Thread: Adopted Russian boy sent home from the US - no longer wanted.

What's wrong with these people, she'll probably see a cute looking puppy next!

Originally Posted by jizzybloke

What's wrong with these people, she'll probably see a cute looking puppy next!

Pretty much my feeling. Jeeze, I hated these twats when I was running HRD. How can they do this to humans? And how on earth do they get approved for adoption????

One the one hand, it's tragic.

On the other hand, this woman is very clearly not fit to be a mother. Hard to know this in advance, prospective adoptive parents are screened but a few crazies will always slip through.

Good starting point for a global adoption blacklist, perhaps... and I hope the media attention will find the poor little boy better adoptive parents.

It is terrible that a seven year old child is having to go through this. It isn't the first time a troubled child has been adopted, though. There have been articles in the US press for years about children adopted from Russian orphanages having severe psychological problems and threatening the safety of their new families. USA and Russia need to have a better agreement on what to do when this kind of problem arises.

What might save us, me, and you
Is if the Americans love their children too

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4rk78eCIx4E

The article was silent about what type of behavioral problems the child has and what he had done while in this woman's care. Nothing could excuse what she did, but it would have been interesting to read both sides of the story.

Its about time that Russia looked after its own children.

There are enough children needing adoption or fostering in the US

No need to send this tiny vunerable child across the world, hardly surprising the child had behavioral problems if on arrival it couldn't speak the language.

As for the woman...I want one........oh no perhaps not such a good idea.....i will send it back and forget about it....... (it) not him or her!


I speak as the father of a boy we adopted when he was 8, he is now 38 and happily married with 3 children.

Originally Posted by nikster

On the other hand, this woman is very clearly not fit to be a mother.

Originally Posted by misskit

It is terrible that a seven year old child is having to go through this. It isn't the first time a troubled child has been adopted, though

Originally Posted by BobR

The article was silent about what type of behavioral problems the child has and what he had done while in this woman's care. Nothing could excuse what she did, but it would have been interesting to read both sides of the story.

Originally Posted by Bower

No need to send this tiny vunerable child across the world, hardly surprising the child had behavioral problems if on arrival it couldn't speak the language. As for the woman...I want one........oh no perhaps not such a good idea.....i will send it back and forget about it....... (it) not him or her!

Surely the woman could have foreseen that there might have been behavioral or even developmental problems and taken that into account before deciding to adopt. Adoption is a hugely emotional time for both parent(s) and child. Add to that a new culture, different food, a new language - everything strange. Any kid would act up!

Sounds like she didn't think it through. I'm the last person to say that adoptive parents should be couples, but in her case, I think the support of a partner may have helped. Also, she's fairly young to undertake something like that alone.

Can't imagine why she was actually approved for adoption. Poor kid. Trauma upon trauma & rejected to boot.

Originally Posted by Bower

There are enough children needing adoption or fostering in the US

Exactly, my first thought when readin the title of the news. But I guess it's more "exotic" for some people to adopt a child in a foreign country than take care of one living just a few blocks away from the road.

People are mad.

Originally Posted by Wallalai

But I guess it's more "exotic" for some people to adopt a child in a foreign country

I think celebs like Angelina Jolie & Madonna are more than slightly to blame for that - but you'd think the adoption agencies would be on the lookout for celeb wannabes.

^ You're right, it's what my post is pointing to. But ordinary people like to behave like stars.

But there is all the other Human Rights activists, lefties, socialists, etc too, who like to save a life in Africa but don't care about the poor kid right behind them.

Originally Posted by Wallalai

But there is all the other Human Rights activists, lefties, socialists, etc too, who like to save a life in Africa but don't care about the poor kid right behind them. __________________

Couldn't agree more. Didn't someone once say "Charity begins at home"? Start in your own backyard & move outwards

I brought my Thai wife and her 3 children to the States 18 months ago, primarily for the educational and career benefits that the kids would receive here. Financially and emotionally, it hasn't been easy for any of us. I've never second guessed the decision and would never walk away from my obligations as a step father. They speak decent english and do fairly well in school. I can count down the days (around 5 years), when the youngest graduates from High school and I can take a breather from being a parent.

^ Good for you. Welcome to TD.

Originally Posted by November Rain

Can't imagine why she was actually approved for adoption. Poor kid. Trauma upon trauma & rejected to boot.

My feelings exactly.

Just a thought, perhaps the popularity of adopting foreign children lies in a less rigorous screening process than that which they would face at home. The woman may have tried to adopt in the US and was deemed unsuitable (rightly so). Sad state of affairs at any rate.

the kid is without doubt a maniac, and the best for her and the society of US is to return the nut case.
My impression from most treads are the you guys are sick and tired of getting your home countries filled to the brim with low life, why this sudden mental pussyness.
Hes only a puppet a very short time, all after that just a threat and a menice.
Who needs this shit !

She also prop get tricked by russian aut. not beeing informed about the defects of the child. You want pure evil in your home or neighbour hood.
People adopt because they want to see some happy ending. Shes brave enough to cut her losses.
And for those of us living in Pattis we daily see how "normal" russians are.
Imagine the freaky ones!!!
Should it be alllowed to adopt from a foreign country? I dont think you can show a financial gain for the society as a whole, so no.

Originally Posted by Perota

How the staff of the airline can accept this kid with this kind of note without alerting the authority ? What the name of this airline ? I'll make sure to never flight with them.

He was sent as an unaccompanied minor, which means he was dropped off with details of the person on the other side of the flight. Nothing unusual about that at all. When our eldest was still at school in Sydney and we were living/working in Singapore she'd do this four or five times a year with the boarding school rep picking her up.

Originally Posted by BobR

The article was silent about what type of behavioral problems the child has and what he had done while in this woman's care. Nothing could excuse what she did, but it would have been interesting to read both sides of the story.

Indeed. It is one thing to adopt a child and a totally different thing if the child you are adopting is nothing like the child you receive.

Originally Posted by November Rain

Surely the woman could have foreseen that there might have been behavioral or even developmental problems and taken that into account before deciding to adopt.

Why could or should she have? If she was told that the boy was completely 'normal' and he turns out to be anything but . . . why should she have foreseen these problems?

Originally Posted by November Rain

Can't imagine why she was actually approved for adoption. Poor kid. Trauma upon trauma & rejected to boot.

Again, why shouldn't she have been approved?

It seems everyone is falling over themselves to brand this woman as an evil monster . . . but it would be fair to see the whole story

Sadly, the child is the one who suffers . . . and he has no choice . . . and the woman was quite callous in not bringing the boy back herself . . . seems a bit cold-hearted . . .

So, in other words, adoption is like marriage. Both are begun with the words "untill death death do you part " (along with "for better and for worse"). However, 50% of marriages end with divorce. Hopefully, 50% of foreign adoptions don't end with a kid being put on a plane with a note for social services in his native country.