Thread: The dream is gone but the boner is real

I sometimes get emails from Ex-GFs. I would say 60% of my exes keep in touch. 60% of that 60% are now married.

They email me for a chat (and even skype sometimes). I enjoy chatting with them. They seem happy to have sealed a deal and be married but I also get the sense that they enjoy keeping in touch as a chance to flirt a bit. I also sense that they maybe miss the old days of adventure and being more footloose.

Maybe I am reading between the lines too much and allowing my warped and fevered imagination to fill in the gaps but an email from one always gives me a massive boner even when they are just casually chatting on the surface.

Do any of you keep in touch with Exes?

Nope.

Probably 'cause most of them were what we once labeled BBD's.

Always looking for a Bigger and Better Deal.

yes, some of them

a lot call when they have had an argument with their partner

they miss the great sex, obviously

Originally Posted by Boon Mee

Nope.

Probably 'cause most of them were what we once labeled BBD's.

Always looking for a Bigger and Better Deal.

not too difficult then?

why would you go out with a woman whom you classify that way?

Mine came to our wedding all smiles asked me to help her find an upgrade in London this summer sadly my friends are either lawyers or musos both awful choices

Originally Posted by DrAndy

Originally Posted by Boon Mee

Nope.

Probably 'cause most of them were what we once labeled BBD's.

Always looking for a Bigger and Better Deal.

not too difficult then?

why would you go out with a woman whom you classify that way?

One generally doesn't learn that aspect of their personality until the 2nd or third date and, this sort are concentrated in certain demographics.

I thought your TGF had left you...

I don't talk to my exes (apart the odd very rare occasion with my ex-wife) because I don't want to upset the Midget.

Originally Posted by kingwilly

I thought your TGF had left you...

Huh?

My comments re old gf's stem from experiences 'back in the day'

Been happily married to the missus (Thai) for >33 years now.

I Never respond to them...nothing but trouble. Its someone else's wife or GF or trouble now FFS! Got to ask you, what do you get out of it? Ego?

The only way I want to talk to my first ex wife is through a fucking medium.

I have been in touch with a few old GF's over the years - all date back to the 70's. I stay in regular e-mail contact with one. But, I think Looper is speaking of boner-inducing GF's from the fairly recent past; I'm talking about ladies who are around 60.

Of the wives.....3 out of the 4 I still have close and cordial relations [including extended families].

GFs....? Sure, remain friendly/social with a couple.

^ 4 ex wives.

Sorry if that's inappropriate but fuck mine!!

Originally Posted by Aberlour

Sorry if that's inappropriate but fuck mine!!

No thanks..yours has a dick.

david43: wow, you have quite a nerve... inviting the ex to the marriage...

Originally Posted by ltnt

I Never respond to them...nothing but trouble. Its someone else's wife or GF or trouble now FFS! Got to ask you, what do you get out of it? Ego?

think that hits the nail... they just want something...
a confirmation how awesome they are, how good they look, and mostly talk about trouble they have...

its abusive...
you are simply the doormat, when boredom/frustration hits...

Originally Posted by david44

Mine came to our wedding

Originally Posted by alitongkat

david43: wow, you have quite a nerve... inviting the ex to the marriage...

One of my exes invited me to her wedding. When I accepted she asked if they could use my car for the wedding as they were on a budget. I said yes so she asked if I could also festoon the bonnet with ribbons and be the driver. I didn't know many folk at the gig and they all thought my ex was so sweet to let the driver sit down and have a plate of food and a glass of wine.

Originally Posted by ltnt

Got to ask you, what do you get out of it?

A boner

Originally Posted by alitongkat

you are simply the doormat, when boredom/frustration hits...

Maybe but it still gives me a boner

Originally Posted by alitongkat

david43: wow, you have quite a nerve... inviting the ex to the marriage...

I invited my ex husband to my wedding, though he didn't attend. Mr NR's ex wife came to our wedding, her (not with him) daughter was my flower girl and she came on my hen night too.

Originally Posted by Looper

Do any of you keep in touch with Exes?

Books and bank accounts are closed.

There is nothing to be compared with a woman's scorn.

Originally Posted by November Rain

she came on my hen night too.

Lucky her. I thought only the person getting married was allowed to do that

Any pics?

Speaking of which....[this related thread]

Where's old Simon - not chimed in yet.

Stories to tell, I'm sure.

Originally Posted by Looper

Do any of you keep in touch with Exes?

I had two long time gone Sydney exes contact me out of the blue on Facebook over the last few months, heck one I was bonking back in 1980, the other '89 or so.
Ex no.1 is living back in NZ now, married, grown up kids, good christian girl now- she certainly wasn't before.
Ex no.2 living in inner Sydney, kids of uni age roughly, she recently graduated with a degree. She's looking well too, unlike no1- quite frumpy.
Anyway, both got married, had kids, and their marriage has lasted. Glad they used me to sow their oats when young- they were both quite lusty bints in their time, now seemingly model wives and mothers. Reckon I could manage a boner for no.2.

Some of my best friends are old girlfriends who some I introduced to their husbands.
Spent 20 years in Mexico in winter in RV parks and one couple would come down and
spend week with us in a 23 ft motorhome, had a Meyers Manzs dune buggy and travel all
over the mountains near Mazatlan, with them. Just got a call last week from them
They have been better friends then old buddies that married somebody who just not fit in. love it She is 60 years old and I am 71. Is it different today?

My ex girlfriends are so bitter that I would not marry them,that the thought of keeping in touch would be too painful for them to bare.