Thread: The Clash

I find my wife's way is to go quiet when she's upset, it's.great after the loud mouthed brit women I was with before
They would go ballistic for the smallest thing
I think my wife appreciates things she has had a hard life, but I think I will need to be more understanding because if a woman is not moaning I take it that she's.ok
Kate and fawn have just opened my eyes there to the Thai psyche

^I think most Asian women tend to go quiet when they're sad or upset. Most, not all - of course there are exceptions. Some women, when sulking, will still do chores. But you'll hear the dishes clanging or crashing! Lol.

Re: luk kreung or mestizo (term for white half-breeds in PI) kids, I think there's always the dilemma of finding a balance between the cultures. My heritage is asian-asian, so not mych conflict, as there were many similarities. My parents were both Catholic too, so no clash on religion.

For asian-western couples, there's more conflict re: upbringing of kids, I think. If the kids grow up in an asian country, then they'll have learned the language & culture by the time they're adults or leave for Uni (like AO's or Davis' kids). If they're raised in western countries, then they'll be more western & it really needs more work for the kids to learn the language or culture.

I can somehow relate to kids being ashamed of the other culture. When I was a kid, my grandpa (mom's side) died. My mom couldn't go to Vn for the funeral, due to lack of $$. She mourned her dad by wearing a white scarf-like thing on her head. I forgot how long - maybe 6 mos or 1 year. But I remember being ashamed of my mom, bcos she wore something different, and my classmates all asked me why my mom was like that. I was in grade school, so I didn't know much, and I just answered them flippantly.

Those of you who are raising luk kreung kids in a western country, it really takes more work for them to appreciate their Asian heritage. But I hope you do raise them as bicultural, bcos they'll appreciate it as adults. What little Viet I speak, I can use it when I visit my relatives.

Cheers!

Yeah I used to get a lot of the silent treatment in the early days of our marriage. I get it only very rarely these days.

Though a certain person hasn't been mentioned since my wife mentioned how striking it was that he was so humble and I agreed, stating that it was unusual for someone who had amassed 50 per cent more wealth than the Sultan of Brunei.

Oh well.

Originally Posted by BaitongBoy

Originally Posted by GracelessFawn

we might unload our shit

That sounds ominous and calculating and fairly frightening...Heh...Also, depends on the size of the "load"...

555 BBoy...

It's all talk.....

Originally Posted by wasabi

Mary and I are now fine, when I got home from work after my morning outburst, She had purchased me two new winter shirts, lumber Jack style . ( I like )
We both need each other.

Hey, this is good news! Glad you two sorted it out..... (Hope the ummm make-up session was ummmm tops.... Kidding..... Sorry, can't resist to jibe a bit... )

^^ Okay, then, Fawn...Carry on...