Thread: Family man (are,was, want to be) or Single (includes wife no kids)

I blow hot and cold on the idea of settling down and having children, a wife, family home, pet dog etc (family man). Versus staying single in the marital sense.


Who in the TD community is family man and who is a singleton?

Married 5years with 1 kid. I don't play about either and so I s'pose you could put me down as a family man.

I was a shagmeister before but have just adopted a family.

It's nice, but I'd advise anyone to stay single.

Family at a young age, well before 30

It has it's pros and cons just like being single.

I should of held out a bit longer I reckon but I am happy and I married a good 'un

Mad Dog - aren't you about to get married or has she been nipping at your head this morning?

I am actually engaged but my finace and I have decided to slow things down....Two of my siblings are divorcees and I have no desire to join them.... So I am not sure where to put myself on my own poll 55+

Originally Posted by Takeovers

Raising children may be one of the most troublesome experiences you ever have but for nothing in this world I would miss it.

agreed.

Originally Posted by Takeovers

Will be married 30 years this year, two children. Shure it has drawbacks (a lot) but overall I say you will come to regret it at some time in the future if you don't dive into it now.

disagree, if the marriage aint gonna work out, then having children is even harder.

I have the opposite problem, I have to travel to Australia regularly if I want to see my son.

Originally Posted by mad_dog

and who now must remain in Sweden (teaching physics) if he wants to see his young daughter ran through my mind.

I'd have to follow this line as well. Married close to 15 years, played around happily until that time.
The term 'settle down' is somewhat inaccurate as it all depends on what type of people you two are.

I'd suggest the word 'routine' would probably be more applicable in some aspects of your life . . . and this is not a bad thing at all.

I've never had regrets about my marriage . . . actually the longer we are together the more we cherish one another as we have gone through ups and downs together and that in itself forges a strong bond.

Then children come into play . . . some of the most aggravating, sleepless, worrisome, loving, tender, playful, fulfilled etc etc times describe this . . . but at the end of the day it is simply brilliant.

Will your lady friend be the right partner? It's a gamble, but a gamble well worth taking in my opinion.

Originally Posted by panama hat

Will your lady friend be the right partner? It's a gamble, but a gamble well worth taking in my opinion.

Life is somewhat a roll of the dice. But commitment can sure overcome a lot.

Originally Posted by mad_dog

I blow hot and cold on the idea of settling down and having children, a wife, family home, pet dog etc (family man). Versus staying single in the marital sense.

I sense something short of commitment mad dog. Stay single until you are 100% convinced it's for you.

Family man for five years now. Our 2 boys have changed everything for the better; everything I do is for them and it gives a sense of purpose.

Originally Posted by Norton

sense something short of commitment mad dog. Stay single until you are 100% convinced it's for you.

How can anybody ever be 100% sure? If mad dog seriously considers it that means he senses something missing.

Otoh nobody should go that way with serious doubts.

I was 25 when I had my first child. Anyone as young as that here?

Originally Posted by Mr Brown

I was 25 when I had my first child. Anyone as young as that here?

Same same.

Interestingly my Dad was 25 was I was born and my Grandad was 25 when he was born, so at some point my son will be 25, I'll be 50, my dad will be 75 and my grandad would be 100 if he wasn't dead

Originally Posted by Mr Brown

I was 25 when I had my first child. Anyone as young as that here?

Sorry Pot, I assumed from your posting style that you were male. My aplogies young lady.

6 wives...err, 7 wives - scattered about. Yeah, family man.

Originally Posted by JuniorExPat

JxP (Wife, four children, two dogs and a weekly kitchen pass.)

Kitchen Pass . . .

Kudos, mate. Four children, good on you.

Originally Posted by Moonraker

I don't play about

This opens up a very valid point, I haven't had a fling during the course of my marriageand this is something you should also take into consideration. If you don't think you can handle only looking at one set of eyes, staring at one set of boobies etc . . . then that's a problem . . . well, it would be for me.

The cornerstone of a serious relationship is respect, and if you fool around on the side it is difficult to have respect . . . again, in my opinion, I'm sure other's opinions will differ

I voted familymaN ,although in some sense may not be true. We acquired our son via the Thai method of the parents unable or not wanting to bring him up, that was 8 years ago.
Although we [the missus] don't always get along we have undying love for our son.
There is no golden rule to separate being single or married, it's an individual thing.
My brother is on his third marriage and I've a friend on his fifth???

^ Sorry Muadib. I couldn't figure out what LTR means so I googled it and the first listing is London Turkish Radio and it had me baffled in the context of your sentence.

Originally Posted by Muadib

definitely want a LTR over simply shagging everything in sight...

Yes, yes. I understand now. Sorry to disrupt the flow of the thread.


I absolutely agree with you . . . having a different shag every night or every time gets quite boring . . . nothing to prove to anyone, no macho image to project or protect.

Originally Posted by noelbino

Although we [the missus] don't always get along we have undying love for our son.

Good for you, noelbino. Green for you.