Originally Posted by
rickschoppers
Good on you all for giving your wife an ATM and trusting her with your money and business.
Not the same thing. There is money as in cash or spending money, and there is 'money' as in your business &/or investment portfolio. Giving my wife an ATM card and free rein to use it is not tantamount to letting her alter one's Will and sell or give away my portfolio.
I have encountered
some expats in Thailand (especially Patt's) who are morbidly terrified of trusting their spouse, to the point of being control freaks. I know the real reason why too- it is because they are chronically insecure. This may be because of previous bad experiences, or the circumstances under which they met (Bar), or just because they are bloody insecure to begin with. But my point stands- if this is the case, why on earth marry them? Same reason- insecurity. With marriage, they now think they have some 'ownership' over their spouse, who is now at their beck 24/7- but with no trust or partnership in return.
Unsurprisingly, the wife chafes under this and often splits- quite often with whatever money they can grab ("Steal"). And of course Mr Insecure is now the ''Victim" he set himself up to be, and floods the internet or whomever will listen to him at the bar with his hard done by story, and how you can't trust TG's, etc etc, yawwwn. Ever heard of a self fulfilling prophecy?
One thing I've observed in Thailand should not be a surprise to anyone. As a general rule, many if not most of those who have a problem maintaining a decent relationship here (or any other expat place) had exactly the same problem where they came form. It's them really, not Thailand, nor their wife/ partner.