Not every old farang with young Thai girl is a pervert

[FailSafe]

It's an unfortunate fact of life here in Thailand- the sight of a Western man with a Thai woman (even a very young one) equals "prostitution" in many people's eyes.

I've had issues when eating out with my wife- waitstaff has treated her poorly and used improper honorifics when speaking to her- more than one restaurant manager has found himself taking some very harsh criticism from me over that point.

Even after a decade here it still bothers me (even though the reason for people jumping to that conclusion is obvious).

[the dogcatcher]

Go to Puerto Portals in Mallorca.
You'll see plenty of 60 something guys with 25 year old girls, all about money as usuall.
Two years ago I was on a bat bus in Ko Chang with Laosy.
An old couple was sitting opposite us and the woman could not stop staring at us, so I started staring back wondering what the problem was.

Anyhow she cracked first.
"You people make me sick" she growled.
"You should be ashamed of yourself, how old is she, 14?"

I calmly pointed out that actually that Laosy was 28 and before she says anything else that no, she is not a prostitute.
I don't know whether the look on her face was that of embarresment or disbelief but she didn't continue on.
Laosy at this point realising that this was not a friendly conversation ask my in Thai, "what did she say darling"
I replied that "Lady think you 14 and work same same sow Pattaya"
Well Laosy went fucking mental, you know, the way only Asian girls know how.
I don't know exactly what format the diatribe of insults took and neither did the woman but they got off immediately anyway.

[good2bhappy]

"Lady think you 14 and work same same sow Pattaya"

sao as in her sister?

[the dogcatcher]

Sow? as in girl.
Not probaly correct but neither is Laosy's Thai.
She speaks weapons grade Khymer, I think?

[Bogon]

I understand where your coming from in your OP jaywalker, but things are gonna get a lot tougher with comments and stares as your (step) daughter gets older.
What's the solution? Unless you want to wear a T-shirt saying "THIS IS MY DAUGHTER F**CHEADS" you need to grow a thick skin.
Maybe some of you dudes out there can throw a few suggestions on how to deal with a situation like this? 'cos I 'aint got a clue.

[klongmaster]

I replied that "Lady think you 14 and work same same sow Pattaya"

If you really talk to your lady like this it's no wonder other people think she's a whore...FFS speak proper English to her...

[Marmite the Dog]

bat bus

Is that like the Batmobile but with more passengers?

[the dogcatcher]

That's the litteral translation of what I said in Thai.
As you well know if you type something in Thai on this forum you get some smart arse TEFLer coming up to start a long protracted conversation about why your Thai is rubbish.
Aside that 2 years ago had I said that in English she would have looked at me blankly.

[the dogcatcher]

bat bus

Is that like the Batmobile but with more passengers?

Solly.
Lot bat.

Not baht like most people think.

[Bobcock]

I have two boys, 12 and 10, the 12 year old is quite tall and very dark (his Mum is southern).

Imagine how I feel, they look at me like a paedo....... but just because a dickhead thinks it, doesn't make it true. Frankly I'd love one of them to say something, cos my son speaks better English and is better educated than most of them.

The other funny one was when my Dad visited when the youngest was still in a pushchair he'd go to the bank with my wife and push the pram, so there's the wife 30, my Dad 75 and a pushchair. It took them ages to figure out why people looked at them. They found it funny as hell rather than get pissed off about, after all they know the truth.

I work with a guy who is 73 and his 20 year old missus and him have two very small children. Up to him.

[BugginOut]

That really pisses me off though that people (Thai or Farang) make assumptions about some shit they know nothing about.

It sucks, for sure, but think of all those wonderful people who have come before you and laid the framework of misunderstanding that currently grieves you so. Don't take it personally, they're only reacting to past experience.

I'd be most worried about the Thai guy that's assuming my 12-year-old stepdaughter is soliciting foreign men and this gives him the right to address her in any way he pleases. He was looking to get some preteen.

[good2bhappy]

Be confident in yourself
Who cares what weirdos think

[good2bhappy]

He was looking to get some preteen.

probably feeling pangs of jealousy
A lot of these Thais are perverts

[Marmite the Dog]

my son speaks better English and is better educated than most of them

True. Smart lad, he is. You'd never expect his dad came from Tottenham.

[the dogcatcher]

Ermm, yeah.
Laosy's little girl will be 14 in 7 years.
Hadn,t thought how that may look.

[Bobcock]

You'd never expect his dad came from Tottenham.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[SEA Traveler]

...... I suppose you have something of a point there Muadib........That's why I never visit the north side of that hill and I live in Jomtien......The "Family" side of Pattaya..... It's a world away from Pattaya as far as the whorehouse mentality goes...It should be. There is, as far as I know a total of one short-time bar (The Winchester) in Jomtien, and zero go-go bars.

Jay

I understood that JAmtien was becomming the gay capitol of the Eartern Sea Board.

[the dogcatcher]

Originally Posted by jaywalker (Not every old farang with young Thai girl is a pervert)
...... I suppose you have something of a point there Muadib........That's why I never visit the north side of that hill and I live in Jomtien......The "Family" side of Pattaya..... It's a world away from Pattaya as far as the whorehouse mentality goes...It should be. There is, as far as I know a total of one short-time bar (The Winchester) in Jomtien, and zero go-go bars.

Sharnt be moving there then.

[good2bhappy]

and zero go-go bars.

not sure about that

[the dogcatcher]

Ask JayW.

[FarangRed]

I get it all the time when walking down the street with a poo ying I can hear the Thai guys saying what's that handsome bastard farang doing with that slapper

[CalEden]

She speaks weapons grade Khymer, I think?

5555!!!

[The Master Cool]

It's an unfortunate fact of life here in Thailand- the sight of a Western man with a Thai woman (even a very young one) equals "prostitution" in many people's eyes.

How is this an unfortunate fact of life in Thailand?

This is not the same as in the UK?

[good2bhappy]

I get it all the time when walking down the street with a poo ying I can hear the Thai guys saying what's that handsome bastard farang doing with that slapper

so you can understand Thai then?

[Loy Toy]

It doesn't matter where you are in the world, you are going to be subject to prying eyes, silent whispers and upsetting comments when you accept and indulge in a cross culture relationship.

It was not so long ago you could be arrested in some countries for conducting yourself in such a manner but I totally ignore it because I knew what I was getting myself into when I chose my life path.