Thread: Thai women and voodoo.....

That's a big development BLD.

It may be just the tonic she needs.

Originally Posted by BLD

I m glad Aone has the time to do this to help out i think mrs bld needs to get back to lao? But i will talk to her doctor tomorrow hopefully to see if he thinks its a good ideA

Theres a few considerations. She will still need to medicate how many drugs / months she needs to take. Run our. Are they available? Who will be responsible to aister this drug in the land of bor pen nyang.? Am i doing the right thin as a gringo raised in a nanny state

Best of luck. Quite a change going back to Laos, hopefully that will really, really help.

When the idea was mentioned earlier in the thread, I posted the info of the two mental health facilities available in Laos. Just in case, it might be worth having her Lao relatives and friends having the contact details (address, google map location, and phone number) in Lao language, just in case.

Best of luck with it all.

Originally Posted by Joe 90

That's a big development BLD.

It may be just the tonic she needs.

It depends who i speak to.some of her so called relatives sais leave her in the hospital.until decembef 20 then you fly together as a family . Realy ?

Originally Posted by Edmond

Best of luck. Quite a change going back to Laos, hopefully that will really, really help.

When the idea was mentioned earlier in the thread, I posted the info of the two mental health facilities available in Laos. Just in case, it might be worth having her Lao relatives and friends having the contact details (address, google map location, and phone number) in Lao language, just in case.

Best of luck with it all.

No i doubt that . After 14 years living there and initially being naive i can honestly say ive tested the Lao health system thouraghly and found it absolute shit . Wouldnt take my dog there

Originally Posted by BLD

ive tested the Lao health system thouraghly and found it absolute shit

No doubt. Pretty much the same here.


IIRC one of the Lao mental health facilities was Swiss run/managed or setup.


Just an idea to maybe research such things, and those in places like Udon, so the relatives with her know where to go, just in case there's an emergency. :-)


Su Su *fist in the air*

Send her to Laos, visit in December with sons. If she is not back to normal by then hard decisions will have to be made.
Use the time between now and then to formulate a plan b regarding kids and your own welfare/future if things continue to go south.

These are difficult times for you, as regards ongoing medication, will you be ok with your wife constantly under the “chemical cosh” if this is what is required to make the illness manageable?

If this is not cured then you will be living with a very different person. It sounds worse than a standard “mental breakdown”

No one likes to take the hard decisions, however relationship wise I would opt for a painful end rather than endless pain.

Your children’s welfare will have to become the number 1 priority.

Just my thoughts, be prepared.

Thatsa great idea

Originally Posted by Iceman123

Send her to Laos, visit in December with sons. If she is not back to normal by then hard decisions will have to be made.
Use the time between now and then to formulate a plan b regarding kids and your own welfare/future if things continue to go south.

These are difficult times for you, as regards ongoing medication, will you be ok with your wife constantly under the “chemical cosh” if this is what is required to make the illness manageable?

If this is not cured then you will be living with a very different person. It sounds worse than a standard “mental breakdown”

No one likes to take the hard decisions, however relationship wise I would opt for a painful end rather than endless pain.

Your children’s welfare will have to become the number 1 priority.

Just my thoughts, be prepared.

Thats deppressing but makes sense. Something i have to ponder

Hope that it'll work out for you both.

Personally I would start to worry about if my wife would change her mind in the airport and refuse to board.

Or act so weird that the captain would refuse her to board.


It would further stress me up to have a sick wife "on her own" 6000 kilos away.

If it was my wife, her family would have very little influence on her doings, due to her status.

No matter how many thousands she used on lottery or other madness.


Can you bring her back home if she gets worse ?




I know that I'm not helping here.

Originally Posted by BLD

Thats deppressing but makes sense. Something i have to ponder

Agree with iceman.

You gotta explore all possibilities.

Best of luck.

Originally Posted by BLD

It depends who i speak to.some of her so called relatives sais leave her in the hospital.until decembef 20 then you fly together as a family . Realy ?

They don't want the responsibility.

Times like this you find out the true fibre of peoples fabric.

Won't you and the kids be worried sick about her welfare with her being over there on her own in the state she's in?
I think it's a bit early for that mate.
Although you must be at your wits end.
I really don't know what I'd do in your situation.
Feel for you mate. I'd give it some more time

At the risk of reaping the wrath of the Leprechaun and monkey boy....

Medications take time to work.


FOL
FOKW

Originally Posted by Joe 90

At the risk of reaping the wrath of the Leprechaun and monkey boy....

Medications take time to work.


FOL
FOKW

Why? It's the first sensible thing you've said.

I'm confused to why anyone thinks her being in Laos week fix anything? The county is not a magic pill. The health care is shit. When not fukking if she kicks off who is gonna help her and what's gonna happen? She night end up chained to a bed. As hard as it is keeping her in Aus in this hospital with occasional nights out sounds best

Whilst I am very sorry for BLD and his boys the positive aspect regarding this thread is that others must consider their own situation if confronting the possibility of relocating their family from the east to the west.

I have considered moving the family back to Oz but feel my wife would struggle adapting to the lifestyle change in spite of the fact she would do so for the sake of the kids. She is an incredibly independent and proud Thai person and I believe would struggle.

There is a cliché/ saying, You can take an Asia girl out of Asia but can never take Asia out of the girl, and I believe this is true at the end of the day.

I must add to my post that some Asian women handle the change in lifestyle quite well and those that are quite young seem to adapt better.

For those that are considering the move they should be prepared that when the kids are grown up and independent that a move back to Asia is a possibility.

Literally millions of Asians have successfully migrated. Stop assuming.

Originally Posted by DrWilly

I'm confused to why anyone thinks her being in Laos week fix anything? The county is not a magic pill. The health care is shit. When not fukking if she kicks off who is gonna help her and what's gonna happen? She night end up chained to a bed. As hard as it is keeping her in Aus in this hospital with occasional nights out sounds best

The flip side of the coin BLD.

Difficult choices

But her family in Loas might be a deciding factor.

Yesterday i thought that sending her to Lao ahead of us was a good idea ive since talked to more people and got more info

She was home 2 nights and no problem at all apart from the constant cleaning and lotto thing and i thought about asking the doc could she stay for the weekend. Day 2 she was up early and i immediately sensed something wasnt right. The buddha music was back on repetitively and apparently the fridge needed a good clean. I had some jobs booked i wanted to get back into it to top up the bank account so she went with me. Not even 1 hour into it she starts a non sense fight, regarding me asking her where she got the $100 i saw and what was she planning to do with it ( i already knew the answer) play lotto. It turns out she had " Borrowed" it from little daves birthday money . This didnt sit well with me and i knew i was in for a long day . And sure enough i nearly had to join her in the hospital. So high were my stress levels i took her back there . Im pretty sure that on the last night she tricked me and didnt actually take the medication . She wants to go back to work easy money she reckons. Told her forget the money your job is why your in hospital think about that. Then we both really twisted off

Yesterday i thought maybe the answer really is to send her to Lao ahead of us but so much conflicting advice from friends and her family makes it so fucking confusing what is the right thing. Yesterday i thought yes send her home. But how to do that? And cant send her on her own, no direct flights so i reached out to a couple of her lao friends that i know are ok and Aone stepped up to the plate and said she will take her im paying the ticket and expenses obviously . Told her im gonna let her stay in hospital a week more and find out from the doc if she can get a couple of months medication and if this medication is available in what passes for a pharmacy there.

Later that night by a weird coincidence karen one of my customers who thinks the world of her called to see if we were available for a job she needed done i explained the situation and it turns out karens actually a mental health nurse and strongly discouraged me from sending her back to Lao . Shes seen it all and knows once the patient thinks there ok, they skip the medicine. She offered me all sorts of great advice about the system, ive been off the piss but after yesterday i couldnt drink it fast enough. So i pondered her advice