Thread: Love or Sex.

I have to read in some where about why people have mistress/gik/mea noi/choo

/something

or really some people can love 2 girls/guys in the same time?

make me curious about what the reason why guys/girls do that...

you guys think love important more than sex or sex more important?

if you get less sex from your wife/husband you will find new girls/guys

or will just stay with her/him till die?...

sorry for my nonsense but I just want to know...

It all depends on your morals. Morals are only an opinion, so there is no right or wrong in the greater scheme of things.

I think age has a lot to do with it
In your 20s impossible
30s take it or leave it
40+ I never cheated as much
I am probably not the best to ask but you can still love your wife and cheat with a one off shag
But if you have 2 going at the same time that can get messy
Everyone is different but you are only young once
Probably not the answer you wanted
Why are you offering ?

I just curious cuz I see some in my company do it or in my old work are the same and all of them are educate...

As I have always said - it ain't the thrill of the kill, it's the pace of the chase.

In a relationship love is more is important than sex and trust is much more important than both of them, if youre not prepared to commit in a relationship don't be in one, it's not like you'll ever be hard up for a shag in Thailand

Originally Posted by Maanaam

It all depends on your morals.

yet why is having a mutuallly gratifying physical encounter not considered the same as a mutually gratifying mental encounter ?

Originally Posted by Nicethaiza

I just curious cuz I see some in my company do it or in my old work are the same and all of them are educate...

This is really not the best place to ask za

Originally Posted by YourDaddy

This is really not the best place to ask za

Man, you got that right....... Think Za just wanted to start a thread cause maybe she's bored and it's raining, or there's nothing on TV......

Where the best place then?

Originally Posted by koman

Think Za just wanted to start a thread cause maybe she's bored and it's raining, or there's nothing on TV.

How do you know this?

I think love and sex go together. I will not risk losing love by screwing around. Yes I agree, often after a few years the sex tends to become a lot less exciting, and often becomes once or twice a week, but if you love her then the companionship and sharing is just as important.

Originally Posted by Nicethaiza

Where the best place then?

A normal forum where a well balanced mix of men and women can participate in conversation.

I'll tell you this, though. I don't believe in cheating. I think you shouldn't be in a relationship and definitely not get married and have children if you plan on doing that. It is not just a betrayal to your spouse, it is a betrayal to your children.

There is a reason why laws in the west are the way there are. I hate Thailand for not giving the same rights to women, so they can perhaps prostitute less and be more productive members of society.

Your country is no good, Za when it comes to this particular issue.... sorry to say.

Too many Thai men doing a runner. Too many Western men taking advantage of that situation.

Originally Posted by Nicethaiza

I have to read in some where about why people have mistress/gik/mea noi/choo

/something

or really some people can love 2 girls/guys in the same time?

make me curious about what the reason why guys/girls do that...

you guys think love important more than sex or sex more important?

if you get less sex from your wife/husband you will find new girls/guys

or will just stay with her/him till die?...

sorry for my nonsense but I just want to know...

this is actually a very difficult question, and nobody has the correct answers

men and women have been looking for the answer for centuries, hence they all cheat on their partners

Originally Posted by jimbobs

Why are you offering ?

Why are you asking whether she is offering ?
Are you letting her know that you are available, if required, or is just bravado in front of the lads?

The reasons for males and for females are different.

For males it is the evolutionary drive to spread as much sperm on the side as possible outside their main relationship. Males commit to a primary relationship and voluntarily invest parentally in the offspring. But since the minimum investment from the male is a few minutes shagging they are evolved to also look for lower quality (easier) shagging opportunities outside the relationship, since extra kids probably means a few extra genes even without parental investment. Obviously the women who are willing to settle for a bloke looking for a bit on the side are lower quality than the women who demand marriage before sex (all other factors being held equal - i.e. one woman being low or high quality is relative to the situation).

For females it is the desire to secure higher quality sperm outside their committed main relationship. Females automatically give high parental investment since they do the gestating and weaning so they are more choosy when it comes to casual sex. Females in the prehistoric environment needed male parental investment i.e. they needed a bloke to bring home the bacon. The female benefits from securing a steady male for investment and then cuckolding him with a higher quality local neighbourhood stud for higher quality genes when he is at work.

To boil it down: When males cheat outside the relationship they are temporarily trading down and bringing a smaller investment. When females cheat outside the relationship they are temporarily trading up and bringing a larger investment.

Of course this evolution all happened before modern society came along so the reasons for infidelity these days are more complicated but the evolutionary theory probably still underpins the source of the urges.

Originally Posted by Fluke

Originally Posted by jimbobs

Why are you offering ?

Why are you asking whether she is offering ?
Are you letting her know that you are available, if required, or is just bravado in front of the lads?

Bravado

^^
Jeesus Looper, that's pretty deep..... You do realize this is TD, right?....

One could easily suggest there is a scientific and biological notion to such proclivities - our inner beast that goes back eons.
By our intuitive nature, males require a variety of mates to spread our seed just for the sake of variety. We're wired in this manner.

Granted, our evolved social domestication has restricted such activity by weaving domesticated mores on our behaviour.

Yet, within numerous societal circles [anthropologically speaking], the ideals and acceptance of acquiring numerous spouses/mates is culturally and historically legitimate....

Actually, the historical examples go way back as the ideals of multiple mates is regarded - be it socially accepted or not.

Originally Posted by koman

Jeesus Looper, that's pretty deep..... You do realize this is TD, right?...

yeah - I heard the blokes here on TD only manage to go 3 inches deep

Originally Posted by thaimeme

One could easily suggest there is a scientific and biological notion to such proclivities - our inner beast that goes back eons.
By our intuitive nature, males require a variety of mates to spread our seed just for the sake of variety. We're wired in this manner.

Granted, our evolved social domestication has restricted such activity by weaving domesticated mores on our behaviour.

Yet, within numerous societal circles [anthropologically speaking], the ideals and acceptance of acquiring numerous spouses/mates is culturally and historically legitimate....

Actually, the historical examples go way back as the ideals of multiple mates is regarded - be it socially accepted or not.

Are you getting all this Za?? .......

Originally Posted by thaimeme

One could easily suggest there is a scientific and biological notion to such proclivities - our inner beast that goes back eons.
By our intuitive nature, males require a variety of mates to spread our seed just for the sake of variety. We're wired in this manner.

Granted, our evolved social domestication has restricted such activity by weaving domesticated mores on our behaviour.

Yet, within numerous societal circles [anthropologically speaking], the ideals and acceptance of acquiring numerous spouses/mates is culturally and historically legitimate....

Actually, the historical examples go way back as the ideals of multiple mates is regarded - be it socially accepted or not.

Why did god invent wanking, then?

Originally Posted by koman

Are you getting all this Za?? .......

Are you really koman from speakers? If so you credibility is gone mate.

not many animals are monogamous Za, Humans certainly aren't, maybe yourdaddy who sounds like a woman anyway

Monogamy is having sex with only one partner Za btw

I'm surprised Thais aren't more faithful seeing as your close cousins are in that list















10 Monogamous Animals That Just Want To Settle Down | Mental Floss

^^so koman now ventures to the lounge... good on him.

His house build is done (beautiful house, with a urinal in the loo, if I remember correctly - there was much debate over it. Lol)

The house is done, elections are over, and there's only so much Trump & Brexit that ppl can stomach. Heh.

There's no one doing a sex tourist thread for the mo, nobody's fighting, so there's a lull in the festivities... even the travel threads are down...