I blow hot and cold on the idea of settling down and having children, a wife, family home, pet dog etc (family man). Versus staying single in the marital sense.
Who in the TD community is family man and who is a singleton?
I blow hot and cold on the idea of settling down and having children, a wife, family home, pet dog etc (family man). Versus staying single in the marital sense.
Who in the TD community is family man and who is a singleton?
Married 5years with 1 kid. I don't play about either and so I s'pose you could put me down as a family man.
I was a shagmeister before but have just adopted a family.
It's nice, but I'd advise anyone to stay single.
Family at a young age, well before 30
It has it's pros and cons just like being single.
I should of held out a bit longer I reckon but I am happy and I married a good 'un
Mad Dog - aren't you about to get married or has she been nipping at your head this morning?
I am actually engaged but my finace and I have decided to slow things down....Two of my siblings are divorcees and I have no desire to join them.... So I am not sure where to put myself on my own poll 55+
Will be married 30 years this year, two children. Shure it has drawbacks (a lot) but overall I say you will come to regret it at some time in the future if you don't dive into it now. Raising children may be one of the most troublesome experiences you ever have but for nothing in this world I would miss it.Quote:
Originally Posted by mad_dog
agreed.Quote:
Originally Posted by Takeovers
disagree, if the marriage aint gonna work out, then having children is even harder.Quote:
Originally Posted by Takeovers
We both thought rushing a relationship for a visa was silly and thoughts of my brother who recently got ditched by his Swedish wife and who now must remain in Sweden (teaching physics) if he wants to see his young daughter ran through my mind. Also credit crunch UK doesn't sound like an ideal place for a new marriage to blossom....Quote:
Originally Posted by mrsquirrel
I have the opposite problem, I have to travel to Australia regularly if I want to see my son.
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Originally Posted by mad_dog
I'd have to follow this line as well. Married close to 15 years, played around happily until that time.
The term 'settle down' is somewhat inaccurate as it all depends on what type of people you two are.
I'd suggest the word 'routine' would probably be more applicable in some aspects of your life . . . and this is not a bad thing at all.
I've never had regrets about my marriage . . . actually the longer we are together the more we cherish one another as we have gone through ups and downs together and that in itself forges a strong bond.
Then children come into play . . . some of the most aggravating, sleepless, worrisome, loving, tender, playful, fulfilled etc etc times describe this . . . but at the end of the day it is simply brilliant.
Will your lady friend be the right partner? It's a gamble, but a gamble well worth taking in my opinion.
Life is somewhat a roll of the dice. But commitment can sure overcome a lot.Quote:
Originally Posted by panama hat
I sense something short of commitment mad dog. Stay single until you are 100% convinced it's for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by mad_dog
Family man for five years now. Our 2 boys have changed everything for the better; everything I do is for them and it gives a sense of purpose.
How can anybody ever be 100% sure? If mad dog seriously considers it that means he senses something missing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Norton
Otoh nobody should go that way with serious doubts.
I was 25 when I had my first child. Anyone as young as that here?
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Originally Posted by Norton
I don't believe anyone is ever 100% convinced, wait until you're about 80-85% convinced and then take the plunge!
JxP (Wife, four children, two dogs and a weekly kitchen pass.)
Same same.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr Brown
Interestingly my Dad was 25 was I was born and my Grandad was 25 when he was born, so at some point my son will be 25, I'll be 50, my dad will be 75 and my grandad would be 100 if he wasn't dead
Sorry Pot, I assumed from your posting style that you were male. My aplogies young lady.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr Brown
6 wives...err, 7 wives - scattered about. Yeah, family man.:mid:
:) Kitchen Pass . . .Quote:
Originally Posted by JuniorExPat
Kudos, mate. Four children, good on you.
This opens up a very valid point, I haven't had a fling during the course of my marriageand this is something you should also take into consideration. If you don't think you can handle only looking at one set of eyes, staring at one set of boobies etc . . . then that's a problem . . . well, it would be for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Moonraker
The cornerstone of a serious relationship is respect, and if you fool around on the side it is difficult to have respect . . . again, in my opinion, I'm sure other's opinions will differ
Married twice for a total of 17 years... No kids... First wife didn't want any and the second couldn't have kids... A blessing in disguise as it would kill me to be separated from my children...
I don't plan on getting married again, but definitely want a LTR over simply shagging everything in sight...
I voted familymaN ,although in some sense may not be true. We acquired our son via the Thai method of the parents unable or not wanting to bring him up, that was 8 years ago.
Although we [the missus] don't always get along we have undying love for our son.
There is no golden rule to separate being single or married, it's an individual thing.
My brother is on his third marriage and I've a friend on his fifth???
^ :rofl::rofl: Sorry Muadib. I couldn't figure out what LTR means so I googled it and the first listing is London Turkish Radio and it had me baffled in the context of your sentence.
Yes, yes. I understand now. Sorry to disrupt the flow of the thread.Quote:
Originally Posted by Muadib
I absolutely agree with you . . . having a different shag every night or every time gets quite boring . . . nothing to prove to anyone, no macho image to project or protect.
Good for you, noelbino. Green for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by noelbino