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    How to disagree agreeably

    Do you now how to disagree agreeably? Some people seem to find it difficult. Disagree with someone and they might call you a troll. They might call you a coont, kunt, cnut or [at][at][at][at]. They might cast aspersions on your sexuality. They might make assumptions about your religion, your ancestry or even the clothes you wear. They don't know how to disagree agreeably.

    What advice or suggestions do you have to disagree agreeably? How can you persuade others to follow biblical examples to "live at peace with everyone" (Romans 12:1) and "love one another as he commanded us" (1 John 3:23)?

    How should we handle our differences to avoid or reduce conflict and polarisation? How can we "love" each other even when we are convinced our fellow Teak Doorian brothers and sisters are 'fookin wrong'?



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    I concur with the sentiments expressed but cannot agree to disagree without being outraged by such surreal beliefs.

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    Start with something like, "I see your point, however the way I see it....."
    Or.." BULLSHIT.." and go on to tell them how it really is.
    Last edited by Cujo; 17-11-2014 at 10:58 AM.

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    or just ignore them. I don't post in issues for that reason.

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    Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

    Better to state, "I read what you are writing but if I agreed with you we would both be wrong."

    Try to smile brothers and sisters.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PeeCoffee View Post
    Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
    Not really. Everybody is entitled to their own informed opinion. Otherwise they are just people talking through their ass.

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    Stop sending moronic, childish red repos would be a good place to stsrt OP, you immature bell end.

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    The maturity required isn't evenly distributed.Tolerance respect and humour.
    I know many posters find my post boring/annoying irrelevant and some express that forcefully or via unsigned reds yet for the most part I think all native speakers enjoy the banter and looser moderation than other places.

    Wit and style are the key an insult from Terry or Withnall is something to be savoured and always funny.

    To be fair some of the Grumpy old blokes here, don't hear natalie NR moaning on and on.However it may be the only place they have an audience and we will all be there with ache and pain terminal knob rot horrid in-laws and more behind them than to look forward to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fozzy View Post
    Stop sending moronic, childish red repos would be a good place to stsrt OP, you immature bell end.
    I hear that you are annoyed at receiving a red repo, Fozzy. My understanding is that calling someone an "immature bell end" is equally immature and does little to show one disagreeing agreeably. One might say it's 'Aberlesque'. What's your opinion about that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fozzy View Post
    Stop sending moronic, childish red repos would be a good place to stsrt OP, you immature bell end.
    I agree that setting a good example is a start to a more harmonious world, Fozzy, so how could you rephrase or re-write your post to reduce potential conflict or polarisation between us?

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    I can't see the fascination of all the personal stuff that goes on here.

    I suppose the "You're a twat" "No i'm not" is sometimes amusing but again I can't see the fascination.

    Post about the subject not about the person and.....If it is obviously a troll ignore. Someone calls you a twat? Ignore. No different than being in a bar?

    It all seems very puerile, albeit sometimes amusing.

    To disagree agreeably you have to study Churchill, Shaw, etc..
    Better to think inside the pub, than outside the box?
    I apologize if any offence was caused. unless it was intended.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Fozzy View Post
    Stop sending moronic, childish red repos would be a good place to stsrt OP, you immature bell end.
    I hear that you are annoyed at receiving a red repo, Fozzy. My understanding is that calling someone an "immature bell end" is equally immature and does little to show one disagreeing agreeably. One might say it's 'Aberlesque'. What's your opinion about that?
    Nice effort, Neverna - keeping it civil in the face of extreme churlishness!

    Eagerly awaiting Eggsplat/Aberlour's response.

    With best regards,

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    You are all doing it wrong.......

    How to win every argument like a champ.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VocalNeal View Post
    I can't see the fascination of all the personal stuff that goes on here.

    I suppose the "You're a twat" "No i'm not" is sometimes amusing but again I can't see the fascination.

    Post about the subject not about the person and.....If it is obviously a troll ignore. Someone calls you a twat? Ignore. No different than being in a bar?

    It all seems very puerile, albeit sometimes amusing.

    To disagree agreeably you have to study Churchill, Shaw, etc..
    You would ignore people who repeatedly called you a twat in a bar?

    Can't fault the rest of your post.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nidhogg View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by PeeCoffee View Post
    Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
    Not really. Everybody is entitled to their own informed opinion. Otherwise they are just people talking through their ass.
    Yet, how can one be so sure that said opinion cast itself informed from independent origins, as there are no reasonable standards.


    The old adage stands true: Everything you know is wrong.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Fozzy View Post
    Stop sending moronic, childish red repos would be a good place to stsrt OP, you immature bell end.
    I agree that setting a good example is a start to a more harmonious world, Fozzy, so how could you rephrase or re-write your post to reduce potential conflict or polarisation between us?
    Neverna you're a kunt you sent me a childish red ,

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    Quote Originally Posted by snakeeyes View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Fozzy View Post
    Stop sending moronic, childish red repos would be a good place to stsrt OP, you immature bell end.
    I agree that setting a good example is a start to a more harmonious world, Fozzy, so how could you rephrase or re-write your post to reduce potential conflict or polarisation between us?
    Neverna you're a kunt you sent me a childish red ,
    So how could you rephrase or re-write your post to reduce potential conflict or polarisation between us?
    And do you think there should be any change to the repo system to help improve inter-member relations?
    By the way, that's a nice smiley you added. Thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna
    So how could you rephrase or re-write your post to reduce potential conflict or polarisation between us?
    I believe what you are trying to do is indeed most admirable. It does seem to have got off to a somewhat shaky start, encouraging a higher degree of anger from some posters and increased stupidity from Rural Surin.
    I wish you well with your venture.

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    I hear what you say, Chas, but in my experience, "slightly less than optimum intellectual performance" sounds a tad less confrontational than "increased stupidity".

    Also, naming (and perhaps shaming) those slight under-performers might lead to angst and anger on their part and the possibility of a lob back at you and the inevitable back and forth name calling that leads to disharmony amongst our fellow TD brethren and sisterhood. Perhaps a smile and a kind word would be more appropriate in such circumstances.

    Thanks for your contributions to this fascinating discussion and experiment.

    By the way, I have always admired Mr Clough and the photograph in your avatar is an excellent choice (in my humble opinion).

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    I disagree.

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    Welcome, Koojo. What exactly do you disagree with?

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    Monkeywrenchers agreeing.

    This is rich.

    I suspect there might be underlying agendas in the mix.


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    What is a "monkeywrencher", thaimeme?

    Is being called a "monkeywrencher" something to be proud of?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neverna View Post
    how could you rephrase or re-write your post to reduce potential conflict or polarisation between us?
    And that's the first hurdle were people like you always fall down. There is no 'us'.

    Until you begged for my attention with your repo I barely knew you existed. Other than this one, I honestly can't remember a single thread or post you've ever made. I just remember you as one of the posters who makes loads of posts in the dog house.

    It's members like you that want there to be an 'us' with other members, that drag the place down.

    Lonely? No friends? Bored? Who knows, pretty fucking sad though.

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