Apart from Scrabble, surely?Originally Posted by withnallstoke
Apart from Scrabble, surely?Originally Posted by withnallstoke
I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. On one hand it gives me a feeling of total superiority and on the other it makes me despise everyone..
*We WOZ IN DA PUB LAS NIGHT AND WE AD BEER*
Fuck off, you nauseating retard..
Originally Posted by StrongarmOriginally Posted by Sir Wilsonthere is the simple answerOriginally Posted by sabaii sabaii
you could also report her to facebook police for harassment
I tried it for three days. Every AH in the world connects. Then you have to dump them and next thing you know some virus or another shows up...canceled it in three days use. What a waste of time. Guess if you're a 15 year old female its great, but then aren't all Thai ladies permanently 15?
nope, they are not
YEH. SOZ ABOUT THAT XTRA G SOMTAM. IT WAS LAS NITE.Originally Posted by somtamslap
You obviously have not been giving your mother-in-law enough money and according to her expectations.
Shame on you for making her turn into a greedy extortionist old hag that needs a good hiding.
Now pay the 10,000 baht needed so she can receive that good hiding and when she's in hospital visit her and ask her whether she is satisfied now.
I know a good hider.Originally Posted by Loy Toy
You'll never find him.
Change the password to get on face book and don't tell the wife.
Thank you everyone for your ideas. My wife is the best thing that ever happened in my life.I have something substantial and two boys, 7 and 10 year old both of whom are very close to me. (when threatened wifey can become worst thing) to ever happen so I have to use psychology. Everyone is struck by her sweet disposition and kindness. They don't realize she can go crazy violent as well within the home.I have read many times that this is quite common.Anyone marry a Thai women that isn't capable of flipping out violently?
You could pour cash into the mother in law and it would attract more and more trouble. One of the stories involved her boyfriend a local cop who she borrowed money from. She called her daughter to say she was going to be killed if she didn't pay. Don't get me started on her brother Tada. In his thirties and still lives off of mom. He's perfectly capable of work but is allergic to it. It took them 6 months to spend the million baht life insurance the old man left.
If I don't play this right somehow I will become the bad guy here. I let my wife have the checking account years ago. I said we are joined at the hip and said we would have to go threw everything together to get her learning curve up to speed. She had to learn that when the money runs out it's gone and no one is going to give me more.Normally she is very responsible and takes great care of the children. The mother guilt thing is very powerful and she knows it could lead to our downfall. There is no helping mom. It's hopeless.
Ota
You should block mom of course.
Your wife should also changes her privacy settings so only friends can see her page and that only friends can post there.
FB recently updated the privacy capability, you just have to help her with making the setting set up correct.
Also beware that her contact setting (ie access to message or email her) is for friends only.
It sounds like you have domestic issues as well, a comfort is perhaps you are not the first bloke to suffer that.
Its simple she's a gambling addict; and just like any addict she will use any leverage to try to worm money out of both of you. Unfortunately for you its gambling, so essentially there is no limit to how much money she can burn.Originally Posted by ota
I don't think you have any choice but to walk away from the problem. If she borrows from loan shark that will hurt her, and you bail her out. she will just do again and again until you's consumed all your money. ultimately leading to the same result, except you will be broke.
I've given this considerable though and have come up with this idea. You wife, maybe with your assistance, needs to draft a message that she will send to all her facebook friends explaining the situation with her mother. A couple of paragraphs should do it. This should not be posted on her page but sent to each of her facebook friends. Then just ignore the mother and brother on facebook. I think by acknowledging their posts it keeps them going at it. This way possibly they will go away as they see no results from this avenue of attack. And if they continue the slander route everyone will know they are just full of shit and pay them no never mind. Good luck.
That's leading to a slippery slope. Where do you stop with what you "tell" all your "friends".
If the mother in law retorts with more accusations how to answer, keep on agreeing with her or not?. In addition once word gets out that you open up to all your "friends" your page will be inundated with new "friend" requests.
A tray full of GOLD is not worth a moment in time.
Thanks again folks. We have discussed the ideas and now have a plan She was able to exclude her mom and brother. My wife is basically a very loveable calm person. She can't deal with stress well and that is what would drive her bonkers. I think this is one of those life long chronic problems you have to deal with. I'm sure many men who marry Thai women think they have gotten a taste of heaven.However, like durian fruit there is that underbelly every culture has.
I am not sure that Thai MiLs are any worse than other nations' versions
How many years has it been going on, ota? I've got a similar problem, with an evil gambling mother-in-law always trying to leech large sums of money from my wife (and therefore, by extension, me, however much my wife would try to protest that I'm not losing money. It's our future).
My wife also sounds similar to yours in that she can't seem to deal with the stress or guilt well. Her mother is really over-doing it, asking for larger and larger sums, more frequently. After all she's given, she's fed up but she seems sad, resigned, rather than angry and she won't take my suggestions of:
a) Telling her mother where to go and then
b) Changing her phone number
When you say she was 'able to exclude her mother and brother', what do you mean? Did she just take them off the friends list, out of sight?
To my mind, the wider Thai community, the wider group of people who know what's going on need to stand up and react, tell the mother that her behaviour is unacceptable and it's not a daughter's duty to sacrifice her future, her husband, her own kids, to give endless sums to a person who just throws it away on gambling. That's not 'Thai'.
Sadly, this is the ugly face of 'mai pen rai'. Thais won't stick up for you! Her friends, other people in her family should be offering more support. Otherwise this will just gnaw away at her.
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