Posted by cheekyman

Got Thai wifey to sign a fairly bulletproof pre-nup.

Now there is a whole nother story , suffice to say I hope you don't need to test the bullet proof properties .....................

/God I'm making a habit of del.

Originally Posted by FlyFree

I'm probably still married to one of my exes. If you stop playing the game, they can't screw you. Easy, innit.

Thinking of that country-ditty:

All My Exes Come From Texas....

^Kindly edit the quote out RS you damn acid freak.

Originally Posted by cheekyman

She does feel a bit of racism from aussies, particularly the women!

She has not felt any racism here but where we live is such a melting pot of people she just blends right in. I felt this was the best place to land because of that. Tremendous amount of Asian influence here.

Originally Posted by quimbian corholla

An interesting perspective, but a year isn't really that long when adjusting to a new culture and society IMHO. It took me a lot longer than that to figure out how "things tick" in Thailand and the other countries I have worked in.

I think that is true for the most part. Some areas when I traveled and lived for work I was able to adapt to much faster then others. I was able to adapt to Thailand in about 6 months for the most part but in fairness I started in Bangkok and city life versus country life are way different.

Originally Posted by beazalbob69

We just got married in the village Today!

Congratulations!!!! Best wishes to you.

Originally Posted by S Landreth

The girlfriend needs me like a hole in the head. She enjoys her independence and I believe would rather I not warn her/hover over her too much about Miami city streets and how dangerous they are or can be. This year she’ll be getting her own car.

I can probably say the same now for the most part. She does her thing but prefers staying close. One thing I have found absolutely hilarious is she complains about the Asian drivers already. Quite amusing. I told her that Thais drive WAY better then the Chinese and Vietnamese here by a ton. She believes me now. She had driven for nearly 13 years in Thailand and now 1 year here. I bought her a car shortly after we landed and I sent her on her way.


I personally think the single biggest driver to return to Thailand is because she owns a very nice home there and she knows we can both be quite comfortable. To buy one here makes zero sense. I tend to agree. She likes many things here but also sees how expensive it is and living in weekends always seems rushed to her. She works full time now but is only doing it to pad her savings back home. I had to laugh the other day as she looked at her paycheck stub and said "I basically give one day a week of work for taxes". Her boss is really working a sweet deal with her however. Paying her US Minimum wage for her payroll check to keep it legit and the rest in cash. Win win for both of them.

Anyway I seriously doubt we will ever live full time in Thailand but we will call it home base. My hunch is we will stay there for a few years and travel back to US for some visits but return back after a few months. I do however believe that will slowly diminish to living in Thailand for most of it. We will have to see.

Originally Posted by Mid

Originally Posted by cheekyman

Got Thai wifey to sign a fairly bulletproof pre-nup.

Now there is a whole nother story , suffice to say I hope you don't need to test the bullet proof properties .....................

But his Thai lawyer said it was bullet-proof. Thai lawyers never just tell you what you want to hear so they can pocket you cash... ever!

Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog

Originally Posted by Mid
Quote:
Originally Posted by cheekyman
Got Thai wifey to sign a fairly bulletproof pre-nup.
Now there is a whole nother story , suffice to say I hope you don't need to test the bullet proof properties .....................
But his Thai lawyer said it was bullet-proof. Thai lawyers never just tell you what you want to hear so they can pocket you cash... ever!

Steady guys - The alternative is no pre-nup so are you suggesting that would be better.
I had the pre-nup done to basically protect my Aussie assets. I am always of the opinion that anything acquired in Thailand is really just a future donation.

Wife had no dramas - was happy to sign and agreed it was fair.

Let us hope that we never need to test pre-nups in law - however as wise heads state you never really someone until you meet them in adversity.

Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog

But his Thai lawyer said it was bullet-proof.

No - I stated it was fairly bulletproof - this statement has been attributed to my Thai Lawyer - not correct. Lawyers involved were Thai and Australian to cover both jurisdictions.

I guess a pre nup is good if you are incredibly wealthy and you know there are gold diggers out there that would love to climb on the "Half" wagon.

If I was to remarry most everything would be in my name at that point and I already have a trust fund in place. Its all personal property at that point so if she was scamming she would have no access to it. The only thing would be what was purchased after the marriage but I would have written that off anyway.

Hopefully you met a good woman and never have to test how it works...

Originally Posted by JPPR2

If I was to remarry most everything would be in my name at that point and I already have a trust fund in place. Its all personal property at that point so if she was scamming she would have no access to it. The only thing would be what was purchased after the marriage but I would have written that off anyway.

I am not up on American Law but in Oz No trust nor even your superannuation is protected automatically from an ex partner. Therefore a pre-nup imo was the sensible way to go.

Originally Posted by JPPR2

I guess a pre nup is good if you are incredibly wealthy

Everyones definition of wealthy is by nature subjective. To pre-empt your next post - just name a figure you think that is wealthy and I will confirm for you honestly whether I am above or below that figure. - You can then decide was it worth my $6k for the pre-nup

Originally Posted by cheekyman

Everyones definition of wealthy is by nature subjective. To pre-empt your next post - just name a figure you think that is wealthy and I will confirm for you honestly whether I am above or below that figure. - You can then decide was it worth my $6k for the pre-nup

I agree it is 100% subjective. I am not looking to ever pry into peoples personal financial info, none of my business. It seems that most Pre nups are done by people who feel they have a lot at risk and want to avoid losing it in the event the relationship go sideways.

In the US whatever you own PRIOR to marrying is what is called "personal property". If you set it up in a trust then marry it cannot become part of a divorce proceeding. However anything you purchase and build after your marriage is "community property" which is subject to having to be split between the 2 people if a divorce takes place.

I definitely think Pre Nups have a value if they work but most seem to be moot. I hear of them all the time falling apart and the gal gets a load of cash to just go away.

Originally Posted by JPPR2

In the US whatever you own PRIOR to marrying is what is called "personal property". If you set it up in a trust then marry it cannot become part of a divorce proceeding. However anything you purchase and build after your marriage is "community property" which is subject to having to be split between the 2 people if a divorce takes place.

Interesting - very similar to Thai law but you do not need the trust in Thailand.

Thanks for your opinion - much appreciated (again hope I never need it - so far so good)