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    Quote Originally Posted by Dillinger View Post
    Jeez. You sound like Headhunter and his old dog.

    Move on and find a new bitch like he did
    and happy with it TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

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    Hi Wally, thank you for telling your story - it takes courage to bare your soul like that, especially to this forum!

    To answer your question, I have been in love, and I thought he was the one. We were in a relationship for several years - on & off. But alas, it wasn't meant to be, and we broke it off mutually. I got depressed/ sad several weeks & months after that, though I still carried on normally at work & whenever I saw my family. I did lose my mojo sometimes at work. Fortunately during that time, I could do little trips/ short travels which cheered me up (no social distancing or coronavirus issues). I did indulge in alcohol a few times, but I always refrained from being wasted - didn't want to get down that slippery slope. I dated some guys after a few months, but it was nothing special & didn't last. Then when I wasn't dating anyone & wasn't searching, along came this present guy. We're in a relationship now, and it's doing well. Fingers crossed.

    Wally, I hope you are able to fight your demons. Try to get out of your funk and carry on with life. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wally Dorian Raffles View Post
    Nobody will ever come close. I really have no idea what to do with the rest of my life ......
    Go out looking, Wally. If there is one thing I have learned over the years, it is that you can find someone better than a past lover.....if you get out there and look hard enough.

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    ^ thanks katie. glad to hear things have worked out for you. yes - i went down that slippery slope. she did not drink or smoke. i drank very rarely - only on social occasions and always knew when to stop - 4 or 5 beers at most. usually only 3. there was a bunch of foreigners who used to hang around the train station near my home, drinking cheap beer from the convenience store. they were really funny guys and took all kinds of drugs. i used to know them all and liked them but always told my girl that they were bad news and how i avoided getting too close to them as they just took far too many drugs. once she was gone, and my alleged friend had been coming to my home with drugs for several weeks, i ended up becoming one of those guys at the station. i had actually forgotten much of the drug taking until recently.

    so now i am facing the fact that i ruined my life with drugs. i lost the girl of my dreams because of drugs. i knew i had issues growing up - that caused anxiety attacks - and even though i did not know what anxiet was back then, all that i ever did was smoke weed at night which helped me relax and sleep. i said no to everything else until i pushed her away in my mid 30s.

    my demons are winning the battle right now. or have won the battle. i dont have any fight left. it has been 20 years and it feels like yesterday. i can see the next 20 years not being much different. seriously dark thoughts.

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    20 Years ago?
    I'm with Willy, it's all very sad but it was 20 years ago. Get over it and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
    Eat more, get fit, run, workout, get those endorphins flowing. Stop thinking so much.
    Do something for someone else. Join a charity. Raise money for orphins.
    Just stop thinking about yourself so much.
    “If we stop testing right now we’d have very few cases, if any.” Donald J Trump.

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    Wally, it was great that you met your true love again a couple of weeks ago and that you are still soulmates. With that in mind, I suggest you consider yourselves as being only temporarily apart. It is quite possible that one day in the future, your true love will be single again for some reason or other. Perhaps her husband will become ill and pass away or even die of old age, but however long that will be, you have all that time to prepare yourself for her arrival back ninto your life. Sort out your life the best you can so that when the time comes for you two to be reunited, you will be ready for her from day one. Think of the time between now and then as preparation time. In the meantime, you will be in a happier frame of mind knowing what your future holds and your mind will be full of positive things as you prepare for your future together. The only thing you will not know is the time frame for you to be together again but in that time, you can dream and imagine your future together with your love as you prepare for that happy day.
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    Wally, you've painted a picture of what you've taken over 20 years which to me just seems to be a way to hide from facing your problems and avoiding commitment, you've not mentioned any relationships - perhaps that is your problem - you can't keep hiding from the next person for fear of failure. Get on with life, find someone to share it with and accept that they may never live up to the rosy picture you have had floating around your head for 20 years - this is no rehearsal. You don't want to be look back in another 20 with 40 years of regret because you'll probably not get another 20. There's another bike you need to be getting back on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wally Dorian Raffles View Post
    it has been 20 years and it feels like yesterday. i can see the next 20 years not being much different.
    Wally, the future is unwritten!

    I have little experience of Japan and it's a long, long time since I had a Japanese girlfriend, but in my opinion you are in a great country for a single man. And I think you said you were moving back to Tokyo, right?

    NPT is spot on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna View Post
    It is quite possible that one day in the future, your true love will be single again for some reason or other. Perhaps her husband will become ill and pass away or even die of old age, but however long that will be, you have all that time to prepare yourself for her arrival back ninto your life. Sort out your life the best you can so that when the time comes for you two to be reunited, you will be ready for her from day one. Think of the time between now and then as preparation time. In the meantime, you will be in a happier frame of mind knowing what your future holds and your mind will be full of positive things
    Yeah..... Za seems like a bundle of fun

    Don't listen to that daft advice.
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    She has moved on and had kids now. She would have changed dramatically from the girl you knew too.

    Pull yourself together....People get over family deaths in a year.

    It's not love what you are feeling, it's self pity over the choices you made 2 decades ago.

    Stop thinking of the past and torturing yourself and like others have said; find a hobby
    and exercise to get those endorphins flowing and fill your mind with positive thoughts.

    And find yourself a partner.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    Plus giving your detractors red repo. Nothing like a bit of self-righteous hate, eh ?



    Send AO a red, Wally ! You'll like it !
    Lets see where to begin. Wally is a close friend of mine, my wife's and my kid's. So I dont think I will do that. You on the other hand are the forum joke. Just last week you posted this...

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    OK fuckwit, here are the rules : I put you on Ignore and never have to see your dim-witted repo comments ever again. And I will never know how much repo is subtracted from me as I wouldn't have a clue how much I have and don't give a fuck.
    Then you played peek a boo.



    Quote Originally Posted by Latindancer View Post
    ^^ You have failed to understand your position yet again, oh Dimwitted One.

    You're going to get sniped.
    So I got sniped


    So did you as that is the game.. Long live the game..

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    We have all lost great loves, Wally. I won't say how many or the circumstances, because I will get trolled by the forum trolls. But I have lost a few really good ones.

    Sometimes we just have to wait out the depression. No matter how bad you feel right now, Everything changes.

    You will not feel so bad next week. Just hang in there with it, and try to not indulge in the depressed feelings. Exercise really does help....

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    Yes ... and she is Japanese. We have two sons aged 35 & 30. We’ve been divorced for nearly 25 years. And I still haven’t stopped the child support payments for the youngest yet.

    Took me 10 years just to begin getting over it.

    George Jones “He Stopped Loving Her Today” was my theme song for a long time. I thought I’d be in a casket before I got over her.

    TBH I was probably 3-4 years into my current marriage before I started letting go.

    That last child support payment is on the horizon.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Storekeeper View Post
    That last child support payment is on the horizon.
    See Wally, every cloud.

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    Excuse my asking, but does your youngest son have a disability, Storekeeper ? 35 does seem a bit old to be still paying child support....

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    Wally - here you go...

    You are 53 years old, the past is past, ancient history that cannot and will not be changed. Every moment you dwell on what might have been, what should have been, if only... is time wasted in self pity.

    Today is the first day of the rest of your life, so stop living in the past, cherish your sobriety and heal thyself. This blatant truth is not going to change - only you are suffering. If you don't like your life - change it. Simple as that.

    It is up to you, this problem of yours, is yours only, and only you can fix it, and the sooner you fix it, the better off you will be. God speed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna View Post
    Wally, it was great that you met your true love again a couple of weeks ago and that you are still soulmates. With that in mind, I suggest you consider yourselves as being only temporarily apart. It is quite possible that one day in the future, your true love will be single again for some reason or other. Perhaps her husband will become ill and pass away or even die of old age, but however long that will be, you have all that time to prepare yourself for her arrival back ninto your life. Sort out your life the best you can so that when the time comes for you two to be reunited, you will be ready for her from day one. Think of the time between now and then as preparation time. In the meantime, you will be in a happier frame of mind knowing what your future holds and your mind will be full of positive things as you prepare for your future together. The only thing you will not know is the time frame for you to be together again but in that time, you can dream and imagine your future together with your love as you prepare for that happy day.
    Jesus Christ are you taking the piss. He should spend the rest of his life waiting for her?
    That way lies misery.
    Forget about her. After 20 years get over it and get on with your life.
    It sounds like you're looking for a sympathetic shoulder to cry on when what you really need is kick in the arse.
    Just stop being a self pitying fool and get fucking on with it.
    The trick might be deciding what 'it' is but until you do, get on with something.

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    Until I read that I'd thought this 'Nev is female' stuff was nonsense.

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    Well, it seems Buttplug has hacked something at last - cyrille's TD account!! It became clear from the title of the London violence thread yesterday.

    Well done, Butters!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cyrille View Post
    Well no, public parks have their rules and regulations.

    Perhaps a more intimate setting is needed?



    Didn't your avatar used to be you on a bike ride?
    I have no recollection of such an avatar, but do swim and cycle regularly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by katie23 View Post
    along came this present guy. We're in a relationship now, and it's doing well. Fingers crossed.

    Yea, can you tell Luigi to send me some greens pls

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna View Post
    Wally, it was great that you met your true love again a couple of weeks ago and that you are still soulmates. With that in mind, I suggest you consider yourselves as being only temporarily apart. It is quite possible that one day in the future, your true love will be single again for some reason or other. Perhaps her husband will become ill and pass away or even die of old age, but however long that will be, you have all that time to prepare yourself for her arrival back ninto your life. Sort out your life the best you can so that when the time comes for you two to be reunited, you will be ready for her from day one. Think of the time between now and then as preparation time. In the meantime, you will be in a happier frame of mind knowing what your future holds and your mind will be full of positive things as you prepare for your future together. The only thing you will not know is the time frame for you to be together again but in that time, you can dream and imagine your future together with your love as you prepare for that happy day.
    There is just no way a man could have typed this.

    Or a sensible woman, come to that.

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    this forum took a decidedly gay turn some time ago....i can only hope the OP is a trolling attempt.

    presumably heterosexual, adult men posting daily photos of what they eat....and others commenting on how they would prepare it differently....and now a lonely hearts thread.

    but what's most pathetic about this thread are the posters with a trail of failed marriages and families in their wake are giving relationship advice.

    couldn't make it up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna View Post
    Wally, it was great that you met your true love again a couple of weeks ago and that you are still soulmates. With that in mind, I suggest you consider yourselves as being only temporarily apart. It is quite possible that one day in the future, your true love will be single again for some reason or other. Perhaps her husband will become ill and pass away or even die of old age, but however long that will be, you have all that time to prepare yourself for her arrival back ninto your life. Sort out your life the best you can so that when the time comes for you two to be reunited, you will be ready for her from day one. Think of the time between now and then as preparation time. In the meantime, you will be in a happier frame of mind knowing what your future holds and your mind will be full of positive things as you prepare for your future together. The only thing you will not know is the time frame for you to be together again but in that time, you can dream and imagine your future together with your love as you prepare for that happy day.
    My shrink actually tells me the same thing. Yes - it is a sad existence. But this is my reality right now. I have had a few short relationships since we broke up, but I have felt very uncomfortable and high tailed it - or they left me because I was drinking too much. I am convinced that being with her was my destiny, and because I went off my path I have lived in a parallel universe of pain and sorrow ever since. I have tried many ways to distract myself from thoughts of her, but they are intense and have never stopped for 20 years - no matter what I do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cyrille View Post
    There is just no way a man could have typed this.

    Or a sensible woman, come to that.
    Beyond your ability to think of an alternative (to what Wally has been doing for the last 20 years), you mean. Yes, your mind does seem somewhat closed and inflexible.

    Move on, get a grip, get over it, get yourself a bicycle ... Well done TD's finest. Sure to help Wally's situation. I bet Wally never thought of that. Perhaps nobody ever told him that before. Duh.

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    [QUOTE=raycarey;4119446]....i can only hope the OP is a trolling attempt.

    You should know me better than that RC.

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