Maid with benefits

[chitown]

I'm trying to think of a relationship I know where the money goes the other way ie Thai money goes to farang, and I can't.

Poor you. Mrs. Chi paid for lunch, groceries and an hour massage for me today! Just got me a cup of coffee too.

[nidhogg]

I'm trying to think of a relationship I know where the money goes the other way ie Thai money goes to farang, and I can't.

Well. My boss does pay me occassionally. And, as his employee, I suppose we have some sort of "relationship".

[Loombucket]

^^ Very well put Chitown, spot on!

Seconded!

[madjbs]

I'm trying to think of a relationship I know where the money goes the other way ie Thai money goes to farang, and I can't

Maybe because your "girlfriends" friends are bargirls (as you put it earlier) ......? Nobody expects to go into a restaurant and be paid to eat do they?

[Stinky]

I have found it’s really sad for anyone who needs to pay someone to be with you, relationship wise

That means you have no other admiring quality other than the money you have.

No it just means that we've had enough of all the crap that comes with a relationship but we still want a sex life.

Usually those craps.......take two to tango

Now you're making assumptions about what the craps are.
I just dont want to be tied to a woman, I want to come and go as I please without the Crap of accountability.

[madjbs]

^
Nobody is stopping you, just dont go and then spout this kind of rubbish

Thai ladies are this or that. Thai ladies don't cry......Thai ladies don't see love they way we do.....Thai ladies have less than honorable motives when it comes to love.....blah...blah...blah....blah....

[the dogcatcher]

GF as I call her has never worked in a bar. So as I said not your traditional story line on this one.

[chitown]

GF as I call her has never worked in a bar.

The respect you have for her shines so bright.

So as I said not your traditional story line on this one.

It is a traditional story line as it is clearly evident that the law of attraction is working greatly in your life!!!

[DrAndy]

Lots of different viewpoints

It all boils down to what you want for yourself

The problem comes when one person thinks his way is the best and makes assumptions about others relationships

If you are happy with your relationship, of whatever type, good, and it may be the best for you. That does not mean it is the best for anyone else, and no amount of justification or generalisations will make it so

[Stinky]

^Couldn't put it better if I tried

[chitown]

Lots of different viewpoints

It all boils down to what you want for yourself

The problem comes when one person thinks his way is the best and makes assumptions about others relationships

If you are happy with your relationship, of whatever type, good, and it may be the best for you. That does not mean it is the best for anyone else, and no amount of justification or generalisations will make it so

The guy said that in Asia love does not come without money. I don't think any of us were talking about a method that was better or worse.

Just being myth busters!

[blackgang]

Call me old fashioned but I believe deep down that is what most people want out of a relationship even if they cannot admit it.

Me too Boy, I am very lucky to have met the girl who became my wife.
Works everyday, has her own income, house and land, and we share everything, including bank accounts and credit cards.
As well as the cooking and housework.

[the dogcatcher]

GF as I call her has never worked in a bar.

The respect you have for her shines so bright.

So as I said not your traditional story line on this one.

It is a traditional story line as it is clearly evident that the law of attraction is working greatly in your life!!!

She does not act like a bargirl, she does not look or dress like one, she does ask for money but not much and not often. She works bloody hard, we laugh and joke together and have fun and she is an excellent mother who is trusted my many people in town to take care of their children as well. But I hold no illusions about her, if the money stops she goes, and I see this all the time all over the world but especially in Thailand. I work for some of the riches people in the world, but just of late some of them are not rich any more, in fact some are potless now. In the 5 cases I know about all but one has lost his woman, wives of many years can't get used to not having shed loads of cash, arguments errupt, and she goes to find pastures greener. I have to add that age differences here are greater than the norm.
There may be success stories in Thailand, but there are many more failures, only time will tell in your cases. I on the other hand know exactly where I stand. I did the love thing with farang girls, waste of time, and being one of those delluded twats in Pattaya who end up potless and broken hearted is not an outcome I am not willing to risk. Do I respect this girl, answer yes. Does she respect me, answer, dunno. How can we really know what goes on inside the head of any woman, especially an Asian one.

[blackgang]

I'm trying to think of a relationship I know where the money goes the other way ie Thai money goes to farang, and I can't.

Works that way with my wife and I too.

[the dogcatcher]

I'm trying to think of a relationship I know where the money goes the other way ie Thai money goes to farang, and I can't.

Works that way with my wife and I too.

Which way is that?

[DrAndy]

The guy said that in Asia love does not come without money. I don't think any of us were talking about a method that was better or worse.

I think all of us were talking about our relationship being better. The justifications are evidence of that

He thinks that relationships are based on money, fine for him. You do not, fine for you. You can argue your case until the cows come home but it will not change either of your viewpoints...why should it?

The generalisations that he used were offensive to those who know otherwise, but that is his way of justifying his preference

[blackgang]

Which way is that?

Money goes both ways, we put it in the bank and we spend some and leave some.

[larvidchr]

There is no love in Asia, just money.

Idiot comment of the day.

Try stopping the money then.

What money?

oops dogcatcher

[Dan]

He thinks that relationships are based on money, fine for him. You do not, fine for you. You can argue your case until the cows come home but it will not change either of your viewpoints...why should it?

He's making universal claims; those who argue against him aren't. There's not a symmetry there.

It all boils down to what you want for yourself

The problem comes when one person thinks his way is the best and makes assumptions about others relationships

If you are happy with your relationship, of whatever type, good, and it may be the best for you. That does not mean it is the best for anyone else, and no amount of justification or generalisations will make it so

A relationship involves two people, so whether or not it suits one of them isn't really - or isn't all of - the question. I think this is probably especially the case if the relationship is based on long-term prostitution.

[Digitalwolf]

I have found it’s really sad for anyone who needs to pay someone to be with you, relationship wise

That means you have no other admiring quality other than the money you have.

No it just means that we've had enough of all the crap that comes with a relationship but we still want a sex life.

Exactly. I am currently going through a divorce and seems like I am gonna get quite a beating. Even with no kids it doesn't seem fair that I go into debt and she gets 50% of everything I have worked so hard for even though she has a degree and I never minded that she didn't work until now. Grrrr!

It would be nice to have an arrangement where if I am the one making the money I am the one that gets to keep it. Or at least spend it more as I wish.

I can get a girl on charms, but look where that has gotten me.

[Marmite the Dog]

Well, if all Asian girls are only in it for the money, the Midget is either a closet Farang or she's really dumb, because I'm certainly not rolling in it.

[jandajoy]

Well, if all Asian girls are only in it for the money, the Midget is either a closet Farang or she's really dumb, because I'm certainly not rolling in it.

Ditto.

[DrAndy]

He thinks that relationships are based on money, fine for him. You do not, fine for you. You can argue your case until the cows come home but it will not change either of your viewpoints...why should it?

He's making universal claims; those who argue against him aren't. There's not a symmetry there.

It all boils down to what you want for yourself

The problem comes when one person thinks his way is the best and makes assumptions about others relationships

If you are happy with your relationship, of whatever type, good, and it may be the best for you. That does not mean it is the best for anyone else, and no amount of justification or generalisations will make it so

A relationship involves two people, so whether or not it suits one of them isn't really - or isn't all of - the question. I think this is probably especially the case if the relationship is based on long-term prostitution.

that is true but not the point I was making

I was talking about one type of relationship versus another, not one person and another

[shunpike]

Well, if all Asian girls are only in it for the money, the Midget is either a closet Farang or she's really dumb, because I'm certainly not rolling in it.

Me too!

Me and the better half share our cash....good thing too as she makes twice as much as I do..

[BobR]

When I was in Korea years ago I always heard stories of how GIs used to pay a girl so much a month and the girl would take care of him in all kinds of ways. Cooking, cleaning and even sex. I guess she would be making less than a bar girl but would have a better home life/environment too.

With Thai being a service focused paradise my question is this. Is there any similar type of arrangement in Thailand currently, and if so how much do you or ...(cough) your friend pay a month?


Thanks.

My live-in meets that description, I give her 15000 baht a month. The problem is that after a few years, the distinction of just what exactly she is becomes somewhat blurred. They are human, so if they look sad when you decide not to come home some night, it's difficult to say what do you care, you're just an employee. get the idea?????