Hypothetical question

**Ivor Biggun** · 21-01-2008, 01:31 PM

Young man coming to Thailand to marry ex bargirl. Been sending her money to keep her and the family, usual shit. What should he do to test this ex bargirl in that she's the genuine love of his life and not the tool to getting him to part with his money ?
I need genuine replies as I want to get this person see the answers as I think hes somewhat naive in his understand what he's up against. Thanks

**kingwilly** · 21-01-2008, 01:34 PM

get him to tell her the money is gone, and not send or give any money for 2 months, see what happens...

**barbaro** · 21-01-2008, 08:47 PM

Originally Posted by kingwilly

get him to tell her the money is gone, and not send or give any money for 2 months, see what happens...

I understand women want security in a man.

For their future (potential) children and her family, often moreso than herself.

If most women (not all ) are told by a potential husband he's broke, she may look elsewhere.

**Sir Burr** · 21-01-2008, 01:35 PM

Tell her that he's lost his job and he's going to have to to work for subsistence wages in Thailand, but, what the hell, they'll be together and that's what counts.

A family member has had a bad accident and he needs to spend all his money on medical bills, would there be any way he could borrow some money from her family?

**Ivor Biggun** · 21-01-2008, 01:38 PM

Originally Posted by kingwilly

get him to tell her the money is gone, and not send or give any money for 2 months, see what happens

Obviously she'll still be taking from other farang that support her family as he'll not be the only one sending her money

**Thetyim** · 21-01-2008, 01:38 PM

Originally Posted by Sir Burr

would there be any way he could borrow some money from her family?

If she offers to go back to working as bargirl then she must love him very much.

**AntRobertson** · 21-01-2008, 01:42 PM

Originally Posted by Ivor Biggun

What should he do to test this ex bargirl in that she's the genuine love of his life and not the tool to getting him to part with his money ?

If she was the genuine love of his life, why the need to test her in the first place?

**Ivor Biggun** · 21-01-2008, 01:47 PM

Originally Posted by AntRobertson

If she was the genuine love of his life, why the need to test her in the first place?

Because I'm sick of seeing the same women go through here with different farang saying the same shit every month and they rip them off. It's the local pastime.

**DrAndy** · 21-01-2008, 03:05 PM

Originally Posted by Ivor Biggun

Originally Posted by AntRobertson

If she was the genuine love of his life, why the need to test her in the first place?

Because I'm sick of seeing the same women go through here with different farang saying the same shit every month and they rip them off. It's the local pastime.

Yes, and the farang tell them they love them long time and will soon marry them, until another girl catches their eye.

**Thetyim** · 21-01-2008, 01:51 PM

Ivor, I wouldn't bother trying to make him see sense.
I have tried for years to help blokes see the error of their ways but love is blind and none of them will listen.
I have a friend who is dossing in a UK bedsit and working full time just to finance a BG in CM with a 3 bed house and a car. She sends 10k per month to her ex husband to look after her kid. He sends her so much money that he can only afford to see her for two weeks every year.

Once a bloke gets fanny struck his ears are shut and his brain is in neutral.

**Ivor Biggun** · 21-01-2008, 01:57 PM

Originally Posted by Thetyim

Ivor, I wouldn't bother trying to make him see sense.
I have tried for years to help blokes see the error of their ways but love is blind and none of them will listen.
I have a friend who is dossing in a UK bedsit and working full time just to finance a BG in CM with a 3 bed house and a car. She sends 10k per month to her ex husband to look after her kid. He sends her so much money that he can only afford to see her for two weeks every year.

Once a bloke gets fanny struck his ears are shut and his brain is in neutral.

I understand that but when one person's saying it then yes it's an up hill battle but I was hoping if I got enough responses these dreamers will see that it's not just me telling them. Seeing the women with these people gets my back up. These men make us farang look fcuking complete idiots.

**Thetyim** · 21-01-2008, 02:00 PM

^
I agree with you but we haven't met her so he will probably just go with the old cliche
"This one is different"

**kingwilly** · 21-01-2008, 02:06 PM

Originally Posted by Ivor Biggun

These men make us farang look fcuking complete idiots.

prolly a reason we look like that....

**The Gentleman Scamp** · 21-01-2008, 02:10 PM

My mate Johnny Lovemuscle is going through the same thing - he's got a great job in Macau and he's had to pay his ex HK BG's family 100,000 just to get engaged!

At 44 he's old enough to know better.

When I stayed with Sandra's family they asked me for nothing, she asked me to cover the bills which I did.

**November Rain** · 21-01-2008, 02:11 PM

He should say that he's going to give up his job & come & live here, but will have to work, as he doesn't have savings. Maybe as a TEFLer or something not very well paid. He should also say that he has a kid or two from a previous relationship & the mother wants him to take the kid(s) to Thailand to give her a break & also so they can have a new experience & he will expect her to look after the kids, particularly while he's out finding work & then doing his job.

Bottom line - struggling for money, looking after someone else's kids & not able to get away to meet other men, I can't see a BG still seeing other men & wanting money more than the relationship, agreeing to that

**slimboyfat** · 21-01-2008, 02:37 PM

Originally Posted by November Rain

He should say that he's going to give up his job & come & live here, but will have to work, as he doesn't have savings. Maybe as a TEFLer or something not very well paid. He should also say that he has a kid or two from a previous relationship & the mother wants him to take the kid(s) to Thailand to give her a break & also so they can have a new experience & he will expect her to look after the kids, particularly while he's out finding work & then doing his job.

Bottom line - struggling for money, looking after someone else's kids & not able to get away to meet other men, I can't see a BG still seeing other men & wanting money more than the relationship, agreeing to that

This would be too much of a test.
I can't see anyone, bargirl or not, accepting this shit unless she is really desperate

**The Gentleman Scamp** · 21-01-2008, 02:16 PM

Get hold of her number and I'll call her on speaker phone claiming to be an ex one off customer who is back in Thailand on holiday and I'll invite her to the Grande Sheraton Sukhumvit for dinner and tell her I'm staying there.

I'll do all this on speaker phone whilst filming myself then disgrace her and put it on YouTube.

I'll do your mate a DVD for 500 baht.

**ChiangMai noon** · 21-01-2008, 02:23 PM

Nice effort, but he won't listen for sure.

best he learns for himself.

**dirtydog** · 21-01-2008, 02:38 PM

Shag the ass off of her and take some pictures while your doing it, then send your mate the pics

**slimboyfat** · 21-01-2008, 02:39 PM

Post them here first though. We may know the girl too.

**DrAndy** · 21-01-2008, 03:02 PM

Originally Posted by Ivor Biggun

Young man coming to Thailand to marry ex bargirl. Been sending her money to keep her and the family, usual shit. What should he do to test this ex bargirl in that she's the genuine love of his life and not the tool to getting him to part with his money ?
I need genuine replies as I want to get this person see the answers as I think hes somewhat naive in his understand what he's up against. Thanks

A genuine reply needed? If the hypothetical guy cannot trust his own judgement, either he shouldn't be allowed out alone or the b/g is more clever than him.

It all depends on the girl, of course. Some are genuine and nice people, some are crooks and out to get what they can.

**Thetyim** · 21-01-2008, 03:31 PM

I like Scampy's idea.
Don't have to spend night after night in a bar with the gormless twat trying to convince him. One phone call from scampy and he has all the evidence he needs.
Your mate can then either wise up or piss off

**Cujo** · 21-01-2008, 04:04 PM

Originally Posted by Thetyim

I like Scampy's idea.
Don't have to spend night after night in a bar with the gormless twat trying to convince him. One phone call from scampy and he has all the evidence he needs.
Your mate can then either wise up or piss off

Do it.
Nothing to be lost, just don't forget to post the vid on Youtube and the link here.

**astasinim** · 21-01-2008, 04:48 PM

Get him to turn up in Thailand early, to surprise her. He can then see with his own eyes what she`s up to.

**EmperorTud** · 21-01-2008, 06:36 PM

The only way to tell if she really loves you is to treat her as a Thai man would.

Her social standing will dictate what she expects of her 'Thai' man.

Then, and only then, will you know if she loves you or not.

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