Yep I'm certainly not old however even in my own opinion I am quite sensible when it comes to it so I certainly am not just ditching everything here and putting every single penny in to something! Neither am I actually going to do anything before alot of prior thought and research.
I feel very glad to have joined this forum and have had so great advice so far! It's really making me think about lot's of different options and ideas!
Like I said the decisions will of course have to wait until I get there but the more info I can get prior to this the better so thanks again to those who have posted useful and constructive comments.
Cheers!
Agreed.
All the old fucks who live in these here parts do nothing but complain about coming here too late.
I was 30 when I moved to Thailand and I still wish that I hadn't bothered with the previous 10 years I spent on the Foggy Isle. Not sure I would have wanted to have been hamstrung by a wife though.
While you're here...
What's the best way of fixing shallow scratches in clearcoat? I'm thinking some of that Turtle Wax Colour Magic. I did buy some scratch removing stuff that only dullened the clearcoat leaving the scratch intact.
If the scratches are light and simply in the clear coat then I would get some 1500 grit wet and dry paper, soak the paper in soapy water and flat the area where the scratches are until you see them fading away, you will then need to bring the shine back. I highly doubt that you have an electric polishing mop laying around so instead you'll just have to do it by hand, in the UK I use Farcela G3, now I'm not sure if it's available in Thailand but there will be something else similar, basically you need a cutting compound which will give the shine back. Don't use high street stuff such as t-cut or equivalent as it has ammonia in it which when used on paintwork that has been flatted will cause the lacquer to go cloudy.
Nobody wants to rain on your parade but there are some real pitfalls, you really must try to protect yourself against
Firstly Asia is a great place to spend money but a very difficult one to earn it in .
secondly you really need tio spend some time maybe a year sussing everything out before you bring your mother over
There are many other problems you will meet when you get here --living with your wife 24/7 and near her family ,there will be some real relationship issues to sort out including where you stand with her vis a vis the brothers sisters and all the rest
Love and determination may well find a way but Asia is littered with wrecked European /Asian relationships
Above all dont sell up in the UK keep the options open for both you and your mothers sake
Best of luck
Thanks for your advice! Yep there certainly are some pitfalls in my plan, that's one of the reasons I'm posting on here to get everyone's ideas and suggestions in order to hopefully minimize the pitfalls.
What I'm possibly now thinking is to go over at the beginning of next year on my own and just give it a go for a few months, I won't invest much money at all and will just see how it goes???
I also agree with what you have said about it being a good place to spend but not so easy to earn! Well yes this certainly is true! I think and have been told that it's hard to earn if you have nothing but if you have money to invest then it makes it alot easier! So it's a kind of catch 22 situation where as to balance the two....As I need to invest money to make money but I certainly also don't want to invest too much and loose it all...Hmmmm
Living with my wife 24/7 Is fine! We've been living together 24/7 for the past 13/14 Months until now We won't be living with her family either so that'll be fine, she hasn't actually lived with her family since she was 20 so no worries there, she is very independent!
I suppose an option would be for us to rent the house out in the UK and see how it goes over there, that way we would have an income coming from the rent which would pay for rent,food and bills plus if it did go tits up then we could all return home and still have the house....
This is all getting redundant and boring. Drop a post again when/if you actually do something other than getting anonymous posters to plan out your life for you.
A very, very smart option.Originally Posted by supernovadw
Just get on a plane with your old dorris and give it a go. Rent a shop house type of thing and use the groudn floor to do something with it.
What about your wife, does she work? Can you start her off in a business in her chosen field with your support and hard graft? hope your mummy has some pennies though so she can help you out if needs be; she looks like she would run a great tea shop with a nice afternoon tea offering; would go down a treat with the old expats.
If you don't do it, you will regret it. If you do, you will learn a lot about yourself and the world. Mean time, get the bird in English lessons and never speak to her in Laos until she has passed that test.
Thanks for the useless info! If you don't like the thread and find it boring and useless then please save your time and don't comment hey I'm not wanting anyone to plan my life! I simply started the thread to get the thoughts and opinions of others who are actually living in Laos.
Thanks for the info! Like you say the only thing is to try it hey! My wife is a very good hairdresser so we could certainly rent out a shop and get her going again in no time, she ran her own shop for 10 years so has plenty of experience. My mother doesn't have much to be honest, all her assets are tied up in the house. She will shortly start to get a pension which whilst not a considerable amount it would certainly be enough for her to live off there.
Anyhow I shall see how it goes...regarding the English yes if we don't go down the route of staying in Laos she will need to start studying but if I go there then it doesn't really matter that much.
Anyhow thanks again for the comments and suggestions.
You need to put your cock on the block, Make the decision and go for it, you know you want to. Its your decision thoughOriginally Posted by supernovadw
Thanks yeh your right! Also thanks for the PM.
Yes I certainly do want to!
Trying to make a plan now as to when to go etc...Probably thinking end of Jan/Beginning of Feb or something as I have alot to do/sell here in the UK, sure I'll sort something out though.
Rough plan is to go over there on my own and give it two/three months just to see what happens...Spend alot of time researching and thinking... Then return back to the UK and depending on how it went either make the proper move to Laos or go back the UK to live. This way I'm not putting everything on the line so even if it doesn't work (But I really hope it does!) I've only lost a few grand and have everything to return too.
^ and I reckon you will go full circle mate and come back to my idea of investing some good money in getting your wife " Englished " up enough to come and live / work here .
You are both so young and could save some good money here for 20 odd years , whilst still investing in Laos i.e. land / house / rubber for your futures ,, you could then be at the young age of 40 ish be looking with plenty of security venturing out into the unknown in Laos , you wont be having to rely on money you make there then , but will be a bonus if you do.
If you do wanna end getting the wife over here give me a PM and I will send you a list of tips on how to fill in a winning visa application .
All the best take your time ,, its on your side
I'm proud of my 38" waist , also proud I have never done drugs
BTW ,, I have nothing but admiration for the way you are considering your Mum ,, its so nice to see ,, makes a nice change from the bloody disgusting way some of us are treated from our offspring ( me included ) as we get older .
Here's the rub mate, considering your a young punk you can give it a crack and if goes tits up you can fuk off home to that shithole from where you come from.
Just remember there ain't no safety net in Asia and you cant front up for free health care or unemployment benefits when you are on the bones off your arse.
You will get fuk all for nothing in Asia and if you ever hit rock bottom you will wish you where home in your own country.
Besides that, crack on and I wish you success.
Cheers.
What is your first language? This looks a bit like English but it is so mangled it is hard to tell.Originally Posted by terry57
Also, you forgot to use your usual references to anal sex and stuff. I think you are slipping......
No teaching English would not be an option. I would not offer you a job without a degree and a bit of experience and neither would anyone else except dodgy bros school down the road.
However I have come late to this thread - away on holiday. Give it a go and come to Lao.
That was the other poster I was trying to think of VB....
Sorry I've not posted up on here in a few days I have been very very busy with work.
@Vientianeboy I know that not having a degree/work experience in teaching would of course be against me but I'm fairly certain that I would find something if I wanted to, near why my wife used to live in Sisattanak/Chinamo there was a school there, I was speaking to the owner who expressed interest in me working there however at the time I was only there for a short period so wasn't in a position to be starting work. Also as I said I really have zero interest in teaching English so I really would not want to pursue the teaching anyhow.
@Terry57 yep I am certainly only young and you are right that giving it a go is the secret! I am also more than aware that there is no safety net as there is in the western world.
@Nigelandjan Thanks for the comment, I certainly couldn't/wouldn't leave my mother here in the UK on here own, as I've said I only have a very small family so my Mum wouldn't be able to or want to stay here in the UK on her own either.
Why wouldn't your mum be able to stay in the UK.
She must be only around 50 or so.
You a bit of a mummies boy?
@Koojo no my mum is 60, she could certainly obviously technically stay in the UK however like I've said she wouldn't want to and neither would I want her to stay there on her own. Call me a mummies boy by all means but is it bad trying to be good to my family? My wife also feels the same.
^ make the most of your mother whilst she is still here!!
As I said, dodgy bros down the road might give you a teaching job. I certainly would not. Anyway, that is not an option as you are not keen on teaching. Do you have skills that are useful in the mining industry? There are jobs going at MMG and Phu Bia. What skills do you have? Any qualifications? A trade?
To be honest, I suspect you might have problems getting your repair company started. Not trying to be negative here. On the other hand, those claiming how poor a country Lao is should come and see the large number of BMWs and other luxury cars on the road.
Just another point. You say that you are married. Does this mean that you have done all the paperwork and had this signed by the Lao authorities? You do realise that the ceremony at home is not a wedding ceremony but rather a blessing and you are not legally married until the relevant Ministries have given their approval. Sorry for asking, but this process does take about 12 months, so I am wondering when you would have done it.
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