Thread: Can she take my house?

Originally Posted by jandajoy

in a position to move her out.

Not the most in-depth of threads (I'm sure there's another one somewhere), but it may point you in the right direction.

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Originally Posted by Bung

I have to say that it is amicable between us and she is said many times that the house here is mine, she has a house already. I really don't think she is out to "get' the place as she doesn't want any hassles as musch as I but who knows? I think I will get rental agreement written up for her to sign. Would that do? If I say the rent is x amount a month, she doesn't pay as I am supporting her, but if I want her out I can point out the fact she is not paying rent as reason to evict? Or make it a 6 month contract?

I would never try to assume giving any legal advice to you, Bung. Free advice information was suggested by another poster, and I agree with this. Just to cover your ass (CYA).
However, if you have an amicable relationship AND trust her, it seems you're ahead of the game, so to speak...
Staying away from all lawyers has been a lifelong mandate for me...except for getting free or inexpensive legal advice, apart from the other necessary 'evils' we need these guys/gals for.
IMHO...

Originally Posted by Bung

Seems incredible that i would have no right to tell her to move out. Really, I'm better off finding her a place to stay is the best bet and I move back in then.

It's not a question of rights. You may well have the right to chuck her out if you so decide. That's not the issue. It's actually getting her out that is or may be the problem. Logic and the law can be the last thing considered when emotions get ramped up. She could just ignore any court order that evicts her (that you may get after a long and emotionally painful process). What do you do then, carry her out yourself with her screaming and clutching at doorways in front of your son? It's problematic that she lives there at all, but I understand you are out of the country for work and so it's a convenient arrangement for you both and for your son. Good luck dude, with your situation and with the renovation.

Please get a lawyer.
It will set you and your ex wife mind at rest.
And it will be best for the boy too.
It helps avoid a conflict in the future too.

Originally Posted by Bung

I need to be out of the country to work .

The longer you are out of the country the harder it will becomes to gain a foothold over the house.

Touchy situation mate.

Originally Posted by Sailing into trouble

This is all scary shit! I am at the stage that the more I hear about our non rights the more I think I am nuts.?

When one is well versed in the way farangs are viewed in Thailand its not scary shit at all but a perfectly normal scenario when one marries a Thai .

Its only disappointing when one thinks he will have a win which is very rare when a relationship goes to shit.

Sad but true.

Could be worse, Bung could be in the same situation in Australia and end up totally screwed for the rest of his life.

Worst case scenario is he gets arsed from the house and loses his investment.


No biggy as he is still working and can come back. The most important thing here is the future welfare of the lad.

Originally Posted by Travelmate

Please get a lawyer.
It will set you and your ex wife mind at rest.
And it will be best for the boy too.
It helps avoid a conflict in the future too.

In my experience and i agree with Baitong Boy comments on this issue, lawyers can create conflict between couples.

The longer they can draw out a settlement the more they are able to justify their large fee. It's in their own interests to do so.

Lawyer services should therefore only be required as a last resort when all else has failed. Unless of course, you have money to burn or are already at odds with your ex, which i believe is not the case

Originally Posted by BaitongBoy

It's a biggy IMHO...he is concerned about his boy and has made the 'future welfare' of the boy a priority in the financial sense...
His 'relationship' with his boy is a separate issue, as long as the two adults can 'agree' to keep it that way...
I've followed his thread about his house...and it would be a 'biggy' to me if I 'lost it.'...

At the end of the day Bung is working off shore and earning the big dollars so all I'm saying is that the lose of the house ain't the end of the World simply because he is able to recoup the money through his work.

I would surmise the future of his lad is a big worry to him and rightly so.

Maybe contributing money into a trust account to ensure the lads schooling and future financial success could be a way to go such in the way a man must pay maintenance to a wife in the real world.

The Ex wife will have a new guy eventually so not to worry about her.

At least this way the money will be there for the lad and not pissed up against the wall.

But yes I'm sure Bung is very concerned about his house as I would be.

I think when you try to get her out of that house, the reality of the difficulty of this situation is going to set in. Eviction for even good reasons is hard to enforce in Thailand. You need to get her to move ASAP, once you fire that "you have to move bomb" in her direction, you will know how amicable or difficult she will make it. If she decides not to move, I pity you. Better do it sooner than later and be clear of it.

Originally Posted by BaitongBoy

I've followed his thread about his house...and it would be a 'biggy' to me if I 'lost it.'...

Never invest in what you can't afford to lose.

To me it sounds like her name is not on any deeds or titles for the house, and since she has no rental contract, she would merely be staying there as a guest, no? Doesn't sound like she can "take" the house, but it would probably be an ugly scene for the kid to see his mom forcibly removed.

Originally Posted by Bung

I have a 10 year old son with her whom I have full custody of. Recently, I bought a house, the land is in my sons name and the house in mine although I am not on the chanote.

Recently this debate came up between my wife and I. No, we are not considering divorce, but have been talking about drawing up a will for the both of us.

Throughout the years we have lucky enough to purchase and pay for a parcel of land here and there.

Now if I die first which is probably the case no big deal. Everything is in the wife's name.

Now if she was to die first then what to do? Initially, I stated well let's just put everything into our daughter's name. In other words, on paper it looks like our daughter is the owner of everything we own. My thinking was if some mishap happened to my wife I could still have control.

Not according to any of the lawyers we have paid thus far. A minor child's name on a piece of property means very little.

Wish I could give some more information at this point, but this is what we have been told so far by Thai property/will lawyers.

As Trink would have said, TIT...

By the sounds of it Bung, you get along with your ex amicably, so you should probably ignore half the posters in this thread and deal with the problem amicably.

If the house is in the boys name and he can take possesion at 20, his mother has no need to do anything other than wait. The boy will make the desicions for you i think. 20 is a very young age in any country to own a valuable asset. If you are making other provisions for him, make him wait until he is a least 25 if not 30.

What's Thai for locksmith?

Same as for an electrician, a 'cowboy'.

Can she take my house? It's Thailand, she's Thai. You know the answer.
Get her out quick without warning, there is going to be fallout either way, better that happens with her outside of the property.

Originally Posted by Neo

Can she take my house? It's Thailand, she's Thai. You know the answer.
Get her out quick without warning, there is going to be fallout either way, better that happens with her outside of the property.

These are the kind of responses that often get 'falangs' killed. These cowboys have not lived long in the saddle of Thailand.

I believe there have been much better suggestions.

Probably right. Hire a hitman.

Originally Posted by hillbilly

Originally Posted by Neo

Can she take my house? It's Thailand, she's Thai. You know the answer.
Get her out quick without warning, there is going to be fallout either way, better that happens with her outside of the property.

These are the kind of responses that often get 'falangs' killed. These cowboys have not lived long in the saddle of Thailand.

I believe there have been much better suggestions.

You get my vote, hillbilly...