Originally Posted by
thaigirly
from his viewpoint, he thinks it strange that a man having sexual relations with another man is thought to have gay tendencies, but that a woman with another woman is not. newsflash - double standards are alive and well all over. BTW, signs of gay tendencies, man or woman. doesn't mean they are gay or even necessarily bi, but i think it's fair to say that one might leap to that conclusion. and why not? if it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck......
Thank you for proving his point. In Thailand and India, male sexuality isn't as rigid as the West. Family obligation overrides personal expression. In other words, as long as you raise a family and are a responsible member of the community, people aren't constantly trying to figure out if you are secretly gay, have homosexual tendency. Personally, I prefer women, but I believe that human sexual preference (for both male and females) isn't an either/or condition.
personally, i'm in agreement with you. my point was not that double standards do not exist, but simply surprise that mr savage should think they don't. been there, done that (professionally, rather than sexually). doesn't make it right, but lots of things aren't right. don't bleat - do (not you, all of us).
such double standards also apply to straight males criticising women, gay men, straight women criticising lesbians - oh for goodness' sake, get a life.
I understand there are double standards. That is why I quoted someone who doesn't have any vested interest in straight male sexuality (aside from discouraging homophobia). My hope was that it would keep the thread civil. Since I've posted on teakdoor, I have never made a single, insulting generalization about western women. I'd appreciate if you would extend the same courtesy.
my apologies. what i actually meant (and having read my post, i didn't express myself properly at all) was that those who see themselves as 'victims' of double standards should get a life and accept that different doesn't mean unequal, less or more - just different. again, sorry for my poor choice of phrasiology. however, there are vested interests here, otherwise savage's homosexuality would never have been mentioned in the first place. why can't we concentrate on our commonalities rather than our differences - and what does it matter what his, your or my preferences are? the more we focus on them, as with racism, sexism, and ageism, the less we focus on the real issues.
many women are indeed victims of the glass ceiling, sexism etc, but many others want their cake and eat it - equality with men but retaining privileges enjoyed by women (another poster pointed this out but i can't remember where). on the other hand, i've seen a man berated by a woman for holding open a door for her (simply polite, that's all).i can't be bothered with it all. please just treat me decently and fairly, because i shall do the same for you.
"Paradoxically, straight guys run the world, but sexually..." As you can see, the article is not focused on economic disparity. It is simply focused the sexual environment straight men face in the US.