Many men seems to be afraid of gay sex or anything related to physical attractions with men, and are quick to define anything with male parts as being gay !!!
but is it really ? what about male bonding ? a lot of male bonding rituals seems to be more gay than anything and yet are being ignored by the majority of the participants.
How many closet homos are hidding behind the male bond thing ? certainly a few in the military, so close to erupt sexually than they try to persuade themselves that any "gay" contacts are wrong despite having gone 90% of the path though male bonding.
This is particularly true in "male dominated" groups like in the military camps, or ships or oil rigs. Since male bonding is a sort of love ritual, that stops short of sexual contacts, but still highly "hormonal", why isn't defined as a gay ritual like gay sex is ?
and is it just more GAY to be in love with a man or a group of men than it is to have sex with another male ?