Why do men cheat?

**Perota** · 05-08-2010, 03:21 PM

When the playwright Peadar de Burca interviewed philanderers to discover their motivations, he was amazed by the answers.

Throughout his research, de Burca encountered just one instance of what could properly be termed a "love affair". Unlike any other interviewees, the pair in question ended up leaving their spouses and marrying one another. The woman was older, too – more than a decade older than her new husband. It's the exception which, he says, proves the rule. "The men would go for a kind of wife-lite, as it were. The women they would sleep with would look like their wives but be more ... on display." It's an intriguing finding, since it would suggest – as spectators of the unedifying dalliances of Ashley Cole, Tiger Woods et al have long suspected – that men who cheat are not simply motivated by their mistresses' superior allure. Overwhelmingly, says de Burca, they are looking for compensation. Compensation, not for their wives' failings, but for their own. "That was the big thing. These men were very insecure, needy men. There was something lacking in them. A lot of them were quite athletic, wealthy, successful men – cops and doctors and politicians.
"But you felt deep down that they were wanting something: adulation, people to like them. It was very strange."
The older the man, the more this motive of compensation came into play. The young men de Burca interviewed spoke of lust, hormones and the suspicion that their girlfriends were just as unfaithful. But the older men would cite a break from routine, the illusion of excitement or the sensation of adventure as their reason for infidelity. One man interviewed for the play claimed he felt like he was "in his own personal movie ... full of excitement and clandestine meetings".

Why do men cheat? - Features, Health & Families - The Independent

**wefearourdespot** · 05-08-2010, 03:45 PM

Why did I eat chicken soup yesterday evening and instead chose spaghetti carbonara for today's lunch ?

**Cujo** · 05-08-2010, 03:49 PM

Why do women cheats?

**billy the kid** · 05-08-2010, 05:37 PM

It's an awesome question. I wouldn't know where to begin. A cheat or con artist.
when you first met your wife you only had eyes for her. So ,what happened.
But there are all sorts of cons and scams goin on everywhere form the top to the bottom and sideways.
In the UK people have just been told that they have been eating 'cloned meat' and drinking cloned cows milk for maybe 5,6 or even 10 years and not one politician has come out and spoke about it.

**billy the kid** · 05-08-2010, 05:48 PM

So if you don't have those feelins anymore for your wife and you don't want to leave her and maybe she doesn't want to leave you and so,,, you come to an arrangement. ie,, you bring home the bacon and she provides the sex.
Cold i know, but this is what is happening.
You have just turned your wife into a prostitute. and you ,the man have become £$%^&*.
Ye all apparently legal and above board.

**Marmite the Dog** · 05-08-2010, 07:46 PM

Because women get, old, ugly & frigid?

**Bower** · 05-08-2010, 07:48 PM

Because they can.

**the dogcatcher** · 05-08-2010, 08:03 PM

Because it's fun.
Always like unwrapping something fresh.

**buriramboy** · 05-08-2010, 08:33 PM

Who decided it should be called cheating and that it is wrong?? If i normally shop at Tesco, then decide to go to Big C one day, am i cheating on Tesco's, am i doing something wrong???

**HollyGoodhead** · 05-08-2010, 08:46 PM

Pointless question really...

I think what pisses people off is the sneakiness, lack of respect and betrayal. Why not just make your intentions clear from the start? Don't commit if you know you can't...or if you think you're going to cheat tell your partner so that they can decide if they wanna be in that kind of relationship or not. That goes for men and women.

**12Call** · 05-08-2010, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by buriramboy

Who decided it should be called cheating and that it is wrong?? If i normally shop at Tesco, then decide to go to Big C one day, am i cheating on Tesco's, am i doing something wrong???

No Big C in the UK BB.

**buriramboy** · 05-08-2010, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by 12Call

Originally Posted by buriramboy

Who decided it should be called cheating and that it is wrong?? If i normally shop at Tesco, then decide to go to Big C one day, am i cheating on Tesco's, am i doing something wrong???

No Big C in the UK BB.

Ahhhh, that's why my cheating never gets past the imagination stage.

**12Call** · 05-08-2010, 08:59 PM

You are from Michael Owen country , his last lacky topped himself because Owen tried to shaft him on the final price ?

**tsicar** · 05-08-2010, 10:47 PM

Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog

Because women get, old, ugly & frigid?

prezacterly!

if a man cheats, it is probably his wife's fault.
i she kept the guy happy at home, he would have no need to cheat.

**Ice Maiden** · 06-08-2010, 03:51 AM

Originally Posted by Dug

Why do women cheats?

Exactly. It isnt just guys, women are just as bad! Men are usually stupid and cant lie very well so they are caught out. Women on the other hand are excellent liars.

**smeden** · 06-08-2010, 05:59 AM

if it is there and you se it if you can than you just grab it thats is a mans nature

**robuzo** · 06-08-2010, 06:32 AM

Cheating? Who wrote the rulebook?

**misskit** · 06-08-2010, 08:11 AM

I agree with Ice Maiden on this one. It is not only women's ability to lie better. Women are better at keeping an affair a secret. Men are prone to let their friends know, whereas women will tell NO ONE.

**Jesus Jones** · 06-08-2010, 08:16 AM

Men cheat because they think they can and often do without reason. Women cheat usually because the man isn't good enough in many ways.

**crazy dog** · 06-08-2010, 08:44 AM

Originally Posted by HollyGoodhead

Pointless question really...

I think what pisses people off is the sneakiness, lack of respect and betrayal. Why not just make your intentions clear from the start? Don't commit if you know you can't...or if you think you're going to cheat tell your partner so that they can decide if they wanna be in that kind of relationship or not. That goes for men and women.

Good reply, I see nobody has mentioned the hurt this cowardly and selfish sort of behavior often causes, usually to women the culprits are meant to 'love'. We have not seen a full list of excuses, most often the other half gets the blame for not keeping the guy happy, whats wrong with having the guts to tell her first?

**crazy dog** · 06-08-2010, 08:46 AM

Originally Posted by the dogcatcher

Because it's fun.
Always like unwrapping something fresh.

Not much fun for the mrs when she finds out, or if you unwrap some nasty STD then take that home.

**bobo746** · 06-08-2010, 09:35 AM

Because my dick told me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

**FlyFree** · 06-08-2010, 09:44 AM

Originally Posted by Perota

It's an intriguing finding, since it would suggest – as spectators of the unedifying dalliances of Ashley Cole, Tiger Woods et al have long suspected – that men who cheat are not simply motivated by their mistresses' superior allure. Overwhelmingly, says de Burca, they are looking for compensation.

Bullshit.

Originally Posted by robuzo

Cheating? Who wrote the rulebook?

Ahh, we are moving closer to the truth.

Originally Posted by bobo746

Because my dick told me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ta-Da!!!

Another one of life's 'mysteries', created by a fucked-up society trying to impose unrealistic values, solved.

Doesn't mean I think men who lie and cheat are men. There are other ways to be true to your nature.

**kmart** · 06-08-2010, 09:55 AM

Why do men cheat?

Similarly: Why do dogs lick their own balls?

Because they can.

Next.

**misskit** · 06-08-2010, 10:46 AM

Originally Posted by robuzo

Cheating? Who wrote the rulebook?

Probably some old geezer with power who wanted to keep the young men away from the hot woman he liked.

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