Savage Love -- Dear Abby for Sex

Q: My partner and Iare in our mid 20s and have been together since our teens. We make an awesome pair. Unfortunately, we are not sexually compatible. I’ve come to realize that I’m kinky and nonmonogamous. My partner is decidedly not kinky, though she has said that if I slept with others she would never want to know.
I love her and am committed to the relationship, but I need some kink to be happy, and my outing myself as kinky has led to a steady deterioration in our vanilla sex life. Is it fair to put her on notice that I’ll be kinking out as opportunities arise and deal with the fallout as we go?
Seeking Orderly Solution

Answers from Experts:
> “She said she would ‘never want to know’. That is not an open door. That’s a double-shielded blast door with padlocks and a sign on it that says, ‘Don’t even think about it, motherf**er.’ ”
> “You’ll be unhappy for a few years if you leave her, but you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life/ if you stay.”
> “WTF? Get rid of the shit. I’m not talking about ‘leaving’ her. She’s likely to have some of your secrets. Kill her. Everything you need is at a convenience store: shovel, lime, rope, large garbage bags, sympathy card for the family.”

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