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    Teakdoors: Am I the Arsehole?

    Reddit has this brilliant sub group called r/AmItheArsehole?

    Posters post a story asking the question?

    Judegments can be;

    YTA - You're the Arsehole
    NTA - Not the Arsehole
    ESH - Everyone Sucks Here
    NAH - No Arseholes Here
    INFO - More Info needed.

    Here's an example.





    AITA for reporting a co-worker for accidental nudity which led to her being fired?





    Let me start out by saying I work with a small team and I'm very much the "outcast." They are all young and legitimately when we aren't talking work some of the things they talk about with their personal lives I have to google half the time. The crew isn't "mean" to me but they are definitely a click with me being the old man outsider.

    I'll admit sometimes I put my foot in my mouth with phrases... for instance I used the phrase "open the kimono" and "Sarah" got super upset about it she's Japanese. I tried to explain it's not a big deal and just a lingo thing but she wouldn't listen. She reported me then I had to go to a special training and apologize on record. That was back in like April.

    So, boom. Fast forward to last month. Normally we have morning check-ins every morning at 8:30am and Sarah is snacking on breakfast at that time. We had to move our morning check-in meeting to 8am one Wednesday and then it happened about 15 minutes into the meeting. "Sarah's" wife comes in wearing a small top and just underwear handing her food coming into the shot at the side of the frame it couldn't have been anymore than a few seconds. But, she apologized profusely after we all went like "uhhhhhhhh Sarah? Your camera." The crew all were like "we know it wasn't intentional, it's ok, no managers are here, at least she wasn't fully naked." Laughing. And, I just stayed quiet. I told my wife about it and how I felt weird about it because I definitely think it shouldn't have happened. It made me feel uncomfortable. I know I wasn't "assaulted" but I didn't want to see her half naked.

    I reported it to HR. Told them what happened. She completely denied it happened and the crew backed her up trying to make it seem like I was trying to retaliate for the "open the kimono" thing. My only saving grace was that they used work chat to talk about it and HR was able to look at the logs and see I wasn't lying. The crew got a reprimand and they ended up firing "Sarah." Because not only did she say it didn't happen she wanted me to do another formal apology made it a big deal.

    Now, the crew is extremely snippy with me(even though I'm on a new team now but work with them closely) and I can tell they think I didn't need to report her. Even on her last day "Sarah" called me and told me that she hopes I feel good about what I did and that I was an asshole to report it when it wasn't that big of a deal and no one cared.
    So... AITA?


    https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/jvy9e0/aita_for_reporting_a_coworker_for_accidental/

    My take, ESH.

    He is the arsehole for upsetting the Japanese girl and no tapologising until he was forced to.

    But she is the arsehole for reporting him in the first place, and then again for lying and doubling down on the naked thing and desrves the karma.
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    I just wanna know if she opened the kimono. So maybe I'm the asshole.

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    Teakdoors: Am I the Arsehole?

    Started by TheRealKW,


    I thought this was an 'yes or no' poll





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    AITA for refusing to buy a coworker lunch





    I (23M) have a coworker (25M) who is a mooch. If you get something for lunch, he wants you to get him something too, but expects you to buy it for him because since you mentioned it, he says you offered. At first I thought maybe he had money problem, but then overheard him laughing and bragging to someone in another department about how he was able to scam lunches out of his coworkers, and he’s attempted to bully a free meal out of someone more than once. His general entitled attitude is one of the many reasons I don’t like him.

    So yesterday my girlfriend and I had lunch together. He overheard me confirming before I left and asked what I was bringing him and I said nothing. He said I brought it up, and I corrected him. No, I was confirming we were still good and he was eavesdropping on my conversation. He started complaining so I had if he gave me money for his food I’d bring him something but I wasn’t going to buy him food. He started complaining about it again and I got irritated and said no money no food, and then I left.


    When I got back my boss said my coworker complained I was being hostile. I told him what happened and how he’s constantly trying to weasel free food out of people, even some of the people he knows are struggling. So my boss asked around and several others collaborated what I said. My coworker got dragged into the office and now he’s pissed that I “narc’d” and how he was just kidding. Most of the office thinks he got what he deserved but a few think it wasn’t worth getting him in trouble over.

    Today no one he asked told him what they were doing for lunch, and he’s whining that we’re alienating him. I said he alienated himself because of his behavior. He said I’m an asshole, but I don’t really feel bad that a mooch who thinks it’s funny to scam his coworkers thinks I’m an asshole. My little brother is on here a lot and suggested I post though, so AITA?

    https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/jw1riz/aita_for_refusing_to_buy_a_coworker_lunch/

    NTA.




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    INFO - More Info needed.


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    Do you want another rant KW about how too many people these days just go out of their way to find an excuse, any bluddy excuse, to get 'Upset about something'?

    Didn't think so.

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    that sub is well known for made up posts

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    Quote Originally Posted by sabang View Post
    Do you want another rant KW about how too many people these days just go out of their way to find an excuse, any bluddy excuse, to get 'Upset about something'?

    Didn't think so.
    Ranting about wanting to rant.

    Repressed anger?



    Quote Originally Posted by baldrick View Post
    that sub is well known for made up posts
    I would imagine any anonymouse submission depository will suffer from this. Hard to stamp out.

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    same with /tifu today I fcuked up

    full of american teen boys posting fantasies about their stepsisters

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheRealKW View Post
    Reddit has this brilliant sub group called r/AmItheArsehole?

    Posters post a story asking the question?

    Judegments can be;

    YTA - You're the Arsehole
    NTA - Not the Arsehole
    ESH - Everyone Sucks Here
    NAH - No Arseholes Here
    INFO - More Info needed.

    Here's an example.







    https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/jvy9e0/aita_for_reporting_a_coworker_for_accidental/

    My take, ESH.

    He is the arsehole for upsetting the Japanese girl and no tapologising until he was forced to.

    But she is the arsehole for reporting him in the first place, and then again for lying and doubling down on the naked thing and desrves the karma.
    Huh, wtf did she report the woman for NOT being nude, but just being forgetful about her clothing in front of the camera?

    Maybe I've become a degenerate since moving to Asia yonks ago. But I'd reprimand the staff member who reported that woman.

    Also, on what grounds was she fired? For wearing the wrong colour knickers??
    Groping women when you're old is fine - everyone thinks you're senile

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    Quote Originally Posted by sabang View Post
    Do you want another rant KW about how too many people these days just go out of their way to find an excuse, any bluddy excuse, to get 'Upset about something'?

    Didn't think so.
    KW needs an excuse to label someone else here as a ranter and then project on them. That's his M.O.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    KW needs an excuse to label someone else here as a ranter and then project on them. That's his M.O.
    This thread is not for Arseholes to start a squabble, you already have a bunch of threads in MKPs/Doghouse for that.

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    Hey Willy,

    I have the correct answer .

    Yep, you are an arsehole eh.

    Have a shit day willy.

    Cheers.

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    ^ Times two.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    ^ Times two.
    Your sympathy seeking thread, following the departure of your former partner, automatically qualifies you for the award of this title.
    Your complete lack of self awareness is truly astonishing.

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    Piss off, Bitch....you have the face of a wrinkled and very old foreskin, with the associated brainpower.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    Piss off, Bitch....you have the face of a wrinkled and very old foreskin, with the associated brainpower.
    SAD inflicted angry little man say what? Have you even seen a picture of Switch? No of course. Have you heard about the Lonesome Loser?

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    He described himself as very wrinkled and looking quite aged, Demented One. As you have advertised your early-onset dementia for years now.

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    Oh sorry about that did not realize you are clairvoyant as well as a SAD inflicted little Karen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    Piss off, Bitch....you have the face of a wrinkled and very old foreskin, with the associated brainpower.
    YTA..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    KW needs an excuse to label someone else here as a ranter and then project on them. That's his M.O.
    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    ^ Times two.
    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    Piss off, Bitch....you have the face of a wrinkled and very old foreskin, with the associated brainpower.
    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    He described himself as very wrinkled and looking quite aged, Demented One. As you have advertised your early-onset dementia for years now.
    Another thread Karened by Karen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by baldrick View Post
    that sub is well known for made up posts


    Are you implying some things on the internet are false?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheRealKW View Post
    AITA for reporting a co-worker for accidental nudity which led to her being fired?
    EHS.



    Quote Originally Posted by TheRealKW View Post
    AITA for refusing to buy a coworker lunch
    NTA.

    fuck that guy.




    and btw, it seems like a lot of people are running to the boss or HR to bitch.

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    Thanks for getting the thread back on track, Ray.

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